#asterbird

[femmeventi]

just saw an “waiting for endos to stop ignoring dnis” with “pluralpunk” in the tags. my brother in christ you are in their tag?????? have you ever considered using your own???

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[femmeventi]

we just had. the weirdest debate ever? on a video about someone being frustrated with lesbian exclusionists and queer exclusionists as a whole we commented that the lesboy hate was getting out of hand, and that it was upsetting to see, especially during pride month.

someone replied and said “i would love to but 9 times out of 10 it’s used to be homophobic to lesbians.”

i replied with “then block and move on? people don't need to make a big fuss over something that doesn't matter. i'm frustrated about it as a butch lesbian who just wants their label to be respected and accepted.”

they replied with “we should address the problem of homophobia with men pretending to be lesbians tho. butches are fine but when you're a full on man saying you're wlw, you really shouldn't be using "reclaimed" slurs”

imo this is already where it went off the rails. i said “i want to be accepted” and they replied with “but what about men” which was Not relevant. to this comment what so ever .

the debate continued with me replying to them with “i know this is controversial, but if a man genuinely feels and believes that he is a lesbian, he is one. sexuality and gender are fluid, and people are going to identify in a way you deem “wrong”.”

this person replied to that with “so a woman can identify as a gay man? or is it only “labels are flexible” when it comes to women’s labels?”

i replied with “no of course she can? the label turigirl exists for a reason? anyone can identify however they’d like to. that’s the point of what i just said”

personally. i don’t think it’s too crazy or ridiculous to say that. people are free to identify how they want, and rigid gender or sexuality “rules” isn’t going to change that.

their response to this is “woah omg you did not just say that. that’s so disrespectful to the victims of the aids crisis and ongoing victims of homophobia”

which. genuinely what. i have no idea how you would ever get to that conclusion.

i asked where that curveball came from, and they said “from your homophobia. it is a complete disregard of individuals who have been socially ostracized for their identities to say anyone can use any label no matter how they actually identify”

which is genuinely kind of crazy to me. because in my opinion and the opinion of a lot of my friends, my view on labels is completely understandable and reasonable?

in response, i said “you seem to be disregarding my own personal experience with homophobia. anyone can use whatever label they want, because that is how free will works. it's not homophobic to say that at all?” which, because of my experiences with homophobia (i have been hospitalized several times due to queer/trans violence) is a reasonable thing to say.

they send back “how would i know your personal experience first of all? and second of all it is homophobic to say that men can be wlw and women can be mlm when lesbians and gay men fought so hard during the aids crisis to not be seen as monsters.”

although i’m not quite sure how that is totally relevant, i think you’re making people who don’t identify the way you think they should as monsters, or “wrong”, which if i’m being honest sounds a bit like homophobia to me.

i then ask about listening their perspective in dms, to see if they’d let me try to understand why they think oppressive boxes have something to do with how you’re supposed to identify, but they said that “i have made my perspective very clear and backed it with research, like requested. if you are not able to understand this complex issue, that is your responsibility and not mine to educate yourself.”

which if i had to ask for a more detailed explanation, i don’t think they made it very clear, but i suppose we all can’t care about queer people.

i’m not sure how mentioning the aids crisis is the same thing as doing research against my point, but again, i don’t think they were very clear at explaining anything.

anyway, i’m posting this here to break the echo chamber of my friends all completely agreeing with me, to see if maybe i was just missing something or whatever

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[femmeventi]

how anti endos look to me. you can’t tell me that they don’t find joy in making people feel terrible for existing

[femmeventi]

thinking about the anti endo who told one of my headmates on his own blog to “get out of anti endo tags” after tagging his post appropriately, because it was about anti endos

[femmeventi]

hi, i’m aster, the host of this system! i’ll be doing a lot of the talking/interacting around here, alongside my cohosts, toby and sal.

i’m a lesbian, i use ven/they pronouns, and i’m butch.

my favourite colours are green, pink, and purple, and my favourite animals are cats, birds and horses. i like to sew, sing, and paint.

within our voheit or “host” trio, i hold the triforce of courage.

a few of my favourite things are being out on water or deep in forests (with bug spray). i live on a farm, i’ve raised and worked with animals my whole life, and i work a full time labour job.

my personal tag is going to be “asterbird” as birds hold a lot of meaning to me, and aster is my name, after all.

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[femmeventi]

System ask meme!!

🎉 what's your system's favorite holiday?

You can answer for the collective or individually if you like! And if you can't remember/can't ask someone rn that's ok^^

- ☀️ Solly ☀️ (she/xe/thon/+)

GAAHGHHH thank you so much i’ve been WAITING!!!! for someone to ask us one of these i’ve been going crazy 😭😭😭

our system’s favourite holiday is probably either halloween or christmas! the family all getting together and celebrating and the food……. Yum. but also halloween, because we get to cosplay and dress up as ourselves without shame!!

my (aster) own personal holiday would have to be easter, honestly. i’m not religious but surprise long weekends are always a treat!

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[femmeventi]

being a system is so weird. sometimes you suddenly come to in the middle of a stardew valley coop with our partner

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[femmeventi]

10, 12, n 14 from the plural ask game! :D

thank you for the ask !!!!!!!

10: (What's your headspace like?) our headspace is pretty cool!!! it’s largely a sunny black void, with a slendermansion esque apartment like house thing with just. a Circle of lawn surrounding it!!!

12: (Random quote from a headmate, go!) “you can’t be a firefighter, that’s going to mark the start of your twink death!” - toby

14: (What gives you euphoria about being plural?) interacting with other people as ourselves! online or in person, being seen as our own, separate people is what gives us the most euphoria