Help Yourself to these Five Life Hacks
Just remember, if these do not resonate with you then they are just not for you. And that’s totally ok!
1) Think before you blast somebody Don’t send an email or leave a message via a DM that you don’t want to read the reply to. I’ve done this far too often in my life. Sent off a hasty message because somebody had made me angry. And didn’t want to read the reply in case it was a hurtful response.
2) Weird can be wonderful The weirdest kids are the most colourful humans both as young people and even more as adults. Do not squash their weirdness. Encourage it. My daughters were huge personalities as youngsters and I tried in vain, thank goodness, to tamper their behaviour to fit in with social norms. Not a good move on my part. I am pleased to say that they kept quite a bit of that weirdness as adults now. They brighten the day.
3) Regularly held events beat one off occasions When we moved to Berlin we randomly organised a dinner party for a few people and encouraged them to bring some friends. We ended up a party of 16 or so. We had so much fun that we held a third Saturday of the month dinner party for a few months in a row. Not only did we have huge fun but we also made some close friends.
4) Tip to figure out the purpose of your life It’s too big a task. You will most likely get discouraged by the enormity of the question. As with all huge projects chop it down into manageable chunks. Tackle a period such as two years at a time. As an example. If you feel you want to serve mankind then go and volunteer somewhere for three years. Can be part-time where you live or join an organisation that sends volunteers overseas. Not enjoying ones work is often a trigger to questioning ones purpose in life. Explore new options. Something exciting could be just around the corner.
5) Avoid reflecting on bad memories First of all your memory is not the most reliable resource you have. Whatever you remember is nowhere close to the reality of the actual experience whether good or bad. You might think that every detail is burnt into your brain. Not so. From the time of the actual happening when you already misread, misinterpreted and mis-remembered the ‘thing’ everything has already changed. Besides this nobody who was there at the time remembers it right either. So why beat yourself or other participants up about it. Here’s an example. Your parents didn’t treat you right? If they are alive you can be certain they don’t think they treated you badly. If they are dead, even more so. What’s the point of nurturing this hurt. None. It just gives you more hurt for no reason at all. Bad move!
What are some life hacks you have learnt?