#reparenting

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Your inner child deserves to be loved even when it feels helpless, weak and not equipped to handle life.

We so often keep perpetuating the same kind of abuse we experienced in our childhood towards the parts of us we deem the weakest, most fragile.

But we can break that pattern.

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Our mothers are NOT children that need rescuing, soothing and coddling.

They are grown women with their own paths and healing journeys that we cannot save them from.

Having healthy boundaries with your mother is a form of self-respect and NOT equivalent to "abandoning" her.

Healing involves finding that balance between compassion for our mothers AND boundaries to protect ourselves.

The bottom line is your inner child needs you more than your mother does, and we have to make the brave, taboo choice of prioritizing ourselves as more important than our mothers.

That's healthy self-development.

If your mother is not on a healing path herself or willing to reflect on her behavior, etc. all you can do is create some measure of distance to protect yourself.

YOU are your priority not her. You get to focus on your own wellbeing without guilt.

Resist the guilt-tripping that comes out of her own emotional immaturity and childhood wounds.

Learning how to validate yourself even when your mother cannot, is a huge milestone on the path of healing the Mother Wound.

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[self-care-club]

It’s not too late to give yourself what you needed when you were younger!

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"my mother" by lea jane

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Fucked Up and Evil that the recovery for Parentification is Reparenting 🚬😐

Ohh so growing up you had to be your Parent’s Parent and you had to forgo your own needs to prioritize your parent’s needs?? Well why don’t you become your Own Parent about it.