Rant warning about sexual identity
Why does everything need a label nowdays?
I dont want to identify as anything for my sexuality because I just dont... connect with/feel like I am just one of the sexualities on the LGBTQ+ list. Yes, if people demand for me to give them a label I give them one, but why the fuck do i need to? Is it because it's not normal to be anything but gay or straight or bisexual or anything already known? (No hate to ppl who are in that list, I see you and I love you.)
At first I thought I was bisexual because I was like yeah I think girls and guys are cute.
Then I thought I was pansexual because I had a crush on a non-binary friend and realized I dont give a shit about what gender my potential partners identify as.
Then I ventured into demisexuality, bi-romantic and asexuality because it seemed to be more "like me." At the time; however, everyone around me convinced me if I was lucky enough to get into a relationship I would have to have sex, and saying right off the bat that it wasnt in the cards would be insulting to my partner. I even heard this from a few friends who were allies and members of LGBTQ+.
So basically I dont identify with a sexuality now, and I'm cool with that... but why do I have to conform to society's ideals about LGBTQ+? Who cares what you are as long as you dont intentionally mean to harm another person based on your own, or their identification. I understand why people identify as they do, I just... dont do it?
Thanks for reading the rant if you did! I'm just fed up with having to placate people who dont exactly know, or are well educated about LGBTQ+ and anything that isnt straight. (I see you straights too and you're still valid!)
I still dont know what I identify as, and it's taken me a long time to figure this out but it doesnt matter. I am who I am and that's enough for me. If someone has a problem with it they can deal with it or ask me questions if they care enough to learn.
Feel free to throw your thoughts into the notes! I'd love to hear what you all think about this.