What an awesome honor to speak on GMCW’s #blexcellence panel last night with all these other beautiful Black men!
We discussed a variety of topics—mainly how we self-identify (as Black vs African-American), which Black subcultures we consider ourselves a part of, why it’s so important to have opportunities for Black people to commune and talk openly about our experiences, and what we wanted people to take away from the event.
I talked about my experiences growing up Black in a majority white community, about being gay in a religious Black family (and a conservative area), and my personal struggles with a learning disability and mental illness, as well as how something as seemingly trivial as being a geek/nerd/artist intersects with my race and sexuality. Got a little emotional talking about how accepting my family has been since I came out, because I know so many people don’t have that same luxury. (Wish I’d spoken a little more about being Black in the gay community. Another time!)
I concluded that representation matters, and that getting the chance to talk about our experiences as members of marginalized groups is the first step toward a better world. What I most wanted people to take away: Listen. When someone tells you about their experiences, keep your ears open and believe them, because they’re the only one living their own life! And remember that you can use your privilege for good. Speak up when you see injustice.
In the end I was slightly overwhelmed by the people who came up to me afterward and expressed their support and understanding of my journey! 😅 Thank you so much to everyone who was there! I hope it was as enlightening to you as it was to me.
