Alex Lahey, “Awkward Exchange”
Intro to Alex Lahey week
It’s a fun little guitar riff. Super light, really playful.
Then wham.
“Awkward Exchange” soars.
The backing vocals hover and radiate. The guitar zooms and adds a little bit of tension. It’s a simple lyric sheet for sure, but she imbues the basic moment with such drama. Robyn’s “Be Mine!” comes to mind as a peer.
"Awkward Exchange” is a snapshot of finding yourself in front of your ex, when suddenly every dream you’ve ever had of telling them off slips away and you find yourself speechless. And the song is usually so focused, but then there’s its most repeated line: “I need you to go, but I want you to stay.” So much of the song sounds disdainful, but something more sinister lingers. And of course there’s the line that makes the song: “Now you’re outta my bed/Get outta my head!”
Then after its second refrain, it takes it back down before it lifts “I need you to go, but I want you to stay” and it’s “whoa-oh-oh-oh/oh-oh-oh”s skyward, those sorts of wordless lyrics the signature of I Love You Like A Brother.
Some deride this sort of thing, but I find it indelible in the right hands, and Alex Lahey’s are the rightest; whether the non-words are about millennial social anxiety, lack of self-care, or the days bleeding together.
In fact, these sorts of whoa’s eased my own woes back in 2012 when Celebration Rock came out. I Love You Like A Brother was the next album to scratch that sort of itch, although I spent 2017 working full-time at a Barnes & Noble. I’m still floored by Alex Lahey, certainly one of the 2010s’ most unjustly unsung artists, and her capacity to capture millennial anxiety and directionless while still emphasizing the thrill of youth.
“Awkward Exchange” may not be her finest song outright (mighty fierce competition), but it’s the apotheosis of her approach, the instant when the anxiety boils over.
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Howdy, folks. I’m Joey Daniewicz. I’m a 29-year-old Minnesotan who’s spent his mid-twenties stanning this music. I’ll be writing about Alex Lahey’s songs and albums this week. Hope you read and enjoy!
PS: This song is ridiculous live. You haven’t lived until you’ve seen her do it.















