#bleach meta

[crabopank]

Who killed You? Who Are you?

[bleachplease]

Aspects of Aizen - Yin (female aspect):

Aizen has surprisingly many instances in which he stabs, slashes, or orders the killing of a female character.

Scenes involving his violence toward female characters feel a little different than his violence toward male characters - less like a fight, and more like an act of resentment.

Let's look at examples:

Rukia - he orchestrates her execution so he wouldn't have to kill her himself, yet this plan fails, and he has to extract the Hogyoku from her literally with his own hands. But it is not the way he ruins her self-confidence (starting years earlier with the tragedy he brought upon Kaien and his wife), not even about how he pierces Rukia through the chest to get his hands on the Hogyoku. The most striking scene is when he carelessly and disrespectfully grabs her by the collar, like Rukia had no will on her own. He drags her around, as though she were his property. He keeps conversing with Ichigo, not with Rukia while treating her like an object. And when the Hogyoku is extracted, he orders Gin to kill her. He still refuses to make an effort to kill her himself. That's how little he cares about Rukia's life.

Momo - here the scene borders on intimate as Aizen deliberately cultivated the fake trust between them. He lures Momo close, stabs her while thanking her, keeping his facade of kind Captain Aizen till the very end. However, his initial plan was for Hitsugaya to kill her. He, again, didn't want to kill Momo himself. He didn't find her worthy of his sword. Of his truth. But when he does finally stab her, he claims this is mercy. He doesn't believe that Momo would be able to go on without him. Also, again (like with Rukia) he speaks of chopping Momo's body into pieces in front of someone who cares about Momo - in front of her friend Hitsugaya. So he not only discards Momo as a pawn he used, he additionally uses her as a trigger for another character.

And then comes the second time he tries to repeat the same model. During Fake Karakura Town fight, Aizen orchestrates everything the way that Hitsugaya stabs Hinamori (as Aizen initially wanted him to). So this says two things: Aizen still doesn't see Hinamori as a person who might have grown stronger after the suffering he caused her, he sees Hitsugaya that way - that is why he mentally tortures him. And he still uses Hinamori much like a mindless puppet. Even worse in this case, because here Hinamori isn't just brainwashed by him, she is basically injured and unconscious so he probably has to physically place her in his place for Hitsugaya to stab her. That is very similar to dragging Rukia around like a ragdoll. Also, it solidifies how Aizen has absolutely no sentiment for his ex-subordinate (unlike Gin or Kaname).

Hiyori - during Pendulum Arc Hiyori is getting Hollowfied alongside Kensei, Shinji, and the others. Hollowfication itself, in her case, is an unfortunate coincidence (Urahara ordered her to go there) but what happens during Aizen's conversation with Shinji is, again, the same pattern we have already seen. Aizen knows Hiyori is Shinji's friend. So to trigger Shinji, or perhaps to emotionally hurt him, Aizen orders Kaname to attack Hiyori. He doesn't do it himself. Of course not. That would be below Aizen. And he doesn't do it because Hiyori poses any danger, he does that after she speaks Shinji's name. While Hiyori is cut down, Aizen pays her no attention. He casually speaks to Shinji. And his provocation works.

Later, in Fake Karakura Town Arc this provocation is repeated by Aizen. Hiyori is targeted by Gin, however, Aizen comments on Shinji's reaction to her getting bisected. So it is not about Hiyori. Her bond with Shinji is used to get to Shinji before his fight against Aizen even starts. But Shinji manages to collect himself emotionally, probably knowing what Aizen intended.

Harribel - the only female Espada at the time of Arrancar Saga, and also the only Espada Aizen strikes down with his own sword. Not because she disobeyed him or betrayed him. No. Because she disappointed him. Bored him. Couldn't finish her fight fast enough. The fact that Aizen cuts her down himself might look like respect. He likes to tell his opponent that even drawing his sword against them IS a form of respect. However, the way he goes about it is totally disrespectful. Using hypnosis on her to stab her in the back. Telling her: "Don't make me swing my sword twice at someone like you." There is no respect in his words, and the treatment she got for her loyalty. The disrespect in this case might originate from multiple factors, not purely for her being a female warrior. Aizen is generally disappointed with Arrancars as lesser beings than himself, coming from Hollows. Aizen also doesn't accept reliance, and Harribel, sharing trust and respect with her three Fracción, represents trust, teamwork, support - things Aizen does not appreciate.

Orihime - she seems like an exception at first, as Aizen expresses interest in her power, almost appreciating what she is capable of. However, this quickly got dismissed by Aizen himself. He is not using Orihime's powers for any of his plans, and he treats her as a bait to lure Ichigo into Las Noches so he can further pushes his progress. So the moment Aizen realizes a female could be exceptionally powerful, he keeps her at a distance. Locks her up in her room. Allows potential harm to be directed her way (Loly and Menoly), and leaves her in a position of damsel to be saved. Telling her than a girl like her only needs to smile, which reads like an attempt to diminish her contribution to the war.

I am not counting in Lisa, Mashiro, and Soi-fon into this because in these cases the fight doesn't seem to vary from Aizen's encounter with male characters.

Yoruichi is an honorable mention, not because she gets attacked by him in any particularly cruel or personal way, but because during their 3 vs 1 battle it is Yoruichi who gets the most ignored verbally by Aizen. He has a dialogue exchange with Urahara, he comments on Ishin's Getsuga, but Yoruichi's comment about her legs (which is jokingly flirtatious on purpose to defuse Aizen's god-level ego at that moment) is met with a wall of Aizen's emotionless, flat reaction. Also, during the same encounter, Urahara is the one who gets the most of Aizen's attention, while Yoruichi is being clearly ignored conversation-wise. I think this is telling. It shows whom Aizen would rather treat as a conversation partner.

From these examples we see that female characters often work as extensions or emotional access/weaknesses of male characters he interacts with. He recognizes the connection, and uses it. He rarely engages in a longer conversation with a female character. He doesn't seem to see them as worthy or likely to progress after challenging them, he rather discards them when not useful anymore.

At the same time, there is no significant female character in Aizen's circle of closest subordinates. He is often accompanied by Gin and Tosen after they leave Soul Society. The Espada has only one female member. And his Arrancar maids - Loly and Menoly - get no attention from him, and are treated rather coldly, and strictly.

Interesting fact is that his two closest followers - Gin and Tosen, both have strong bonds with female characters. Kaname's whole philosophy of justice is inspired by his friend - Kakyō, and his need for revenge is a reaction to her getting brutally murdered.

Similarly, Gin's motivation began with Rangiku getting hurt by Aizen's lackeys. He is following Aizen for revenge, just like Kaname, and this revenge would be irrelevant if the bond with a female character had never existed. Aizen gets a glimpse into a power of that bond when Rangiku's cries over Gin's mutilated body. And what is Aizen's response to that scene? He tightens his grip on his sword, ready to strike her down. Just like he did to Gin.

As we see, Aizen not only targets multiple female characters, he also tends to target male characters who has a strong, personal connection to females. His main opponent are:

Ichigo - who inherited his protectiveness from his deep bond with his mother, and who also shares respectful and loving bonds with both Rukia and Orihime (both targeted by Aizen).

Urahara - who has a strong partnership with Yoruichi, and who also tried his best to befriend Hiyori during the pendulum arc.

These two characters, thanks to their connections (including, but not limited to, women) defeat Aizen in the Arrancar Saga.

Other characters, to whom Aizen seems to be particularly cruel toward are Hitsugaya, and Shinji. And again, both of them share strong, mutual bonds with female friends (Momo, and Hiyori). I already covered Kaname and Gin, I just want to add that in both cases Aizen kill them personally, as if punishing them for choosing the connection over his goal.

All the instances mentioned above, can suggest some sort of resentment or jealousy that Aizen carries toward other male characters who share emotional closeness with female characters. Or who perhaps are simply able to create meaningful, deep bonds with an aspect opposite to their own.

This resentment could be interpreted in a philosophical way, rather than as a simple misogyny. What he attacks is what the female characters symbolize.

Femininity in Bleach is connected with connection, care, attachment, protection of others and sacrificing oneself for the others (Masaki is an example, and how she defeats White by letting him bite her). Emotional intelligence represented by Orihime is another meaningful theme connected to femininity. With this comes compassion, empathy, supporting others and letting others rely on you emotionally (again, Orihime shows this, but also Ikumi, and Kukaku). And we already briefly touched on sisterhood, teamwork, motherhood and camaraderie represented by characters who are able to bring others together (Harribel, Matsumoto when supporting Orihime, Rukia training with Orihime). This places femininity as an important factor in creating community, and bonding people together, not by force, but by support and understanding.

Naturally, Aizen despises and lacks all these aspects, and they might be threatening to his belief in extreme individualism and self-sufficiency, his hate of dependency and reliance, refusal of being understood and connecting with others. What female characters represent in Bleach conflicts directly with Aizen's self-construct.

This could hint at Aizen's lack of internal balance between female and male aspects of self (anima and animus in Jungian interpretation, or yin and yang in thaois).

Yang - in taoism is a male aspect, the light (Aizen is compared to being like the Sun), white color (Aizen's color for the most of the Arrancar Saga), expansion, active energy, progress, strength. These are all aspects that Aizen clearly shows through the series.

Yin - the female aspect associated with the black (Shinigami color), the night, the moon, the stillness, passiveness, acceptance, introversion, the energy directed inward, intuition, treachery. Aizen exhibits only some of these aspects.

However, his power and his sword strongly resonate with Yin aspect (illusions, moon, secrecy), which makes me believe that Kyoka Suigetsu embodies Aizen's anima (female aspect), which he never fully accepted, internalized, or embraced. This creates an interesting contradiction: the power that defines him originates from aspects of himself that he appears unwilling to consciously acknowledge. Perhaps this is why we never see his Bankai.

Psychologically, this lack of acceptance of his own Yin/female aspect is self-destructive and keeps him from connecting.

The imbalance within Aizen may be caused by the absence of a maternal figure in his formative days, however this is speculative.

Whatever the reason, Aizen in multiple instances exhibits a dismissive attitude or violent rejection toward characters who are connected with female characters naturally, or toward female representation themselves, suggesting that he externalizes the rejection of a part of his own nature. But he also seems to envy what he dismisses because it makes him incomplete. Hollow. As three hollow holes he carries within himself after his final transformation.

Aizen's internal conflict is becoming the most visible right after his defeat, when his power is starting to fade instead of evolving again. This clearly shows his lack of self-understanding. And if we interprt Kyoka Suigetsu as the manifestation of his anima then his sword crumbling down gets the new meaning.

[phoenixcatch7]

As useful as the many nicknames for shiro are, both in fics and fandom conversation, I feel in canon he'd very strongly reject anything more unique than a descriptor. 'the inner hollow' or 'Ichigos instincts'.

I mean, he too is a zanpakuto. Names are what define a zanpakuto. And he is a zanpakuto who had his name, his very identity stolen. Used as farce and charade, used to call the liar and phoney quincy next to him, his own name and blade chained and restricted specifically to try and force his wielder to quit being a shinigami.

And, well, we have seen zanpakuto who are called by the wrong name. Yumachika has a zanpakuto who despises the false name its given so much it recoils into a warped shadow of its true shikai. And kenpachis, despite having been lovingly bestowed a name by her own wielder she wears with a smile, is still screaming soundlessly inside the blade, unheard, still nameless in form.

Zangetsu would hate being called anything but his true name. Not just having his name stolen and paraded around in front of his face, his bankai given without his grace, and him unable to speak a word of it. Giving him a false name of top of that?? That's just spitting on his grave. Acid in the wound.

It's no wonder he chose to introduce himself as nameless. All that - that noise about master and servant, king and horse when a zanpakuto and their shinigami are as equals. All he had left was instincts, hollow ones at that. No dignity, no identity, no relationship with his better half, he had nothing but the fury and desperation of a haltered beast.

[chaoticreivingu]

They can't keep getting away with this

Bi Orihime real real real rea-

[quiterambunctious]

Seeing people on Bleach Twitter debating TYBW’s penultimate battle again. Orihime and Ichigo or Rukia and Ichigo, which one would be able to defeat Yhwach?

My personal answer: neither.

Amongst many others, one of the major problems within the backend of the Bleach manga is that Yhwach is way too powerful. There were plausible ways to defeat him prior to him absorbing the Soul King but once he did, he was pretty much unbeatable.

That being said, Orihime and Rukia don’t hold nearly enough power to affect Yhwach. No matter how good or bad the teamwork may be between them and Ichigo, it’s very likely that it wouldn’t have done anything to Yhwach.

They’re not weak, Yhwach is just unreasonably strong.

If I had to name a few, the only people that could maybe have a chance in denting Yhwach by the end of the manga, it’d be Ichigo, Aizen, Ichibei and Uryuu. That’s about it.

[linkspooky]

I finished my first video ever

If you've ever wanted to see one of my posts as a video I've finished a video analyzing Bleach, and Ulquiorra, Ichigo and Orihimes characters. Please check it out and like, comment and subscribe if you want to see me make more of these.

[mondengel2]

Saw some comments about this being Unohana about to go into a bloodthirsty snap and challenge Ichigo to a fight, but I don't think that's it.

Definitely her bloodlust is stirring at a possible formidable opponent (and I'd put that actually in the lower panel closeup of her mouth where her eyes are hidden, but I think the closeup on her eye is pure shock.

"And I was sensing that his current spirit energy was already comparable to a captains?"

I think this is her realizing Ichigo isn't a joke, isn't just a random kid or even an everyday Shiba decedent or a semi-ridiculous backup plan. He's something else entirely. Captain-class is basically the pinnacle of shinigami power and Ichigo is 3x that strong. Kenpachi, who beat her, has a lot of reiatsu, more than most captains, but is still within believable range - it's just very, very potent and strong, and he's unconsciously been refining it for decades by keeping it handicapped.

Ichigo's amount of power combined with how strong it is is something else.

At 1/3 his strength, he's still a match for any captain in terms of raw power.

And he's only had his sword for a couple months.

This moment comes with the context that Ichigo had been creating a really shoddy reishi path for them to run on and she was insisting she run ahead. Ichigo has little training and less control, almost zero fine control, and has been pushing through with pure, unadulterated talent and strength.

I think this is the moment Unohana realizes Ichigo is someone who can give Kenpachi the fun battles he'll need to thrive after she's gone (because one way or the other it was clear Kenpachi Zaraki was the one she chose to be her one and only true successor), and more importantly also when she accepts Ichigo as capable of beating Aizen and commits to focusing on healing when they get to the battlefield.

Hiyori would have died if she didn't focus on her. Others would have been injured longer, crippled like Yamamoto, or possibly died if she chose to fight.

Aizen took care to take her out of the picture at the start and I think she was going along with the intention to fight initially, to break her oaths under the weight of the overwhelming threat Aizen had become because Kenpachi wasn't at a point he was ready for that final push, but here she realizes Ichigo can take care of it and decides to keep her lid on "Yachiru" for another day and lets herself save some lives.

I think people overestimate how much Soul Society relied on Ichigo prior to his taking down Aizen.

Throwing Ichigo at Aizen being the solution was Urahara, Isshin, and Yoruichi's plan (likely also the visard - how much they were involved/knew isn't easy to tell, but they were working with Urahara). It's clear they weren't communicating a lot with Soul Society prior to TLA, were just feeling out how much they were still criminals and working against a common enemy more than together.

Yamamoto had his own plans - had a whole proper invasion of Hueco Mundo planned with all of his captains and probably some troops that Aizen derailed by tricking Inoue into going ahead so they'd have to divide their forces. The plan was always to fight themselves, not rely on the humans. Yamamoto was only grudgingly letting Ichigo tag along - he was never the plan for them - and Inoue, Chad and Ishida were either being told outright to stay out of it or expected to not help.

There were a few captains who had personal reasons to have special faith in Ichigo, like Byakuya and Kenpachi, and we see Kurotsuchi had a subconcious certainty Ichigo going would mean victory - but all the others intended to and did fight on their own strength until it became clear Aizen's trickery was impenetrable. Then they leaned on Ichigo via following Urahara's set plan - but only when they had no other choice.

People point out most of them didn't use their bankai against Aizen in Fake Karakura - but why would they at that time? They'd just skewered Momo under Aizen's illusions and gotten worn and beaten barely defeating the higher-ranked espada who'd been brought along and designed specifically to tire them. Even if they had the strength to use a bankai they hadn't made use of (or safely could use them in such close proximity to their own people), they couldn't trust they would be hitting who they intended when they attacked.

They tried and failed and then, when it was clear they were too back-footed to gain ground again, they stepped aside for Ichigo. And even in that he was mainly there to make a final strike, the still intended to wear Aizen down themselves until Ichigo got an opening.

The other captains voice reluctance even about that - Ichigo is so clearly the Gotei 13's last resort - which the total opposite of what Urahara was angling for.

Urahara was intending lean on Ichigo from the start.

Urahara's plan against Aizen is basically the same plan Aizen used against the Gotei 13: wear the enemy down with "canon fodder", then deal a heavy strike with a fresh fighter before swooping in with a final trap to cinch victory.

It's just the canon fodder in Urahara's plan was the Gotei 13 and his Isshin/Yoruichi teamup to Aizen's espada, the fresh fighter was Ichigo instead of Aizen taking the field himself, and the final trap was a perfectly timed, inescapable sealing kido instead of a perfectly timed, (seemingly) unmatchable hogyoku evolution.

[guerkcheen]

Hey liked all your takes on Aizen's character,truly you have one of the best possible analysis for his character writing... So after I read recent post of your's which focuses more on his personal side then his clinical and methodical character make up so just to ask you on the heat of this occasion.. do you think aizen **would** ever truly be able to love or have genuine romantic feelings for someone

What is loveeeee~??????!! (This song is so old but such a banger don’t come at me!!!)

First of all— thank you that is such a great compliment for me anon! You guys are honestly feeding my brain cells with these asks— and I wish I could be more fast in replying— but reallife is kind of busy right now but I deeply appreciate it 💚💚💚🥒🥒🥒

To answer your question fast if you don’t want to read all that down there:

Maybe, he can but the more important thing is— it comes down on what your own definition of love and romance is! Since love/romance as a concept/ emotion is deeply idealized and so very culturally diverse in expression it’s so very hard to frame it "right"

But before spam you with my over analysis, I want to address something personal about how I want to handle this blog. In real life, I am currently studying to become a scientist in psychology/ sociology are my field , to add I'm a massive philosophy fan. Because of that background, I have thing for open discourse like every scientist should. I’m saying this because:

I was actually a bit worried that my last analysis on Aizen came across as too constricted or rigid. I've read about a take from @cheese183818 like about Aizen self-sacrifice in the last fight Ichigo vs Ywhach the dynamic between Ichigo and Aizen if that could be seen a broader possibility of him forming relationships through respect or him having respect for someone else etc etc.

I thought about responding of course not to undermine it just adding my thoughts— BUT that’s the thing I don't want my posts to dictate what you should think, nor am I trying to "prove" a point or invalidate anyone else's headcanons. In fact, I try withhold my own immediate responses because I don't want to insert my own thoughts too heavily— because I actually like that people have different takes! So, please take my analysis simply as a elaboration tool! So what you make of it "the ultimate conclusion" belongs entirely to you 💚🥒

So now we have THAT out of our way~

Aizen and the ASPD Spectrum

Before we can look at how he COULD experience romance, we have to map out his baseline psychological architecture. When we analyze Aizen through a modern clinical lens, his character heavily aligns with the Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) spectrum but of course we cannot truly ever diagnose him. (As a side note: psychopathy and sociopathy are sometimes intertwined with that diagnosis, but those terms are informal and not used in clinical psychology)

Aspd in actual behavioral science, this isn't a buzzword for a villain; it’s a specific cognitive structure. And I think it fits to his portrayal on the show.

A very simplification of ASPD !!!!

Empathy or rather the lack there of

we probably are the same opinion on this that Aizen has a lack in emotional empathy— he doesn't automatically physically feel the pain of others. However, he possesses a terrifyingly high level of cognitive empathy which means he doesn't read emotions with his „heart“; he reads them like a game. He conceptually understands exactly how people think, why they despair, and how to utilize those mechanics.

Absolute Contempt for Social Constructs

Another trait of ASPD is a complete disregard for institutional rules, morals, and social norms. Aizen views the entire established order of the soul society that is build on working together as a weak, fabricated illusion designed to comfort the masses. And he kind of does literally everything to break away from that structure or any norms.

The Instrumental View of Relationships

Relationships are in a very logical sense just another social constructs if you look from wayyyyyy above like probably Aizen views them and combine that with his lack of emotional connection something will stay however— the instrumental level—meaning people are viewed as tools, variables, or chess pieces to be managed, rather than independent emotional entities.

That sounds very black and white, right? But if we give a bit of spice of scientific realism: Being on the ASPD spectrum does not make someone a robot!!1!1!1!!! We are not robots !!!!!

Individuals on this spectrum absolutely can form attachments, experience desire, and fixate on others. HOWEVERRRRRR!!!!!!1!1!1!1!!11!

The machinery/ structure underneath those feelings is just built differently. So, how does a brain with an ASPD architecture process something like "love"?

WHAT IS LOVE BABY DONT HURT ME DONT HURT ME NO MORE 💃🕺

To figure out if his feelings that whatever how he would portray those — and whether it can be classified as "romantic," we first have to establish what romance actually is. Since there are so many definitions and theories etc. but I know just those 3 so I will just use them.

The Fisher Framework— biological framework

Dr. Helen Fisher study showed that love moves through kind of „brain phases“ driven by different chemicals:

The Attraction Phase

Driven by a massive spike in dopamine and norepinephrine. This is an obsessive, high-energy cognitive fixation. Your brain narrows its focus onto one single thing or person— turning them into a kind of obsessive thought. (Important)

The Attachment Phase

Driven by oxytocin and vasopressin. This is the calm, secure, cozy bonding system designed to make partners feel safe, settled, and predictable together.

The Sociological Framework

Sociologist John Alan Lee categorized the styles of how people actually behave when they are in love. Three of these are incredibly helpful when analyzing intense characters:

Eros: Romantic, passionate, and highly physical love.

Ludus: Love as a game or a conquest. The focus is on the chase, the strategy, and keeping the upper hand.

Mania: Possessive, dependent, and obsessive love. It is marked by intense emotional highs and lows, jealousy, and a need to constantly reassure ownership over the partner

The Sternberg Model

In psychology, Dr. Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love Says that complete love is a compound made of these three thingsssss (?):

Passion: The physical drive, sexual attraction, and the intense, magnetic pull toward a specific target.

Commitment: The cognitive, conscious decision to maintain a bond and tie your future landscape to someone else.

Intimacy: The emotional core. This is vulnerability. It’s lowering your guard completely, sharing your deepest flaws, and letting someone see your weaknesses.

Coming back it depends on you and your own framework of your own definition.

Now that we have the tools laid out on the table, we can apply them to Aizen's precise case ( or any character of your choice tbh) to see how his specific psychology interacts with these frameworks.

When you look at the Sternberg Model, which of those ingredients can his ego actually tolerate? We know he operates with a massive psychological armor because of his god complex. Can a mind that views emotional vulnerability as a disgusting human defect ever experience Intimacy? Or does his version of attraction simply max out the Passion and Commitment scales, mutating into something entirely different? Would you call that "different" still love? Or how do you define this if one of the core pillars is missing?

If your personal definition of romance requires a individual amount of Intimacy (emotional vulnerability, letting someone see your flaws) and Fisher's Attachment in the normal, healthy sense (calm, predictable security), then a highly protective, clinical logical brain like Aizen’s might never fit the bill. To his ego, showing vulnerability is a defect, and calm predictability is just another word for stagnation. We can argue on the levels that somehow could be possible but then again it only matters if it fits to your own definition.

But look at the other side.

What happens if romance is defined as an intense, involuntary Attraction phase—a massive dopamine rush where he encounters an unpredictable variable he cannot easily catalog? If he encounters a mind so sharp, or someone whose independence is so fierce, that he becomes intellectually and physically consumed by them, his cognitive empathy turns into a hyper-fixation.

There is no general, absolute rule in psychology because the field isn't black and white. Howeverrrrrr clinical research shows that when an ASPD personality forms a "genuine" attachment, they don't do standard compromise. Instead, through extreme idealization, the partner is internalized as an extension of their own ego. It is as simple as that: they value you because they value themselves, and they see you as a vital part of who they are.

Under John Alan Lee's typology, his style completely leaves any "normal" bonding and leans into a Eros, Ludus, and Mania. He integrates the partner entirely into his grand design of his grandiose self.

So, does he feel "genuine" romance?

I want to leave that final conclusion entirely in your hands. Depending on which tools you value most, his psychological intensity can be viewed as a profound, consuming form of love, or a chilling erasure of the other where he completely absorbs a partner into his landscape. Like I said, it all depends on you and how you define it and how this fit into that.

I hope it was satisfactory— romantic love for me is such a difficult topic because it is so very differently viewed and has different expectations so I really want to be as broad as possible.

So not sure if that’s still a headcanon I will tag it anyway that way xP