Ask Roundup #2
Nope. I don't have any recent asks, but I do have over 100 in my inbox that haven't been deleted yet. I said in this (x) post that I wanted to revisit some of my old analyses and clear some things up, and some of the asks in my box relate to things that I've said before. I'm not going to be answering them individually because I don't wanna overwhelm my followers' notification (if anyone gets notified when I post) and clog your dash.
So, anyway, I'm taking the opportunity to go back to some things I've said before. I'm also heavily paraphrasing (especially for many asks that are related) because these are so old. The people who sent them may or may not be hanging around my blog anymore, but I don't want anyone to feel called out (even though that's not my intention, and not what this is going to be about - I'm going for light and soft-hearted here). But I've had people be offended when I've answered asks in certain ways, and since these are so old, I don't wanna do that.
Anyway. Roundup below the cut.
a few asks were along these lines:
I really like your posts! I like how your answers and analyses are well thought out, and I appreciate how you don't "read too much" into things. You appreciate all the members and value their friendships, and I just wanna say that makes me happy. BTS really cheers me up and they help me through tough times.
I started with this topic because my earliest ask in my box actually pertained to this, but I also wanted to thank everyone who sent something like this in. As I was reading over my analyses, I can see where certain people may have taken what I said out of context. I still believe that I was clear and thorough in a lot of my own responses, but I also understand that a lot of people are going to pick and choose what they want to see.
As this is a Vmin blog, I've focused a lot on Vmin. I've stated in the past that I can see the potential of something romantic going on between them (and that hasn't really changed), but that was never my point. I don't like Vmin because I think they are a couple or would make a cute couple. I like Vmin because of their friendship and their vibe. At one point in this blog (an among the fandom in general), we could just talk about that. But, my, how this family has grown. As BTS skyrocketed to popularity, a lot more people are here to take things out of context. And that's just what they'll do. My main focus on this blog was supposed to be Vmin's friendship (with the occasional fun theory that there might be something else going on because I like to play and let my imagination go...I'm human...I don't wanna be all logical and serious all the time. I wanna have fun. but it's supposed to be harmless, and I wanted it to be perceived by people who could take it lightly. Unfortunately, I can't control who sees my content), but people kept coming here asking me to validate their shipping beliefs. And sometimes going so far as to demand that I debunk j/k shipping theories, even though I don't even care about that. If you know me at all, you know I'm more interested in Hope/Kook, so while j/k is freaking adorable to me, it's never interfered with me enjoying vmin. And too many people kept trying to ruin that for me.
Anyway, to those of you who sent asks like these in, I am sincerely thankful. Because it really goes to show that are people out there who can read what you are trying to say and understand your intent. At least, I truly want to believe that's what these asks meant. That you all understood that I wasn't trying to "prove" anything and just trying to enjoy my blog about vmin and their friendship. It's possible these asks were sent with the intent to thank me for confirming shipping thoughts, but I need to believe that you all just really understood me. So that's the meaning I'm going to choose for these.
Someone said:
Hobi is the cutest
Another said:
Hobi really is the cutest
And another:
But really HOBI IS THE CUTEST
To which I say, yes. Yes, he really is. There is so much Hobi love in my inbox, guys. I'm not even joking. I kept them around for a while because they'd make me smile every time I read through my asks. So thank you all who sent in adorable Hobi asks.
Sometimes people complained:
You always refer to Vmin's friendship, and that gets tiring. Can there be one vmin blogger that doesn't say they're "friends?"
When I'm just posting theories and trying to have fun, yes, I agree. It's exhausting to have to disclaim and point out that I'm aware of their friendship all the time. Sometimes I just wanna go off with a fun little theory and have likeminded people read it, smile, and go about their day. By likeminded people, I mean people who understand that it's a theory. That's all. It's not something I believe. It's not something I'm trying to push onto other people. I'm just having fun and allowing my thoughts to pour out with people who want to read it all in good fun. So yes, in these terms, it'd be nice not to have remind people all the time that my theories on the idea that Vmin could possibly have an intimate relationship together is not me saying that I believe they are anything "more" than friends. I would love to leave out disclaimers and have fun.
That being said, if you want to find a vmin blog to be more concrete in the idea that they are anything "more" than friends (god I hate that term because why is romantic love "more?"), stop. There are bloggers out there who will validate you and post more theories about how they believe Vmin are in a relationship and try to bring up points to prove it (most, if not all, of which can be debunked, mind you). However, these are not the people you need to be following and listening to. It's pretty invasive to try to assume you know everything about someone's personal relationship when you have very limited access to their personal life. I have talked about how limited our view on their lives are, so I'm not going to go into that here.
And finally. Calling someone "friends" or referring to someone as your "best friend" doesn't invalidate the possibility of romance. Many couples refer to each other as their best friend. Relationships founded on friendship are actually the strongest relationship out there. So, the reason I will always refer to Vmin as friends (even in posts talking about romantic potential) is because they are friends and referring to them as such doesn't invalidate any other sort of relationship. It just reinforces the one thing we do know about them. They. Are. Friends.
Someone asked:
Can we talk about ji/hope though???
Um, absolutely! Any BTS ship is fair game on this blog. Honestly, if I really wanted to, I could talk about the potential romance between them all. However, the focus on this blog is friendship (and possible romantic vmin or hope/kook and obviously romantic taegi lolololol okno when I wanna play). And all Hobi ships are especially welcome here. Hobi anything (nice) really!
So let's talk about jihope. I don't know many (if any) Jihope shippers, so I can't say anything about their fans. However, this ship is so incredibly precious to me. With Hobi and JM being two of the best dancers in the group, it's no surprise that they'd be relatively close and have special and cute moments all the time.
I think Hobi has this sort of personality where he can joke with the members and tease them, but he feels bad if it goes too far or if one of the members seems upset about it. And I feel like this side of him really shows around JM, as he's always supporting him and giving him complements.
JM is really supportive of all of his members. I mean, really. Anyone who calls themselves BTS's biggest fan clearly hasn't been paying attention. BTS is their own biggest fan, and JM is the biggest fan of them all. I think he's Hobi's biggest fan, too. When it comes to the best dancer in BTS, the fans can argue about it all day. Ask JM, and he'll say it's Hobi. After all, Hobi is literally their dance captain.
That being said, I think it's funny because Hobi and JM can sometimes seem to be the sweetest members of the group, but they both have their moments. I love it when the members talk about receiving dance instruction from them. Hobi can be mean sometimes, but Jimin is said to be really nice about it. I think that actually could stem from Hobi being in charge of dance, so he feels responsible, and that could possibly give him stress when trying to help the members. But it's just a funny little difference between the two.
As far as talking about Jihope in general, I think this will do for now. I may bring up topics about them later. We'll see.
someone asked:
3 movie recommendations? favorite thing you've written? the sun, the moon, or the stars?
This was someone wanting to participate in a soft ask thing I reblogged a while back. I guess I missed this. Don't know if this person is still around here, but I'll answer it anyway.
Movies: First of all, Wish You on Netflix. It's pretty a pretty appropriate recommendation coming from this blog. Not only is it a Korean movie, but it's also about two boys who work in the music industry and how they fall in love with each other. I honestly didn't have very high hopes when I started watching this movie, and I was pleasantly impressed with the overall outcome. You can feel the awkwardness between the two characters as they try to come to terms with their feelings, but it doesn't highlight the "oh this is weird...he's a boy....he shouldn't be making me feel this way" the way a lot of LGBT+ movies (especially Asian ones) tend to do. The two boys sing a romantic song together, and it's not highlighted in a way that it's "a romantic song and two boys are singing it together", and I absolutely love that. The other characters are also such big supporters of them, and the entire movie is just done really well. Watch it. Please. This is how gay movies should be made. (I'm not saying slipping in realistic problems that gay people face isn't acceptable, but sometimes we just wanna watch a movie that shows us what it would be like to live in a world where we can just exist. And sometimes, dragging attention to the character's identity too much makes it feel like being a gay movie is the selling point rather than just being a romantic movie with a nice tale. Like...DoNt FoRgEt ThIs ChArAcTeR iS gAy!!!11!!!1!! ThAtS wHy YoUrE wAtChInG tHiS!!!1!!)
I won't ramble with my next two recommendations: Abbey Grace and Tom & Huck. These are probably the two most random recommendations, but I really have a wide range of interests, and I feel like these two movies are as different as can be. Especially with the first recommendations. Do be warned, Abbey Grace is a horror film, so if that's not your cup of tea, don't watch it. I'm not a big horror film either, but this one was really well made for a horror movie. Tom & Huck is based on The Adventures of Tom Sawyer by Mark Twain. The movie is quite a bit different than the book, and you have to keep in mind that it's an old movie. Like...as old as vmin old movie. But it's enjoyable, nonetheless.
Also, these aren't my favorite movies, but they are all moves I've enjoyed a lot. So maybe you can learn a little about me, too, if you watch them. lol
Favorite thing I've written: Coffee Love. It was my first major BTS fan fiction that I worked on with a couple of friends. It went on for a long time, but I'm no longer making updates to it. I've considered doing a revamp, but we'll see.
Sun, moon, or stars? I cannot even look at the sun. It blinds me when I'm trying to drive, and I cannot drive on extra sunny days because I can't see anything. I am extremely sensitive to light, so not a fan of the sun. I also love the night view, so I obviously prefer the moon and stars over Our Star. If I had to choose between them, the moon. Because there's only one, and most of the light provided at night actually comes from the moon shining the sun's light back on us. If you are ever out in the country or wilderness, you'll notice that's why nights where there's a full moon are brighter than new moons.
And now I think we've discovered that I absolutely cannot answer a question without rambling. But how boring would it be if I just said "the moon"? You don't learn anything about me that way.
someone asked
do you watch BL anime?
I have tried to get into a couple of BL anime (I have watch GL(?) anime, too, which tends to be more well done in my opinion), but I can't really get into a lot of them.
Most BL anime that I have seen glorifies SH and SA to a level that I'm uncomfortable with. It's always one character strongly pursuing, to the point of forcing himself onto the other character. It's harassment, abusive, and I do not approve. If it was a male character pursuing a female character in this way, people would see the issue. But since it's gay, it's hot or not that serious.
If you can recommend me some with a genuinely nice story line, I might appreciate it more. But as a general rule, I steer clear of BL anime.
people asked:
about bed sharing / car sharing?
I think there was a point in time where I got a lot of asks in regard to car sharing, and I mentioned how I don't think it means anything. A lot of the times, the members don't even get to choose which car they go into. I honestly don't think they get that much freedom in general. Even when they go into certain cars on shows like BV or ITS or anything, I think it's sometimes predetermined who they get to share a car with. It's very baseless to say that this amounts to anything.
As for bed sharing, the only time I think bed sharing is significant is when they get to choose the beds they use. I've pointed out the time in BV where JM decided to go with the room TH wanted instead of taking the room he wanted because he wanted to share a room with TH.
That being said, I am not saying this is significant in terms of proving anything romantic. All the members share beds. All the time. They share beds with different members. JM's shared with YG and JK and JH and probably all of them at some point. And the same with TH. When I classify it as a significant moment between Vmin, I'm just saying that it goes to show that they often choose each other when given the choice. Which proves that they genuinely want to spend time together. Not that them sharing a bed (even by choice or even off camera like that time TH revealed that he asked JM to sleep with him) means anything romantic.
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Now I've spent my entire morning get all this typed up. It's too cold here, and I can't do anything today. So what else was I going to do?
If any of you actually read all of this, I'm sorry. I will never learn to be brief.











