What are these tactics that make people stay in your life and focus on you instead of others? If you're comfortable sharing?
My most complicated but effective tactic is to create a conflict going on within your life that isn't real or dramatizing one that you don't really care about. Like you're mourning for the loss of a relative or friend, struggling with an addiction that brings you harm, or honestly anything you can use to make yourself seem vulnerable. Afterwards, you tell your desired person only snippets of this story (to avoid the accusation of traumadumping) and either request their support, or allow them to offer it (assuming they're an empathetic person). Make sure you thank them and make your gratitude seem genuine as you take advantage of this support they have now promised to give you. It'd also make sense to make up a line triggers to throw in any scenario as a precaution. (I.e, say you and your desired person are in a situation where their attention is being drawn away from you. Gently tell them you are feeling triggered/reminded of something occurring within your made-up conflict in order to get them focused back on you.) But overall, don't make it obvious that you are lying. Keep the story simple and easy to retell as well as believable events that follow afterwards to keep it flowing. Other ways are as simple as the following; - Telling them that their kindness is being taken advantage of by the people that often engage with them. - Telling them that their friends make you feel unwanted and alienated. - Plan copious amounts of activities to get more time with them. - Kidnap them and give them Stockholm Syndrome lol If I can think of more tactics maybe I'll make a second part, unless elaboration is required on my alternatives.