#ask blaine

[talktoblaineanderson]

Rachel just told me Jesse is okay with everything (who would have ever thought that would happen). What do you say we make an appointment?

I don’t think I’ve even recovered from the fact Rachel actually wants to do this. I mean, it makes sense given what happened with her Dads but it’s such a huge deal. For all of us. Especially Jesse. They’re putting their own plans on hold for us.

I’m blown away. And humbled and - any number of other things, too. We’re never going to be able to accuse Rach of being selfish again. Absolutely. Let’s do this. You and I are going to be daddies, Kurt Anderson-Hummel.

[talktoblaineanderson]

Rachel wants to have dinner with us this week to talk about something "of utmost importance." She said Tuesday, but I told her maybe tonight? I figured we could use some Valentine's pampering on Tuesday. Knowing Rachel she probably decided to dye her hair blonde and needs us to help her fix it.

That does sound vaguely ominous. The last time she called saying it was that sort of emergency she needed me to clarify what I thought the meaning behind her horoscope that week was since she had an audition and didn’t want to take any chances with the universe ‘impeding her talent’.

I hope there’s nothing going on with her and Jesse. I have plans to lavish outrageous levels of romance on you come Tuesday.

[talktoblaineanderson]

Do you have a preference on a boy or a girl?

Not in the slightest!

Kurt and I want a happy, healthy baby but we’re not set on whether that comes as a little gentleman or a little lady. Who knows, Anon. Perhaps down the line we’ll be able to claim the title of proud fathers to one of each.

[talktoblaineanderson]

Blaine, I am sorry your appointment with the adoption agency didn't go as you and Kurt had hoped it would. Don't be discouraged -- you two are going to make the most wonderful Dads! Stay positive and don't give up -- my fingers are crossed for you! Can't wait to meet your little Anderson-Hummel bundle of joy -- it's going to happen!

Oh, thank you. That’s really sweet of you to say. I can’t deny that it was sort of a blow to us that things didn’t really go the way we’d hoped but - I think Kurt and I are both realistic enough walking into this whole scenario that we understand it’s never going to be as simple as just presenting our credentials and assuming that’s enough.

There’s just so many kids out there that need homes, I suppose we’d hoped the fact we’re in a loving, committed relationship would speak volumes. Sometimes, these things just don’t work out that way. But we’re definitely not giving up, don’t worry. There’s a few other possibilities we’d previously considered that we’re following up, too.

It’s going to happen. I’m confident when we find the right situation and the right person - we’ll know.

[talktoblaineanderson]

How do you get out of friendship group you are unhappy in? I love everyone in the group but right now the group just feels like a cage. I've lost my recent and good friends and I have felt uninspired and tired for long and everytime I manahe to distand myself a bit from my now-group I feel happier and more free. Most of the time I just don't have energy for that, distancing myself takes work and I always feel really guilty.

I think maybe the best way to approach it is to think less about it being you trying to escape from your current circle of friends and more about expanding and exploring new horizons. We all find ourselves craving new experiences and seeking out challenges as we grow up, that’s totally natural.

Of course you want to explore what’s out there and find people and experiences that help you embrace and foster that. Maybe it’s a combination of outgrowing what interests held you together with your current friends and searching for acceptance and where you ‘fit’, in the wider world. There’s nothing wrong with that, I think it’s pretty healthy to try new things and, sometimes, new people, too.

There’s no rule that says you can only be friends with a set number of people in your life. If some new faces or even just a little time to yourself is what is going to make you happy in the long run, I say go for it. At the end of the day, it’s your life and you have every right to decide who does and doesn’t fit into it.

Interests shift, people evolve and change, sometimes together, sometimes apart. 

[talktoblaineanderson]

Have you ever spanked kurt on the ass

Is this in relation to some sort of kink? I mean, hey, Kurt and I are all for exploration and embracing whatever makes you happy and we definitely aren’t judging if that’s your thing but - I think it’s probably for the best if we don’t delve into what ours may or may not be.

(For the record though, no, I haven’t spanked my husband).

[talktoblaineanderson]

Happy Thanksgiving, Blaine! I'm so excited for Kurt -- he absolutely deserves this chance. Love you two!

A very slightly belated Happy Thanksgiving to you, too! My apologies I’m getting to answering this so late but I couldn’t agree with you more. I’m ridiculously proud of my husband and beyond thrilled that the rest of the world is getting a chance to see just how brightly he can shine up there.

If there aren’t standing O’s, you can bet this guy is going to start one. I hope everyone out there had a happy and safe holiday!

[talktoblaineanderson]

When do you think is the right time to break up? I've been unhappy and obsessing for a long time over my relationship. We had a break and I thought she wouldn't want to continue, but she did. I'd hate to just start talking about my issues again, but I don't feel loved or cared for, just like a fool. But I want to make it work so badly, and if she gave me like any sign at all I would probably stay but I don't know if I can anymore, not like this.

I think you may already know the answer to that, Anon. It sounds as if you’re hoping that I can provide an insight that’ll somehow change everything you’re feeling but in all honesty - I can’t. What I can offer is the reminder that relationships are never simple. Even the ones that might seem, from the outside, as if they’re picture perfect. I promise, everyone, no matter how long or devoted they are to their partner faces times where they and their relationship is put to the test.

Sometimes, life gets complicated and it’s not always anyone’s fault that it does but sometimes - you do grow apart from people. Sometimes, after you take a break, like you guys did, you come back as different people, for better or worse for your relationship.

Maybe there’s something there that’s worth fighting for, I really couldn’t tell you whether that’s true or not but if you’re deeply unhappy, I definitely think that’s a sign it’s time to be honest - with yourself and your lady.

Keep your chin up, okay?