I think that there are a great number of people of my generation that are "lost" as it were. There is this need or desire to find our "career" or "calling: when we aren't even fully developed and then stick with it pretty much until we die. Who wouldn't feel lost facing that reality? Of course there are those that have their calling, they pop out of the womb with the knowledge that I AM GOING TO BE AN ASTRONAUT. Which is great for them. And honestly there is a whole hell of a lot more space out there than there is here, so I say go for it, go camp on the moon or in that flying lighthouse space station or whatever. But for most of us, that knowledge is not there. (Either that or that whole idea of space and the space suit and the floating pee and dehydrated food and super terrible motion sickness AND math is not terribly appealing.) For most of us, we find multiple things interesting and enjoyable. For most of us it is the people and the experiences that make it worth while, and not the idea of being trapped in a metal cylinder, or in a cubicle, or in a classroom. Some of us deny that (they are the ones that are hiding) some of us drift from place to place. (I changed my major 3 times....in grad school) what ever category you might be in there really is not a "due north" life path. I think that some of us need to admit that they are hiding that fear, and the rest of us need to relax. Because even though we might not have a clear path, it's better than the paved one leading to misery..or even worse....apathy until death. We need to stop thinking of it as finding our career and being done, but more of finding our next step. Especially with jobs. IT DOESN"T MATTER HOW LONG YOU ARE THERE RETIREMENT ISN'T A THING ANYMORE. You might as well find something that makes you laugh, and when that stops move on to something new, Because you are going to be doing this work thing for a while. (Side note. If you know of a way to get around the work thing, message me) More to my point, people are not only lost or hiding in the workplace, or school or what ever "career" adjacent situation they are in. They are carrying this over to relationships. Which is just great. Let's take the job we hate least, so that we can support the person I've dated the longest and am ok with and then wake up in 20 years with kids that are 12 and making career plans have a breakdown and end up in a hospital with substance abuse problems and wrinkles. Because that is fun. THOSE people are hiding. They don't even know they are hiding. The best thing you can do is show them how not to live that way. I might be lost (as might you be) but I admit it. I do not know what I want to be when I "grow up" and I am ok with that. I do know that I want to be some one that laughs. I want to feel free to wander down my path, and embrace things as they come. I want to laugh when I am work, or when I'm with friends. And I want to surround my self with like minded people, and not really care about the societal expectations being inflicted upon me. And I want to be with some one who can admit that they are lost. Because we all are in our own ways. And trust me that dating a lost person is not fun. More on that tomorrow. (Thanks to Furiously Happy for the help with the shift in mindset)
