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This has been us lately, kid. We’re best mates. We have the same sense of humour.  We play stupid games but they amuse us greatly. We can communicate now! We get grouchy at each other. You’re obsessed with me but it’s okay because I’m a little bit obsessed with you too. It’s weird.. you’re not even a baby anymore. You’re a toddler. Also please for the love of Xena, stop pulling all the books off the bookshelves.

Peace. One love.

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MY BOY IS ONE TODAY! Silas, this time last year we were just meeting you. Your mother and I were counting your tiny fingers and toes, cleaning blood off your tiny face and studying your features. We were gently brushing our fingertips over your bruised face and head. You were beaten up from the birth and Cadence was even worse off. In a year we’ve learned how to be your parents. How to keep you alive and happy. It’s an on-the-job kind of learning that nobody can ~really~ prepare you for but we did it. And we rock. The three of us started the day with present unwrapping and cuddles. You followed me around the house as I sleepily made my second attempt at making gluten free pancakes from scratch (that didn’t look scrambled this time).  Then we caught the train to Darling Harbour and took you to the aquarium. A lady on the train with kids of her own asked how old you were and with the goofiest hint of pride, Cadence said “One.. today!”.  You absolutely loved the aquarium. You were giddy and happy the entire time. Waving at the fish and staring in awe at the rays and sharks. Somehow Cadence and I knew you’d be able to take all of it in. You’re the type of baby toddler that needs constant stimulation and your brain greedily soaked everything up. When we got home you had the world’s longest nap while I set up for your cake smash photo shoot. Cadence baked you a cake and after you had woken up we popped you down behind it. You were confused and sleepy but eventually decided to touch the cake. After a brief wave of disgust at the icing on your fingers you finally took a taste. Then it was all hands in.  You didn’t even care about the studio lights in your face. You were a champ.  Happy FIRST Birthday, little dude. I love you madly. 

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MWUAHAHAHAHA! Cec & Cadence - 1 Quincy Bangarang - 0 #babyjail

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Some new (boring) things.

So there was a big shift in my work situation and long-story-short I now work two jobs. 3 days at a print management company as (mostly) a graphic designer but do a lot of finishing too. And then 2 days at my old job, a digital printing agency as print production manager and graphic designer.

It was really sudden and kind of threw a spanner in the works and it was a really stressful situation.

I’m definitely getting the hang of going to two different places now and am enjoying the new job. Especially getting to work with more people in a more artsy/agency style environment. The only thing I miss about working full-time at my other job is how much I move around when I’m working there. I’m constantly on my feet doing something. When I’m not doing design work, it’s pretty physical. So I miss that but that’s about it.

Another thing that changed was my hours. I work an hour later now. So by the time I get home it’s dinner time. Then it’s immediately bath time/cleaning up Si’s mess from dinner while Cadence gets his bath started. Then it’s getting Silas ready for bed time. Then Cadence feeds him in the rocking chair while I chill for like 10 minutes. Then Cadence will put him in his cot and then it’s a two hour battle to get him to sleep. We tag-team him trying to get him down for the night. But he just cries. He stands up and cries and cries and cries no matter what we do. He just does not want to be put to sleep.

Tonight was especially hard. Cadence and I are exhausted.

I’ve also been insanely stressed about my parents’ health. They’re both battling different health issues right now and it’s not fun to watch. There’s nothing I can do for them.

So boohoo I’m having a sook. And I know this is a shitty update after not updating in a while.. and no my life has not just been shit since my last update but it’s just been particularly challenging and I’m learning how to cope with it.

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Well I guess I have a toddler.

An active toddler. Like constantly moving. Like he won’t stop haha like not even when it’s bed time HAHA. LIKE WHY WON’T HE SLEEP HEHEHEHE.

Fuck I need sleep.

Also Silas if you’re reading this in the future - I love you and you bring me so much joy. Just… go to sleep, yeah?

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Christmas was rad. I’m about to do a pic spam. This one’s my favourite.

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Okay, so I’ve finally finished putting together the base of the Queer Families forum. It’s for LGBTQIA+ people who are interested in talking about starting families, their existing families or for people who are not trying to conceive but would like to be a part of the community and a part of discussions. Essentially I’m hoping this forum will become a safe resource for people looking for information (or to share information) and a place for everyone to come together and share their stories. And hopefully in the future this will be a good way to create a sense of community and organise meet-ups in different parts of the world.  Obviously there’s still a lot of work to do and depending on feedback I might change the design but I’ve tried to make it as user friendly as possible so that anyone can use it. I have a lot of ideas for content and discussions and future competitions and meet-ups, but right now what this forum needs is some members! So if you’d like to be a part of this thing Cadence and I are doing, please join and if you think any of your followers or friends would enjoy it let them know too.  There’s a suggestions area so if you’ve got some ideas or tips or you think we’re missing something important just drop us a note there.  Thanks for being patient, friends! Cec

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So something that has always kinda amused me is how startled Cadence gets with the smallest things. Sudden noises and movements for example can make her jump so easily. It's so bad that I have to announce that I'm walking up behind her or I make my footsteps deliberately heavy so that she doesn't get alarmed when I touch her or whatever. Sometimes even me announcing my arrival startles her. And now I'm starting to see the same things in Silas. He jumps at the smallest sounds. Even the noises he makes himself startle him. So currently I'm in bed with Cadence. She's asleep, Si is asleep in his bassinet.. and he just farted and Cadence jumped in her sleep hahaha. These two man. What am I going to do with them.