#assignation

[fashioninpaper]

[howifeltabouthim]

And if I don't see you there, where am I to see you?

Anthony Trollope, from Can You Forgive Her?

[girl4music]

Just in case it’s not obvious to cishets

Heterosexuality is a sexuality

Cisgender is a gender

It’s literally in the name

HeteroSEXUALITY

CisGENDER

Stop with the vague talk. You’re not fooling anyone.

[evilhorse]

So again, maybe it’s me, but this seems like Hawkwoman’s looking for some super action.

[americaneldritch]

A coloring of The Love Note by Konstantin Somov, for his 1907 erotic Rococo novel, Das Lesebuch der Marquise (The Reader of the Marquis), written with Franz Blei. 

[girl4music]

Well, a baby isn’t born into a sexuality or gender in the first place. They’re assigned one that they’re expected to just accept is what and who they are. Conditioning them to see themselves a certain way whether they are that way or not. So what’s the difference?

You’re right, there is no child in the world that is explicitly any of these identity labels… So then they shouldn’t be assigned one right from birth in the first place. How about we don’t gender the baby as soon as it comes out of the womb regardless what genitalia they have? Maybe then they might not feel the need the change their gender. Because they won’t have one to “change” in the first place.

These restrictive and limited identity labels of gender/sexuality are the issue. Your claim is that a 5 year old doesn’t explicitly identify by any. You’re right. But they are ASSIGNED to one before they even take a breath.

The answer is to abolish gender and sexuality identity labels altogether. Get rid of the notion that such concepts as “gender” and “sexuality” exist. And that does include HETEROSEXUAL and CISGENDER because those are identity labels too. And let people identify and declare whatever gender or sexuality they feel like they are instead!

[girl4music]

Adding on to what I said here: https://girl4music.tumblr.com/post/680682369927217153/well-a-baby-isnt-born-into-a-sexuality-or-gender

Girl4Music

Well, a baby isn’t born into a sexuality or gender in the first place. They’re assigned one that they’re expected to just accept is what and

It’s a radical way of thinking…. But I genuinely think this whole “gender” and “sexuality” argument is pointless when none of the identity labels exist to begin with. We make them up! There is sex. There is body genetalia. There is DNA. There is chromosomes. All this exists. All well and good so far. But whoever in the hell said any of this had to be “male” or “female”? Whoever in the hell said any of this had to be “heterosexual” or “homosexual”? Where did this restrictive and limiting binary assignation come from?

I don’t have a problem with the gender I was assigned with at birth. I’ve been very comfortable with it all throughout my life. But the point is I was ASSIGNED it. I never identified and declared myself for myself. Now there’s people in the world that are uncomfortable with the gender they were assigned with at birth. Namely transgender and non-binary people. And, yes, sometimes as young as 5 years old. And the moment they identify and declare themselves differently from that assignation… they’re told they’re “wrong” or “stupid” or “crazy”. If they were never assigned any gender in the first place, this wouldn’t be an issue. Yes, they’d still feel uncomfortable in their body but that body wouldn’t be defined as either “male” or “female” because there would be no such distinction between them. So then they would have the opportunity to identify and declare what they FEEL they identify as. Who they FEEL they are. And the uncomfortableness they FEEL in their body would slowly ebb away. Telling somebody they are what they are when they don’t FEEL like they are is the issue here. And that assigning or that telling happens RIGHT FROM BIRTH! From the moment you’re born.

Let’s analyze the term “ASSIGN”.

To assign something to someone means that it is not THEIRS already. They are given it to take on. They are expected to assume it. Like a post of duty in rank.

All children have assignations of gender and sexuality already. They may not have been talking about it or understanding it but they have it. It is already something they’re conditioned to believe they are by the company they have around them. By their society. So maybe talking about gender and sexuality and helping the child to understand what and who they are is exactly what needs to be done as early as possible so they can identify it in themselves first. Maybe they do need to know and understand why they are already a “man” or “woman”. Maybe I did need to know and understand why I am a “woman”. Maybe I needed the right and agency to identify and declare that for myself before it was assigned to me. I’m fairly sure I never would have identified as any other gender because like I said: I’m very comfortable being a “woman”. But it would have been nice for me to figure that out for myself before I was told it. Before I was allocated a post of duty based on the appearance of my sex! I firmly believe identity is bullshit and not necessary for human interrelations. But if I HAVE to have one… if society will not let me navigate in my human experience without one… so be it, I’ll have one. But it should and it will be one I create for myself. Nobody else! And everybody should have that right and that agency to do the very same.