#authentic femininity

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Normalise glam looks with natural hair

09.12

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The Quiet Power of Vulnerability: Why Being Soft is the New Strong

We live in a world that rewards toughness. We’re taught to armor up, smile through the pain, hustle harder, and keep our emotions in check. For women especially, there’s a subtle pressure to be “strong” in a way that often means suppressing softness, hiding our hearts, and never showing the cracks. But here’s the truth: real strength isn’t found in the absence of vulnerability—it’s found in the…

The Quiet Power of Vulnerability: Why Being Soft is the New Strong

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Olivia Dunham in FRINGE Season 1 (2008) and Season 5 (2012)

That, right there, is a sci-fi/action heroine publicly owning her emotions as a source of strength, rather than some sort of chromosomal disorder. I’m not sure that’s something I’ve ever seen before this show. See, Olivia may be guarded, but she still feels stuff. She’s efficient without being cruel. She’s driven without being haughty. She’s not a prude, but she isn’t defined by her sexuality, either. For a woman who is never far from a gun and has to deal with impending doom 24-7, she is kind, considerate, and downright nurturing. She is not the Ice Queen. Neither is she “one of the boys.” She’s just a tough, smart woman with a mind-bendingly difficult job. When we see her cry – which we do – it does not make her appear weak. It just makes her look like a person who is having a really bad day.

- Becky Chambers (themarysue.com)

I guess when you get down to it, Olivia is the kind of hero we actually want when we say "strong female characters". Yes, she's a physically and emotionally strong female character, but that's not really what I mean. I mean that Olivia is written for her story in a way that never apologizes for her gender but also never makes it a big deal.

- Deborah Pless (kissmywonderwoman.com)

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POV: going through old photos of yourself and realising how beautiful you were, though you didn’t think so then.

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Gladys Knight

American Singer & Song writer

14.14

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_______Light vs. Dark_______

I guess my dark femininity won this round. And I love it.

I miss Provençal Princess. I still have shadows of my light femininity that I haven't expressed, like my inability to let go and forgive. Not caring and moving on in the pretence of just keeping busy or living life isn't letting go and forgiving. I'll come around to it; I need a lighter first.

But I love the confidence I have in my expression of dark femininity. My raw authenticity, my rudeness and cheek, my sage and my ability to speak and stand up for myself so effortlessly. All without thinking. I get shocked sometimes looking back, and thinking, am I actually that smart or stupid??

Stupidly smart with zero fucks to give, is what.

Dark femininity is not manipulation. Instead it is your erotic wisdom, raw authenticity and pleasure, and the ability to feel almost everything including the ugly. Engaging in manipulation, power games, vengeance, and emotional exploitation and abuse is toxic if not evil and a distorted expression of what dark femininity actually is. Besides, why manipulate when you can use the magnetism of femininity to get what you want. No need to create unnecessary work for yourself.

In the same breath, light femininity isn't projected weakness. It isn't a bad thing to negate for it is authentic grace, peace and unconditional love. Embracing the beauty in all, forgiving, giving and receiving love. Never have I witnessed an expression of love being passive. Surely letting others walk all over you isn't a demonstration of love but rather a lack of love, especially in yourself. Having a lack of boundaries, glossing things over with a smile isn't light femininity, it is passivity. Passivity is what’s disempowering and ‘behind times’. Light femininity is overwhelmingly empowering. It begs for your permission to live, laugh, and love wholeheartedly.

Let's define energies by their healthy expressions.

23.07

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It girl

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