#autistic relationship

[horseusedtheelevator]

If someone asks to call i will make the time. If we don't end up calling i get upset not just because I was looking forward to it, but also because I made time for you. I carved out a time for you and you just cancel like its nothing. Maybe its just my autism but I find that really hurtful. Like all you have to do is text me and say "hey sorry I can't call later but we can call tomorrow" or "Sorry I'm really tired I can't call". Then I wouldn't be upset. But people dont understand that and when I try to explain it people just think im clingy or too sensitive but it doesn't feel like I'm being too sensitive.

[un-fortunate-sloth]

The good thing about dating a fellow autistic person is when one of us is busy and the other is ordering food, don't need to ask each what we want just where because our orders don't change

[katecreatesstuff]

No one:

Not a single goddamn person:

Me: Hey you know the wallpaper in the bathroom?

My bf: Here at the hotel?

Me: Yeah.

Bf: … Yeah?

Me: Did you know the pattern repeats every five inches both horizontally and vertically?

Bf: …No, I did not.

Me: Yeah, if you could check it and confirm my findings, I’d appreciate it.

Bf: Yeah okay. Remind me.

A little bit later:

Bf: Hey sweetheart, earlier when you were in the bathroom a really long time and I asked if you were okay and you said you got lost in thought, is this what happened? You got distracted finding where the pattern repeated?

Me: Yeah.

Bf: Okay then.

[katecreatesstuff]

Native Tongue

It was always there You always said it Not in those words Not how I needed to hear it But in your own tongue

You said it when my hands were cold And you blew on them to warm my fingers You said it when you awoke to my anxiety And rubbed my back to soothe me You said it when you saw me in pain And brought me ice and medicine

It was not “I love you” But that’s really what you meant “How was your day" “I’ve always liked your nose” “There’s always tomorrow” “Do you need a squeeze”

Sometimes you said it in the silence Listening with full attention When I described something Some aspect of a project A new bit of knowledge I’d found Even when you might not really care

It could be loudest in what you didn’t say You never told me to stop talking Or I embarrassed you You never told me I was bad at kissing Or I was terrible in bed You never said I was the problem Or I was hard to love

When I came home and found you Deep in sourdough After my devastating break-up With gluten You went outside in the cold to eat I didn’t ask but you knew

The words I desperately sought May have never come in my native tongue But it’s not like you never said them You said them It just took me a long time to hear

I love you Was what you were saying all along

[sheskindaperfecttryhardboys]

has anyone came up with the concept for audhd4audhd yet

[rheesvandar]

This week my partner and I are pretending we just met even though we've been together 10 years. Super fun and we are learning more about each other and rediscovering why we fell for each other in the first place.

I took them out for dinner and drinks and we had an amazing time!

[proudofyou985]

being autistic and in a relationship where there is a lack of communication is the worst thing ever.

[mildewgrave]

I got overstimulated bc someone near me was driving a forklift and it was loud as fuck and ben came up behind me and covered my ears and kept me close to him and fjenjendjdjndnf