#big talk

[l1ttle-wolf]

Agere community try not to call the ddlg/adbl community inherently pedophilic challenge despite having extremely similar, intertwined roots and origins, challenge: level IMPOSSIBLE !

[tcifob]

makebigtalk Big Talk with Christen Press of Angel City FC of the National Woman’s Soccer League! ⚽️🪽

“When you lose someone in physical form, you get them in a more infinite form” - Thanks Christen for making Big Talk!

[readerdotcom]

Do you mind posting the photos of your reading from X here? I don't have X and completely missed that you have posted something there about H and C being together today. If that's okay ❤️

hi sweetie! i actually talked about it openly right here on tumblr. over there i only posted a photo of the reading, but i can absolutely post it here too. 🤍

top row (see?) - h feelings toward c

bottom row (yes) - c feelings toward h

their connection

[dreamsof2004]

guys friendly and non-targeted reminder that even though u may feel this way, u absolutely do NOT have to share any personal info on here or any social media about your physical, emotional, or mental health, where u live (even approximately like geographical regions), ur face, or literally any identifiable information or features about yourself. ESPECIALLY for minors. nobody is entitled to your comprehensive list of all personal information and i think recently (ie last 5-8 years or so) there has been a surge in people oversharing very personal info. you are still valid if you dont post about your health issues or include them in your tag/bio! please use discretion with interacting with people on the internet. in agere/cglre communities, adults should pretty much never be talking directly to minors in any closed setting (ie dms, not comments or liking/reblogging) myself and the majority of other adults ik are thoroughly uncomfortable befriending children. no matter how mature you are/seem/act/perceive yourself to be, you are not immune to creepers! this is not meant to be fear mongering or anything it’s just a stern reminder that it’s ok to be secretive. it’s ok to lie about your name, where you live, etc. these are safety practices. be conscientious of who you share personal info with!

[kiras-little-corner]

This is a pinned post

Meeting each little kin

Penny:🌸💌

She/her, toon demon, caretaker tbd, loves pink, drawing,playing games, cuddles, and being with friends

Calix:🥤♦️

Chaotic and a gremlin,puppy like, he/him, is little cuphead, loves his brother and hanging out with people, quick to frustration, it's worrying when he's quiet. Has a mama(two art pieces aren't mine)

Mori:☕♣️

shy and sweet, he/him, calixes brother, kid mugman, loves calm and quiet, very easily sleepy. Loves to read and just exist with people he feels safe around, has a mama

Splatter:✒️⚙️

He/him, little bendy, very sweet and loving, loves fantasy and reading, a quiet one, needs a stuffie constantly,has papa

Ran out of image slots

And I'm kira, aka the big version of these guys. Enjoy the sillyness that these guys give y'all, I'll still post icons for ageressers on my main but my regression stays here :3

[presaly]

BIG TALK!

Okay. It's pretty easy to assume I'm a "Tigger x Rabbit" shipper, which I don't deny. BUT. There's a weird topic of conversation that's been hitting the back of my mind, and I want to get rid of it.

I think the best part of shipping characters is the "dreaming" aspect. You know, dreaming doesn't cost anything. And that's where the fun lies. The problem arises when people actively reject it as if it were a "latent threat" to their lives (unless it's a questionable ship, like one with pedophilic undertones).

Why try to argue against something that makes others HAPPY?

I truly don't understand it. I'm surprised to discover new people every day who don't grasp the basic concept of respect.

This has happened to me over time, where I clearly need to open up honestly to the world to tell you about my "romantic fantasies about fictional characters" tendencies, and you can expect that they haven't always been positive... otherwise I wouldn't be writing this.

So, I'm going to jump straight into my recurring obsession: Winnie the Pooh, or more specifically, his character "Rabbit."

YES. I like the "RabGer" ship, but that doesn't mean I'm going to demand that it... become a reality. At least, that's not my case.

And it seems that the criticism I receive on other social media platforms tends to discourage me, as if the underlying issue were, as I mentioned, the need to make it happen.

Is it so difficult to separate "dreaming" from "demanding"? In these times, where anonymous opinions are powerful on the internet, it seems so to me.

Therefore, I'm going to state my position on the matter.

I RECOGNIZE the impossibility of a ship.

Specifically speaking of "RagBer." If we're talking about Disney, I assume it's unlikely to achieve a romantic interaction between them, because it's highly censored between men (with the goal of being suitable worldwide), and now I see it as even more impossible, seeing that in the latest Winnie the Pooh children's series ("Playdate with Winnie the Pooh"), Rabbit's gender has been changed to female.

If we're talking about the book, or well, some FUTURE adaptation of the book, I dare say that... it's not so impossible... but if someone dares; I'm going to assume it will be very rejected.

Most fans of the original Winnie the Pooh are elderly; nowadays, most are over 60, and considering the conservative thinking of most older North Americans...

Well... You're lucky if they just throw tomatoes at you.

Perhaps it's a very pessimistic view, but I can't help it;

In a world (ours, lol) where "the inclusion of different sexual orientations" is only recently being implemented in works aimed at children, well, there's a long, LONG, LOOOONG way to go to achieve an adaptation of a book that old (I'm talking about Winnie the Pooh) that includes a change in the sexual orientation of one of its characters.

Adding to that... they're stuffed animals, it would be strange... maybe... sorry.

[oldschool-lolita-archive]

Tbh, I think that one can have concerns about privacy separate from active threat. I think it's the right move to not include photos of people known to be underage on the blog just because I think that the data of children and adolescents probably shouldn't circulate in perpetuity without consent. I know the premise of this blog makes it so that consent is always on shaky ground (I assume that not ever photo here is reposted with permission...?), but I think it's at least appropriate to draw a line there and say "I wouldn't want people looking at photos of me when I was 16 forever without my knowledge even if they were doing it with the most innocent of intentions." I think some people only care about the right to privacy of children when there's an active sexual threat against them, but I think that doesn't have to be where caring begins and ends.

I think I understand what you are saying, but do you have an opinion for what you’d like me to do about this on my blog, or is it for the internet in general? It’s a worthwhile conversation but I am trying to keep this blog lolita related.

You are right that not every photo is posted with permission- I wouldn’t even know how to go about doing so, since most sites have been dead 20 years. Every photo I share is publicly available on the internet (I take care not to publish photos that have been shared with me in confidence, or that are from private groups). But the concept of privacy on the internet has changed so much since the early days. Did you know bangya used to distribute handmade business cards with their photo, their website, and their personal home address?? Interestingly, I feel like it is not rare to see people nowadays using their legal name on social media accounts. That would never have happened in the case of lolitas and cosplayers whose names i’ve shared here, so they can’t be linked back to their potentially embarrassing lolita past unless they still go by that name online.

Personally, the guidance that I was taught in an educational context was that children’s faces should be censored when shared with strangers so that they aren’t identifiable. But it is unfortunately perfectly reasonable for my followers to jump towards the worst possible conclusion (those images falling into the hands of predators) because lolitas are often targeted online by pedos and fetish blogs even after clearly stating to not interact. It doesn’t mean that this is the only scenario where they care about privacy, it’s just that an active threat requires active.. action. I think i’ve only been on tumblr for a year so I haven’t seen the worst that this app is capable of and wanted the opinions of more experienced users.

The internet is forever, which is what allows archiving to be possible. It also raises the issue of consent like you mention. I am confident that this blog deals with privacy as respectfully as possible, but if you or anyone else has suggestions I would be glad to hear them.