ᴄᴏᴅᴇxᴛᴏʙᴇʀ ᴅᴀʏ 15- ɢʀɪᴇꜰ
Headcanon: How the reader helps them cope with their grief.
Characters: Ezio, Haytham, Shay, Bayek, Connor, Basim, M.Eivor, Arno, Jacob
Ezio:
- This man will never keep anything from you, not even his grief.
- Ezio is an emotionally available man, he is able to communicate his emotions (e.i grief) comfortably with you.
- He’d consider his partner a trusted confidant, his safe place.
- He’d be very emotionally transparent with you.
- I think one way Ezio would deal with his grief would be by spending time with you and the family you two have created together (biologically or nonbiological) in the peaceful countryside, living a peaceful and quiet life. He needs normality and peace as he grows older.
- This man would be eternally grateful that he has you to help ease the burden of his grief, he 100% believes you’re love love has saved him from a path of death and destruction in the name of revenge.
- Ezio would repay back your patience and guidance with a lifetime of gratitude (and kisses).
- He knows without you, his grief would most likely have consumed him whole, and he’d be a very different man without you.
- Even Claudia is happy that Ezio has you to comfort him during his darkest moments.
Haytham:
- This man does not know how to process grief like a normal person. He bottles up his emotions until he explodes, he allows his emotions to take over.
- So please look out for his warning signs, before he’s explodes with emotional trauma and ‘accidentally’ kills someone.
- So calm your emotionally, traumatized man down. And make his ass sit back down.
- His partner is probably the only human that can help him regulate his emotions.
- If you notice him becoming silent and broody, show him some loving. He needs to be shown physical and emotional love during those times. He’s touch starved in my opinion. 🤷🏼♀️
- He’d open up to you, and you only. Maybe not willingly, but he’d feel better once he did open up to you about his grief.
- Sometimes he appreciates just being held by you, as he wrangles with his own thoughts and emotions. You are his calm/peace.
- If you see him steering absently out the window? Go give your man a hug from behind, and just hold him. Sometimes he needs to be the one to be held. He is great at distancing himself from the world, and even you at times.
- The guilt often consumes his mind, but his s/o’s reassurance is the best remedy. But he will never go looking for your reassurance, you will have to be the one to give it to him.
- He is stubborn as a young man, and will be very closed over his feelings/grief, but older he becomes, he learns that it’s safe to open up to his s/o.
- And sometimes he’ll just come and hold you if he’s feeling overwhelmed by his grief. He won’t say much, but you both know he needs you to anchor him down in turbulent times.
- So safe to say, physical touch helps him immensely, more than words.
- But every now and then he’ll need to vent his emotions to you, and just having you listen to him, I mean truly listen, makes him feel not so alone. He won’t often vocalize his grief, but when he does he’s a mess of emotions.
- If Haytham didn’t have you to help him regulate his grief and emotions, he’d be much more emotionally unstable. You are essential to him as most trusted confidant, he knows his secrets are safe with you, vice versa.
- Buttttt sometimes his grief can make him snappy, and he can become quite annoying.
- All you gotta do is call him out and he’ll smarten up rather quickly, you’re temper is worse than his. Put that man back in his place every now and then for everyone’s sake or he’ll become a diva and stress y’all out, all because he’s stressed out.
- but also reassuring kisses help too. But you’re man won’t admit that openly.
- I honestly feel like if Haytham was going to open up about his grief, it would have to be when he feels most comfortable around someone (you) and on his own accord. There’s no point in trying to force Haytham to open up, it would only cause an argument, and distance between the two of you. Let this man open up willingly to you, and maybe gently inquire about his feelings and emotions and he’ll become more open and trusting.
- If he doesn’t end up wanting to talk though, just let him know you are there for him. And sometimes that’s enough for him.
- A cup of tea, and a warm fire usually helps cheer his spirits up.
- And of course his s/o’s company. Haytham just wants to be loved deep down. So show that man some lovin when he needs it!!!
- Also I think as his partner, you’d recognize the signs of his own grief before he would.
- But he can read your emotions better than he can read his own tbh.
- So show this man the happier things in life, because we all know he’s not one for enjoyment.
Assassin Shay:
- I think younger Shay would be much more open about his grief/emotions.
- I think he’s an extremely passionate man so when he feels any kind of emotion (such as grief), he’ll wear that shit on his sleeve.
- This boy is like an open book when it comes to being open with his spouse. He has 0 issues coming to you with any problems he may encounter. He doesn’t think twice, he just immediately goes to you with his emotions and feelings (he’d except the same from you).
- There’s no hiding anything between you two, so he’s gonna give you all the details and rundown.
- I think any advice you’d give him, he’d take to heart. He’d appreciate your lil pep talks.
- I alsoooo think he would become a passionate lover during times of grief, to help distract himself, physical love helps more than anything if you catch my drift 🤷🏼♀️
- I do think he could move on from his grief quicker when he was younger vs when he’s older.
- Offering him an excursion away from his work every now and then, would help immensely with his grief. Even if it was just a day exploring the surrounding shorelines or new places in the frontier.
Templar Shay:
- I think he’d be a lot more broodier and quiet in his moments of grief as he ages.
- I also think it’d become way harder for him to open up. So it be more work for you trying to get this broody man to open up.
- I think as his grief grows overtime, so does his callousness towards society.
- But he’d eventually open up with his own s/o. Especially if he wants you to do the same when it comes to your own emotions and thoughts. He knows it works both ways, so he tries hard for you, even though he doesn’t wish to burden you with his “problems” aka grief.
- Honestly he’d probably need a hug and a smooch more than any cheerful advice.
- I think as long as you were okay at the end of the day, he’d be okay too. He’d remind himself that the most important thing in his life is safe. You’d be his happiness.
- I think even drawing him up a warm bath and simply doting on your man would cheer him up. He’s never been shown true, genuine affection.
Connor:
- Do not let this man be by himself when you notice he’s grieving. :(
- I think Connor probably appreciative peace and quiet during these moments, just your company would be more than enough.
- Still the broody silent type :(
- I think he’d keep his grief in until he combusted from it, much like his father.
- So if you notice him becoming overwhelmed, take a moment and let this man feel your arms around him. And don’t let him go. He needs to feel loved sometimes, especially by the most important person in his life, which is you.
- Maybe a day of fishing/hunting, or forging for berries, away from the changing ways of the colonies. Remind him of simpler times.
- I think he’d open up to his spouse, and he’d be very honest about his grief and everything he has experienced.
- You are Connor’s safe spot in his world of trauma and grief.
- I also think he may be like Haytham in the sense that he may turn to anger/violence when he’s upset. So don’t let this man suffer in silence, unless you want him to fight half the colonies with his two fist.
- I think spending time with you and his homestead family would make life a little more bearable for him.
- As he grows older and matures, he becomes more open with you, because he has grown to realize that you can read him like a book and that there is nothing he can keep from you, his loving lil partner.
- I think cooking him a hearty meal would warm his soul. ❤️ Just show him the love he craves and remind him all is well in the world.
Bayek:
- This man is a honest man, so if there’s something bothering him (ex. Grief), and you ask him about it, he’ll be very open and honest about how he’s feeling.
- Very in touch with his emotions.
- Finds comfort in opening up to you about his thoughts and emotions due to grief.
- This poor man has been through hell and back, so it may take time for him to heal from his grief, so do not feel like you can’t help him, he needs to move on from his grief by himself, he can’t burden you with everything in his opinion.
- When he feels overwhelmed by his grief, he may retort to vigilantism, so try and keep him out of too much trouble.
- He also appreciates sitting and reflecting in silence over talking sometimes, your company completes him.
- Distract him with some hunting or stargazing!!!!
- I think if you helped him spread goodness/kindness, it would show him the brighter side in life during these difficult times for him.
- I can see Bayek relying on your touch/comfort during his times of grief.
Mirage Basim:
- This man is completely open about his grief, especially when he’s with you.
- he’ll come to you whenever he feels overcome with his grief.
- Basim depends on you’re comfort and love as a cooping mechanism
- He spends so much time in your arms that it feels like home.
- At nighttime when his nightmares return while dreaming, you best know that man will need your love more than ever before. You’ll feel him holding you more tightly than usual.
- He knows he can be open with you, and I think having you at his side would help with the burdens of his grief.
- I think the times you aren’t around are the times he is comforted/ influenced by Nehal. Which is not ideal.
- “Nehal” might even/ or at lead try to cause a rift between you too
Valhalla Basim:
- The most grumpy, moody man you’ll ever meet when he’s struggling with grief.
- Might become distant and cold when he is grieving.
- Definitely wouldn’t be as open as he may have been in his younger days.
- You’ll need to work hard to get that man to open up to you.
- He might even put up a fight when you try and get him to be honest with you about his grief/emotions.
- But I think he’d be secretly relieved after he opened up to you.
- Won’t admit it but you’re hugs and kisses and a soothing balm for his troubled soul. And sometimes your touch is enough to make him feel like maybe the universe isn’t completely against him.
- I think it be easier for him to open up at night when it was just the two of you in bed together, with you held tightly in his arms. But when he holds you in his arms in complete darkness, is when he becomes vulnerable and may open up to you willingly, but only once in a blue moon. He’s not an open book anymore.
Modern Basim:
- BIGGEST BABY FOR HIS S/O
- You are his partner, and therapist all in one.
- He’s not afraid to be open about his grief, and will gladly come to you when he feels even the slightest sign of grief.
- Would hold you like a teddy bear until he felt better.
- He’d become very romantic and gushy towards you when he’s feeling remorse or guilt. He doesn’t like the feeling and wants to replace it with your love. Your love is all he needs.
- Is glad that he has you by his side, he know you are his greatest asset, and knows you are the reason he’s not completely overcome by grief and regret.
- When he meditates, you are often the peace he thinks of.
M. Eivor:
- I think he’d be the quiet and reserved type, not wanting to bother his partner with his burdens/grief, thinking you’ve already been through enough of your own grief, that you don’t need any more of it.
- But he eventually finds himself smiling secretly when he hears you lecturing him about him keeping his grief locked away from you, his partner, especially when you are there to help lighten the load for him.
- But when you ask, he’ll be completely truthful about his grief. He holds nothing back, and he absolutely pours his soul out to you.
- Tbh just being there emotionally for this man would be enough, but the more support you give, the better.
- Besides what is a good Jarl without a good Jarlskonaz.
Arno:
- Arno can be a difficult man to deal with when he suffers from grief.
- His partner would have to understand that Arno struggles with his greif.
- His s/o would have to deal with his moodiness and even detachment from him.
- You would have to be just as stubborn as he is. Don’t give up on him, he needs you most during these trying times.
- Keep him away from alcohol at all costs. You may even have to pour the bottle out on him (he’ll definitely be pissssed). Eventually I think he’d give up alcohol altogether, especially for you, and the relationship you share.
- It’d also be a full time job keeping him out of trouble at times, especially when Arno’s grief transforms into a desperate need for justice/revenge. And if you arrive too late, and he’s already found trouble, have your man’s back and keep him safe. But hey, you can lecture him the whole time as a form of punishment, a “I told you so” moment.
- But he is glad to have you at the end of the day, no matter how many angry, teary eyed lectures you give him. I think he’d hate to see how his grief/actions are hurting you, and that he can’t do. You are the love of his life, he’s find healthier ways to deal with his grief. You would be the light at the end of the tunnel for him.
- When he would write about his grief, those entry’s would usually end on a positive note, discussing ways you are saving him.
- Late at night, as you are both curled up together he’d whisper about how you had saved him from himself, you gave him reason to live.
- You’d definitely have to encourage him to mentor Leon. He’d be very opposed to the idea, but you know you’re man better than he knows himself, he needs more than just you in his life, he needs a purpose like mentoring.
- I think with your encouragement he’d eventually accept allowing another into his life, aka Leon.
- I believe you and Leon would become his new found family, he might even consider raising a few children of your own together, once he felt like he could let go of all the guilt and grief.
- Basically you are the sunshine that breaks through on his stormy moments of grief, you both create a beautiful rainbow of life/happiness together.
Jacob Frye:
- So I think this man appreciates a person who he could just open up too, just to help him reflect.
- But also I think he needs a partner who can lighten the mood with a lighthearted joke (or cheesy puns). He enjoys a good laugh with his s/o.
- Jacob would appreciate your soft touches, especially when he feels the world is against him. He also appreciates you listening to him when he really needs someone to just listen, and not argue.
- You probably should keep him away from pubs and street fights when he’s grieving . If he could drink and fight his grief away, he would.
- Maybe take time to get out of London, and maybe go visit his home of Crowley, or visit small towns and enjoy the slow life of the countryside.
- Jacob loves when you and your children take the time to cheer him up with hugs and family love when you all notice he’s down.
- Definitely tries to pretend he’s okay though, and will probably try to make a joke out of his feelings.
- Do not let him think that his emotions are invalid, because that man has some serious ptsd, especially after his near death experience with Jack. 😭❤️
- I think at moments he’d just break in your arms, and just let all his emotions out. But that’s the only time he’ll allow himself to be emotionally vulnerable.
- Let’s be honest, Jacob is really just a big ass kid who really needs some love and support.
- He’d probably be sassier than usual when it comes to his grief. Which would get under Evies skin at times. So you would probably have to do some family interventions, and keep Evie from strangling her brother.
- I think yours and Jacob’s family would be his remedy to any grief he feels. He adores begging a father/husband.
- Also maybe bonding over a cup of tea (or ale) with his s/o would be another good way to ease him out of his grief.
- Also, he doesn’t want to burden you with his grief. He tries to be the rock of you’re relationship, the one who you can come to with all you’re problems, not the other way around. But he’d appreciate when you allow him to open up.
- He’d think his grief would be too much for your poor lil shoulders to handle, so it’s his job in his opinion to take all the emotional weight on his shoulders. So you gotta get rid of that way of thinking, encourage him to share with you.
- He would definitely enjoy some train rides through England, showing you all his favourite sights and places. I think he’d enjoy traveling with you in general, whetherher it was England an another country altogether.
- But I think Jacob would honestly need a distraction from his assassin work when grieving, and I think showing him the simpler pleasures in life would help him bounce back eventually.
- I think grief is a very dangerous thing for poor Jacob.
- And I think he’d even avoid you when he doesn’t know how to handle his grief. So you’ll probably have to put your assassin skills to work and hunt him down, he won’t make it easy.
- Grief + Jacob = fight club (stop this man before he fights half of London)
