IDK my orientation/gender anymore. The idea of dating a woman makes me significantly happier than dating a guy, but I could possibly form romantic feelings for a dude? It's happened before, but I've never been sexually interested in guys. Also I don’t connect w guys as well mentally as I do with girls, which makes romantic relationships with guys feel “off”
Part 2: I don't understand my gender, which I've been confused about for years. The nonbinary butch label seems very me. I usually think I'm vaguely woman aligned but very connected to my "masculine" side. Masculine but not a guy. I view myself as a mixture of feminine and masculine, with the amount fluctuating from time to time.
if you’re interested in dating a girl but not interested in dating a boy you’re probably a lesbian. it’s also possible to have had past crushes on boys and still be a lesbian since a lot of times it’s hard to distinguish between genuine attraction and coercive heterosexuality. lots of lesbians think they could like a guy in a romantic way but know they don’t want to have sex with them— usually it’s b/c we might confuse friendship with romance when it comes to boys.
if you really think you would want to pursue relationships with men you’re likely bi! but that’s not really what it sounds like to me seeing as you say you don’t really connect with guys mentally the way you do with girls.
re: gender— i’m cis so as usual correct me if i’m wrong but you could be a nonbinary woman! and women can be masculine or feminine or neither or both, as long as you identify as a woman or are woman-aligned you can still be a lesbian or sapphic. feeling masculine from time to time doesn’t exclude you from that, especially since you say you’re not a guy.