Posted @withregram • @chelsea.macphail I used to be very insecure.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Actually I am still battling my insecurities and finding my way into feeling confident to stand up for myself in a way that honors who I am. Which means without reacting and yelling and being rude in defense. There used to be a lot of that.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I spent years becoming a therapist, working with children and trying to build my confidence with knowledge, hoping it would protect me from making mistakes and make me a good mom whenever that time came.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What I have learned on this journey in motherhood is that I still have so much more to do in the journey of growing myself up into the human I want to be.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I have also learned that when I let go of the facts, the “shoulds”, the drive to be perfect, and the fear of others' opinions - and just be with my daughter, engaging with her and enjoying her for exactly who she is - that I am in that moment being the best mom possible.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I still get sucked into thinking that there is something more I could know, or do, or buy that will offer Taylor the best childhood. And then I breathe, and I remember my favorite new mantra which comes from Gordon Neufeld.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am my child’s best bet. I don’t have to know all of the answers, I just need to be the answer for her.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And reflecting on that, I realize that I feel most empowered as a mother, because I know Taylor, I can read her cues, respond to her needs and step into that caregiving role with love, empathy, respect and confidence.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is safe to trust my intuition. I am her best bet.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And mama, so are you. You are the best mother to your little one. And I hope you can keep that in your heart always.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #babyledsleep #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #responsiveparenting #mindfulmama #letthembelittle #raisingthefuture #reparenting #babysleepconsultant #lifeasamama #toddlermomlife #raisinglittles #raisethemkind #joyfulmamas #simplymamahood #honestmotherhood #anxiousmama #mamastrong #theconsciousparent https://www.instagram.com/p/CDQ7uobH9PT/?igshid=mrm24yg724fp