How people think having high empathy works: “From seeing the slightest twitch of your facial muscles, I can infer your entire childhood trauma history! Everyone loves to confide in me and I’d make an amazing therapist!”
How high empathy actually works: “I can’t throw away this piece of trash because what if it’s sad”
A few hours ago, a mutual DM’d me this. They’d been mutuals w/ me for a year and their screenshot looked legit so I trusted them at first. Luckily, I noticed that the messages from the Discord “support person” seemed sus, and didn’t give my information. But still, if you get this, even from a long-term mutual, don’t follow it! IT’S A SCAM
I have talked abt before how low empathy often gets demonized but also we need to stop Romanticizing hyper empathy. Hyperempathy isn’t fun or quirky it’s disabling. If you’re not disabled or in some way harmed (for lack of a better word) by having a lot of empathy you’re not hyperempathetic. I would consider myself hyper empathetic and it sucks. I have huge trouble accepting gifts because all I can think of is the other people in the world who also deserve them but can’t get them. I feel bad for random inanimate objects, even though I know it’s irrational. The guilt is constant. Hyperempathy doesn’t help me, and I wish I didn’t have it