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Love Your Body Week starts next Monday! The Body Image Peer Educators are hosting events every day. Check them out!

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New York flashback 2015 #literaryloungebodyweek

𝐿𝑎 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑝𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑐𝑒𝑧𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑒 (𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑎 𝑎𝑛𝑐ℎ𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑐𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑎) 𝑒̀ 𝑙𝑎 𝑐𝑎𝑝𝑎𝑐𝑖𝑡𝑎̀ 𝑑𝑖 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑒𝑝𝑖𝑟𝑒 𝑒 𝑟𝑖𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑜𝑠𝑐𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑙𝑎 𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑖𝑧𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑑𝑒𝑙 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑝𝑟𝑖𝑜 𝑐𝑜𝑟𝑝𝑜 𝑛𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑜 𝑠𝑝𝑎𝑧𝑖𝑜 𝑒 𝑙𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑜 𝑑𝑖 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑧𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑑𝑒𝑖 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑝𝑟𝑖 𝑚𝑢𝑠𝑐𝑜𝑙𝑖, 𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑧𝑎 𝑖𝑙 𝑠𝑢𝑝𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑜 𝑑𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑎 𝑣𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑎. 𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑡𝑎 𝑑𝑎 𝐶ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑙𝑒𝑠 𝑆𝑐𝑜𝑡𝑡 𝑆ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑡𝑜𝑛 𝑒̀ 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑎 𝑢𝑛 𝑠𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑜 𝑖𝑛 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑒̀ 𝑟𝑒𝑔𝑜𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑎 𝑑𝑎 𝑢𝑛𝑎 𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒 𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑓𝑖𝑐𝑎 𝑑𝑒𝑙 𝑐𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑜. 𝐿𝑎 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑝𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑐𝑒𝑧𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑢𝑚𝑒 𝑢𝑛'𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑧𝑎 𝑓𝑜𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑙 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑜 𝑚𝑒𝑐𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑖𝑠𝑚𝑜 𝑑𝑖 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑙𝑙𝑜 𝑑𝑒𝑙 𝑚𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑚𝑖𝑡𝑒 𝑖 𝑛𝑒𝑢𝑟𝑜𝑛𝑖 𝑑𝑖 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑑𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘 𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑠𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑎𝑙𝑒, 𝑝𝑒𝑟 𝑐𝑢𝑖 𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑒 𝑢𝑡𝑖𝑙𝑖𝑧𝑧𝑎𝑡𝑎 𝑒𝑓𝑓𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑐𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑐ℎ𝑒 𝑖𝑛 𝑓𝑖𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑝𝑖𝑎 𝑑𝑖 𝑟𝑒𝑐𝑢𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑜 𝑒𝑑 𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖 𝑠𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑖.

Se c'è una cosa che non manca, come paziente in un ospedale, è il tempo. A parte le sessioni di fisioterapia, quelle di psicoterapia - che detesto - cibo e medicine, non resta molto altro da fare. E se c'è una cosa che la mia mente iperattiva odia con tutto il cuore è l'inattività. Per mia fortuna mi sono imbattuto in una biblioteca particolarmente fornita e non solo dei classici libri romantici, che non sono proprio il mio genere. Ho trovato dei testi interessanti di Oliver Sacks. In uno di questi mi sono imbattuto in questa definizione che mi ha affascinato e portato a fare alcune riflessioni. Mi ha recato sollievo capire che non sono folle, che è vero che in un incidente si può perdere la cognizione del proprio corpo. Di certo questo essere sulla sedia a rotelle non sono io. Ogni volta che mi tolgono le bende per le medicazioni, chiedo che mi venga portato uno specchio. Ho bisogno di vedermi, di vedere le cicatrici, come se stessi disegnando una mappa di questo nuovo corpo che non conosco. So che le infermiere non sono d'accordo, che non dovrei avere percezione di quanto è stato grave il mio incidente ma non sono mai stato bravo a far finta che nulla esistesse. Se devo ritornare a una parvenza di normalità, qualunque cosa significa... questo fa parte del cammino a cui sono destinato. Ho rafforzato i muscoli delle braccia, immagino che sia per non permettere agli altri di muovere la sedia al posto mio. Solo da poco mi hanno dato una sedia automatica, forse perché temono che mi stanchi troppo con le sedute di fisioterapia. In realtà è proprio in quei momenti che ritorno a vivere. La sensazione del pavimento sotto i piedi, il dolore sulla spina dorsale, la fatica di porre semplicemente un passo dopo l'altro... sto combattendo come un leone e, finalmente, vengo aiutato in questo. Ho trovato il modo di corrompere il fisioterapista che lavora con me, grazie alle mie doti di informatico, ma ha anche il mio grande rispetto. So che se lui dice fermiamoci, dobbiamo farlo, anche se questo mi rende un uomo frustrato. Intanto studio, leggo tutti i libri di psicologia a cui posso accedere. L'unica cosa che mi manca è avere una postazione tutta mia. Mi sento isolato dal mondo. Arriva qualche notizia ma filtrata attraverso la tv, quel poco che posso vederla. Sono più occupato a plasmare il mio corpo e a farlo tornare quello di un tempo. Anzi, ambisco a farlo diventare migliore. Avrò bisogno anche di saper come difendermi se qualcuno tenterà di nuovo di uccidermi...

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This Is What Self Care Looks Like For Women Learning To Love Their Bodies

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This Is What Self Care Looks Like For Women Learning To Love Their Bodies

We asked women to share the habits that help them remember how great they are. Here’s what they had to say.

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1. Taking selfies.

This will slot me into every millennial stereotype and sounds almost insufferably narcissistic but I Snapchat a selfie to my close friends every morning (saying good morning, usually, with some high-level pun work included). It takes me about a minute to do, but the act of paying attention to my own face and seeing it in flattering light leaves me feeling super-duper validated all day. —Rega Jha

2. And keeping some just for yourself.

This is wildly embarrassing to admit but any time I see myself and I think I look good, I’ll take a bunch of selfies or shitty mirror pictures. I never post them anywhere, but every time I’ve felt shitty about myself/body/face/style since I started, I’ll literally just flip through all these pictures of myself to be like, Nah self, even if you feel bad about the way you look right now, you KNOW (aka you have photographic evidence) of how good you CAN look five seconds from now. —Krutika Mallikarjuna

3. Treating yourself the way you’d treat a friend.

A thing I have found really helpful lately is trying to channel how I feel about the way my female friends and acquaintances look — which is overwhelmingly positive, regardless of whether they have a body like the one I “wish” I had or one like mine or one bigger or different than mine or any number of variations — and trying to apply that same thought process to myself. I know so many pretty ladies with different kinds of bodies who I think look smoking all the time, so I just try to pretend I’m friends with myself and tell myself that I would totally think I l looked awesome, too. It doesn’t ALWAYS work but it helps. —Summer Anne Burton

4. Suds-ing up.

I feel like whenever I’m getting myself clean — in the shower or even just washing my hands — I slow down for a minute to really appreciate and think kindly towards my body. I don’t even know when this little ritual started, but I notice when I’m scrubbing or rubbing shampoo in my hair I feel close and safe with my own body, and there is a moment of peace. Sometimes I can hang onto that good feeling all day long. —Sarah Karlan

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5. Making sure your closet is filled with clothes that fit comfortably.

I’ve learned to stop throwing away my “fat” clothes — sure, it feels good to get rid of them but it feels TERRIBLE to have to go out and buy more when my weight, inevitably, goes back up. This goes double for bras, which are just SO expensive. Also, I got rid of my scale a long time ago. I gauge my weight based on how I look and feel and how my clothes fit. —Deena Shanker

6. And buying clothes you actually like.

I actually started to get comfortable with myself in college, after I had gained about 20 pounds of extra weight on top of already being “too big for my height” according to that dumb BMI chart. What helped me most was forcing myself to buy cute clothing — especially underthings — for my size. If I’m going to be bigger, I might as well dress cute! I also started concentrating on my hair, face, and nails — nourishing them, making them cute, and generally being proud of them — because they’re part of my body, but they don’t have anything to do with my size. —embeebee

7. Taking time to relax.

Loving my body is a very complicated thing — I don’t necessarily love it as an object so much as love what is is capable of and what I can do to it; I like the potential it has as an agent of what my brain wants to do. A thing that helps me love it as a thing in and of itself to appreciate is taking a bath, though. I make a huge ritual of it and set my intentions for the week in the bath every Sunday, and exfoliate while I think about the stuff I accomplished during the week. Steaming my body and letting out all that bad energy that accumulates through the week is also super important to me. Bath time 4ever. —Arabelle Sicardi

8. Ignoring the scale.

I no longer weigh myself! It’s something small that I used to do that would trigger massive anxiety for me. Trying to be a certain weight is something I grew up doing, and I no longer let that control my actions or thoughts. I know when I’ve gained weight, because my pants won’t fit, and when that happens I just opt for a salad instead of a burger. Eventually I get back to my happy place, but I no longer have a number circling around my head and taunting me for weeks on end. —Erin LaRosa

10. Understanding that perspective can be flawed.

I’ll often look back on pictures at times where I felt really self-conscious and realize I had little to no concept of how I actually looked. I’m definitely not the best judge of my own appearance, which is an odd thing to realize since I spend the most time with me. —Alex Alvarez

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11. Finding beauty in other women.

As a transgender woman, who started her transition late, there’s a lot I don’t like about my body. Hormones can only be so effective. My main way of feeling better about myself is to compare myself to cisgender women, but in a good way: “That cisgender girl has smaller breasts, just like me, and she’s perfectly normal and beautiful. That cis girl has straighter hips, just like me, and she’s perfectly normal and beautiful. That cis girl has a squarer jaw, and she’s normal and beautiful. If I share so many things in common with cisgender girls, how can I not be normal and beautiful myself?” —suddenly-sara

12. And telling them about it.

Complimenting other women. Honestly telling others that you think they’re beautiful somehow boosts my mood and helps me see myself from another angle. If I find all these different women and their bodies beautiful, then mine is beautiful as well and deserves the same love I give others. —theacemerperson

13. Being kind to your reflection.

I no longer allow myself to look in the mirror unless I say one thing positive about myself. Me today: “Hi Lara, love your dress today.” —Lara Parker

14. Watching porn.

When I first started therapy following a very bad breakup, I couldn’t believe that anyone would find my body desirable. I had never had sex that didn’t hurt, and a part of me believed that I deserved this for having a fat body. Obviously, that was WACK-ASS THINKING, because I am a glorious female warrior and goddess of all that I survey, but I truly believed it. My therapist at the time suggested I seek out feminist erotica and porn that intentionally shows people’s bodies in all their glory — fat, thin, stretch-marked, wobbly bits, uneven boobs, body hair and all — experiencing pleasure without fetishizing them. This really helped. I was actually kind of surprised by how much it helped. Sorry to scandalize you, mom. —Kaye Toal

14. Living in the present.

I try to regularly remind myself that no matter how I feel about my body currently, I’ll one day wish I had the body I have now. I am in my prime; I will never be this young again, and I don’t want to waste my time with my current body putting it down. I also tell myself that it’s perfectly fine to want to be smaller/fitter/healthier, but that I don’t have to wait until I get there to love it now. Loving what I have now while working on something different will make the journey, and life, much easier. —Tracy Clayton

15. Decorating your body.

I’m pretty insecure with my body but before I get into the shower, I draw a smiley face on my tummy, because if it can be happy, so can I. –anonymous

16. Maybe even with a tattoo!

I’ve always been self-conscious about my hips (every summer brings that uncomfortable moment of buying large bikini bottoms to go with my small bikini top), but I figured they won’t be changing anytime soon, so I decided to embrace the broad, fleshy expanse as a canvas for a tattoo. Now those large bikini bottoms look bangin’. —Claudia Koerner

17. Challenging standards of beauty.

As a Mexican-American woman growing up in a predominately white community it took me a long time to realize that just because I don’t have a light complexion with blondish hair and blue/green/hazel eyes doesn’t mean I’m not beautiful too. Finding positive role models in cinema, media, and life helped tremendously. —terreisa

18. Redefining size.

Lifting weights has taught me to find beauty in my strength. I no longer work towards losing something but instead toward gaining something. I have a hard time saying that I’m bigger than I’ve ever been because I’m also stronger and healthier and happier because I constantly push my body further than I knew was possible. —Mackenzie Kruvant

19. And redefining strength.

I’m 24 and I was born with a congenital heart/lung defect. I’ve had a handful of major open heart surgeries, among other surgeries for health problems. I have scars that are visible to everyone. My body, while “broken” inside with a crappy heart, one working lung, etc., is my body. It’s kept me alive much longer than the doctors told my parents when I was a baby. I proudly wear my scars. I love and respect my body. While some may call it flawed, I find it beautiful and strong. —asitypethis

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20. Thinking about your impact on others.

When I can’t love myself for me, I try to think of how hating on my body or saying shitty things about myself would affect the li’l future feminists who are all around us. My mom talked shit about herself my entire life and I do NOT want that to be me, so when I can’t be strong for myself, I try and do it for feminists. —Julia Furlan

21. Thinking beyond your body.

A good trick is to look at yourself in the mirror for five minutes without moving at all. Don’t play with your hair, pick at your pores, etc. After five minutes, just smile at yourself. Eventually, since you’re not moving but your brain is still going, you start to realize what makes you you is the soul inside you. Your body is just a shell that your incredible life force lives in. Once you realize that you learn to be a little easier on your sack of bones and flesh. —Ashly Perez

22. Exploring alternate realities.

I play a lot of video games. A lot. What I like to do is create my characters based off my body type and appearance. There is nothing like seeing yourself saving the world. I can hunt massive monsters. I am the Inquisitor. I can even play guitar with the best of them! —dagger32

23. Getting naked.

I’ve started spending as much time as possible naked. I noticed that I was spending almost all my time in clothing (aside from showering) and it was making things worse because a) I didn’t like the way I looked in clothing and b) it disconnected me from my body. So I decided to spend more time with just my body. I don’t cover up in the locker room, and I sleep naked, and it’s actually helped me become more comfortable with it because now it’s part of me. –Anonymous

24. And then dancing.

I’ll dance naked in front of a mirror to awesome music and tell myself, “I looooook good.” –Chelsea

25. Experimenting with makeup.

When I started researching makeup to write a few portfolio pieces, I realized I’d never really worn foundation or done anything to my eyebrows. Since getting into makeup and beauty, I’ve really come to appreciate the fact that I have naturally beautiful, flawless skin, and eyebrows that just grow on fleek. Top that off with thick, shiny, luscious hair. So by learning about makeup, I’ve learned to love myself even more. —cwnerd12

26. (Lipstick specifically)

Lipstick fixes almost everything. When life sucks and the patriarchy is getting you down, a fine lipstick in your favorite shade (I love dark wines!) makes all the difference. —ladyypreshpresh

27. Stepping out of your fashion comfort zone.

Sometimes I catch myself admiring another lady’s outfit and then thinking about how “that looks great on her, but ~I~ could never pull it off.” Then I deliberately make it a point when I go shopping to find something similar and try it on. A lot of the time it works JUST FINE on me, and sometimes even turns into a style I wear all the time. Living by internalized rules about what I “can” and “can’t” wear based on the shape of my body is a downer and a waste of time, and I’ve found this to be a good way of walking back that judgy little internal voice. —Rachel Sanders

28. Just buying the pants.

For years I obsessively restricted my eating, and then for a couple more years I restricted it less so. During that time, I gained weight and felt really bad about it. I graduated from college and started a new job. I became obsessed with buying pants, and devastated every time I tried on a pair. I wanted something perfect: not too expensive, work appropriate but cool, flattering. I explained how much of a failure the search had made me feel like to an older friend and she laughed. “Just buy the pants!” she said, recommending I just go for a pair, and not expect them to solve my problems or perfectly embody my identity.

I did what she said — bought some pants, didn’t love them, got rid of them, bought more pants — but for whatever reason, think of that phrase all the time. Every time I know I’m working too hard to police my body or setting unreasonable expectations for how I’d like to feel, I’m like: “Fuck, just buy the pants.” –Anonymous

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29. Leaving love notes to yourself.

I give myself daily positive affirmations by just doing the simplest things; whether it’s just writing the tiniest heart on my hand or thigh in pen, or writing, “You’re beautiful!” on sticky notes and putting that on my mirror. It makes all the difference. —junkiexprincess

30. Or a love list!

I have a list of everything I love about my body — my dark long-lashed eyes, my high waist, my long legs, my dark curls — taped to my mirror, written in giant letters so I can read it every time I want to love my body. —sociopathofalltheprettytardises

31. Finding a power phrase.

One way my friend makes herself feel great is surrounding herself with the words, “Je suis une deesse” which means “I am a goddess” in French. It empowers her. —willamettstone

32. Or a daily mantra.

When I was recovering from an eating disorder, one of my online recovery friends told me to look in the mirror every morning and say, “I love myself unconditionally, no matter what. Food is my friend, not my foe.” I genuinely feel like it helps. –Anonymous

33. And saying it again and again.

Being a large lady and disabled, mine has been a love/hate relationship with my body. What I do to deal with that is, after a shower, while I’m brushing my teeth and putting on all my lotions, is to really look at my face. I look at my eyes and nose, which I really like about my face. I work with my hair to get it the way I want it. Then, just before I leave the bathroom, I look in the mirror and tell myself, “You look good.” Same when I’m just about to go out. Once I’m all dressed and ready, I look in the mirror and say, “You look good.” —uraniabce

34. Keeping your own sexy secret.

Wear a bra and/or panties that make you feel cute, pretty, sexy, whatever you want to feel. No one but you can see it, but it can make you feel good the whole day. —mpromise268

35. Focusing on the basics.

I look at how much my body can do. It carries me. It breathes for me. It pumps blood through my veins. It can give people hugs. It can work hard. It can feel pleasure. It can feel pain. It is truly incredible, and its value should not be limited by what it looks like. —naivevegas

36. Finding the stories in your “flaws.”

I stand in front of the mirror when dressing and automatically see my flaws. Then I remind myself that this soft tummy held three perfect children; these saggy breasts nourished three children; my dimply butt has sat and rocked away fears, heartbreak, and 4 a.m. earaches; my flabby arms soothe, love, and reassure with just one hug; my thunder thighs have paced the floor all night with a colicky baby, raced to the finish line cheering my kids on, and walked a thousand adventures with them. My body is magic. My body is home. –Anonymous

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37. Embracing vanity.

I love to make myself look beautiful, not for anyone except myself. I put on lotions that make me smell like vanilla and makeup that makes ME feel lovely. I allow myself to be vain. I feel like women often don’t do this because there is so much shame behind a woman loving herself, like they are full of themselves, but I think it’s really quite beautiful. —queenofrussia

38. Standing up straight.

I refrain from slouching. Having good posture makes me feel more confident. —icecreamcakeandchocolate

39. Being your own nude model.

One day I took a nude picture of myself and I looked like a piece of art. I realized then that my body is a work of art and while not everyone may like it, all that matters is the artist’s opinion. And I am the artist. –Anonymous

40. Losing those PJs.

I sleep naked. It’s way more comfortable and I feel better in my own skin. I don’t feel like I’m covering anything up and it helps me get used to my little flaws. —eh-malee

41. Exploring sports and exercise.

For me it’s all about sport activities. Not in a looking-good-in-the-mirror way, but in sweating, running, making today more than yesterday, feeling how all your muscles are working, feeling endorphin that fills your body. Best feeling in the world. It’s all about step-by-step doing more, and feeling better about myself with each day. You run and somehow everything starts to look so simple and easy to solve. It’s of course different for every woman, but I found the way to love my body and myself in sport. —evleoni

42. Figuring out triggers and avoiding them.

I don’t keep a full body mirror in my house anymore. It helps me massively! I also tell the doctor I don’t want to know my weight when I go to the office. I don’t want to know the fluctuations. —Julie Gerstein

43. Highlighting what you love.

I try and pick at least one body part or feature that I really love each day, and then I’ll dress accordingly. Am I having a great boob day? Then I’m gonna wear my best bra and the lowest cut shirt I can get away with. Great eye day? You bet I’m loading up mascara, Rose Tyler style. And if I’m not feeling fab? Then I’m gonna be as cozy as possible. Bring on the slipper socks and fuzzy scarves. —themcgeek

44. Looking through someone else’s eyes.

Write about their body from the perspective of a lover or good friend. Imagine how someone who values and adores you would see your assets and flaws, and realize that’s how people you care about actually do see you. It’s how you are. —tiltilla

45. Treating yourself like the babe you are.

I check out my own butt in the mirror whenever I can. It’s not the greatest butt even, but it still helps with my self-esteem. –Anonymous

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This Is How To Dress For Your Favorite Body Feature

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This Is How To Dress For Your Favorite Body Feature

If you got it, flaunt it.

1. It’s easy to search for the next “miracle suit” that will hide all your trouble areas, or look to blogs and magazines for ways to strategically camouflage your body. Instead, we decided to find a way to dress for our favorite features.

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3. Marie Denee, otherwise known as “The Curvy Fashionista,” gave us pointers on how to dress and flaunt your favorite features.

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Marie told BuzzFeed, “When it comes to dressing for your favorite parts of your body, there are lots of ‘dont’s’ out there. I say ignore those because they can hold you back from putting your best curve forward. Step out of your own box, experiment, and play with new silhouettes and colors to accentuate your assets!”

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  Lara: I love my arms because they have always been there for me. When I need to hug people, they are here. When I need to push people away, they are also here. When I need to reach into the bag of Cheetos, my arms provide. These arms were shaped from years of playing tennis and shucking sweet corn. They remind me of my home in Indiana, and the freckles remind me of my trips to Florida. At the end of the day, my arms will always be there to hug me…even if no one else is. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Kirsten: I may not have the biggest booty, and it might not break the internet anytime soon, but it’s cute and I like it. I don’t have the best coordination, so it’s great to have my butt to cushion my semi-frequent falls; it’s really always been there for me. I think we all have a responsibility to love our bodies, no matter what shape or size, so damn right I love my butt.

Candace: I’ve always had more of an athletic figure my whole life, so I’m on the more muscular side. Although I’m no Chrissy Teigen, I love my legs, not because of their length, but because they’re reminders that I have muscle definition that is hard to get. They’re firm and LUSCIOUS and they remind me of how strong I am. Soccer thighs are the best thighs, even though they can scare the shit out of people…

Allison: I think I was drawn to clothing with different or interesting back cutouts before I really learned to love my back. But after accumulating a bunch of backless stuff, I came to realize that I really love that part of my body. I don’t have very large “gazongas,” so tops with low fronts make me feel kind of frumpy and flat. But backless clothing makes me feel like a POWERFUL WOMAN. Plus, it allows for great ventilation.

Kristin: I think having boobs is a lot like having a dog. Yes, they take a lot of energy, and can drive you crazy, and if they’re not properly restrained, they can jump out at people. But for me, they’re pretty darn cute and a lot of fun. Plus, it’s like the only body part I’ve ever had where I was excited to go up a size.

Sheridan: I’m not an idiot. I know I’m plus-size and I know that many people might not look at my waist and shout, “So jealous!” But here’s the thing: I freaking love it. It may not be the tiniest or covered in those defined ab things, but sometimes I’ll look in the mirror and feel like Jessica Rabbit. The waist is a magical thing, y’all. You can have a belly, you can have “thunder thighs,” and your back can roll over your bra, but the second you define your waist you feel like a million bucks.

6. When you love your arms:

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  Marie: If you love your arms, sleeveless and strapless is the obvious choice to go, but there is more! Play with mixed-media sleeves (think leather and wool, lace and sheer, and various textures), one shoulder (which is a major spring trend), and strategic cutouts!

Lara: When I first saw the cutout-shoulder crop top I was like, “Um, hell no.” But then I put it on. And my body involuntarily started dancing. I felt like a new woman. And my shoulders were so happy to be poking free. I put on the green dress and my shoulders were like, “Don’t ever hide me again, Lara!” I guess I never thought to to wear the clothes with cutouts because I never liked geometry. But hey, now I do. I guess Mrs. Rausch was onto something all along.

7. When your butt is everything:

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  Marie: For the bum, there is nothing better than a great pair of jeans to show the glutes off! I prefer my skinny jeans, but whatever the style, a great fit does wonders to the bum! In addition to denim I would also suggest fitted and tailored midi skirts too!

Kirsten: The suggestions weren’t very far off from my normal sense of style, so I felt pretty good in all of the outfits. I think women are constantly being told how they can dress to hide their “flaws,” but it was nice to focus on accentuating the things I was proud of…or should I say, ass-centuate… ha-ha (I had to).

8. When you want to flaunt your legs:

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  Marie: If you love your legs, honey, then I am all for this season’s shirtdress trend to show off the gams! While an obvious choice would be to rock a mini or play in shorts, I suggest skirts and dresses with up-to-there slits! Also, the envelope or tulip skirts are fun and give you a bit of interest around your legs!

Candace: I LOVE envelope skirts, because it’s like special delivery to Hot Town: Awesome Legs… (sorry), and my go-to dresses are usually shirtdresses because they’re so damn comfortable, and it’s an excuse to not wear pants. I feel great in these clothes and they’re super easy to get. I guess I should be thankful I live in L.A., because I can show off my legs almost every day without looking like I don’t understand weather. Your legs don’t need to be a certain size, as long as YOU love them.

9. When you want to show off your back:

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  Marie: If you love your back, pick items that make just as much of an exit as an entrance! Sheer and lace-back tops and dresses as well as those with bold open and deep plunging backs do the trick here! Just make sure that the “girls” are supported!

Allison: I definitely own a lot of this type of clothing, although I’ve never thought about the fact that it makes quite an exit! Maybe that’s because my favorite part of the night is going home to bed? I can’t wait to turn around on these fools!

10. When you want to show off your flawless bust:

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  Marie: If you love the girls, I suggest FIRST finding the perfect-fitting bra (they say we should be measured at least twice a year or every six months — I know, right?), but I would def play with deep V tops and dresses, but also wrap tops and dresses along with playful prints up top! I would also opt for fitted tops along with A-line silhouettes!

Kristin: I’ve not going to lie, v-neck tops and I do not historically have the best relationship. I am definitely Team Full Coverage Bra; plunge bras can make my boobs feel like an escaping boulder in an Indiana Jones movie. So I was definitely worried that these photos would be the type that would threaten any future I might have in politics. But I wanted to keep both of these dresses forever — I felt like these looks were a good compromise between Cleavage Town and Comfort City. I know a lot of people are reluctant, but I encourage you to GIVE V’s A CHANCE, Y’ALL.

11. When you can’t get enough of your waist:

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  Marie: Playing up the waist, you have a few options here. One of the most popular and on-trend items are crop tops. I prefer a looser-fit crop, BUT this is an option to show off your waistline. In addition, I would definitely say wrap dresses and tops are your besties! Peplums, strategic color-blocked dresses and tops are fun to play in here… Depending on your comfort level, I do love a great bodycon here too!

Sheridan: Amen! I chose this jumpsuit because the print is fun (who says plus-size girls can only wear black?) and the belt ties in my waist pretty well. And the dress makes me feel like an even sexier Olivia Pope. Like, if she was trying to give Fitz a lap dance or something. I’m all for wrap dresses and even some bodycon dresses. My only problem is crop tops. Since fate (and genetics) left me with these ginormous ladies I call my boobs, it’s very hard for me to pull off a crop top. It’s all good though — I get to rock a trillion other items.

12. Finally, regardless of your size, shape, or fav body feature, here are a few MUST-FOLLOW tips from Marie:

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1. Fit is key, no matter what your dress size is. Items should lay comfortably over your clothes, should not ride up when walking, pull across the bustline, or create stress lines at the seams! When you are comfortable, you are confident!

2. Everyone is a critic, so go ahead and dress for YOU. Find a rule and break it. Explore your own personal style and have fun with it!

3. A tailor is your best friend. Next to fit, this is key. You would be surprised how much a stitch can transform your look!

4. Do not be afraid to play with patterns to accentuate and camouflage! As a tip, the larger the print, the more attention that is drawn to that body part!

13. To find out more about The Curvy Fashionista, you can find Marie’s website here.

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We asked women to share the habits that help them remember how great they are. Here’s what they had to say.

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1. Taking selfies.

This will slot me into every millennial stereotype and sounds almost insufferably narcissistic but I Snapchat a selfie to my close friends every morning (saying good morning, usually, with some high-level pun work included). It takes me about a minute to do, but the act of paying attention to my own face and seeing it in flattering light leaves me feeling super-duper validated all day. —Rega Jha

2. And keeping some just for yourself.

This is wildly embarrassing to admit but any time I see myself and I think I look good, I’ll take a bunch of selfies or shitty mirror pictures. I never post them anywhere, but every time I’ve felt shitty about myself/body/face/style since I started, I’ll literally just flip through all these pictures of myself to be like, Nah self, even if you feel bad about the way you look right now, you KNOW (aka you have photographic evidence) of how good you CAN look five seconds from now. —Krutika Mallikarjuna

3. Treating yourself the way you’d treat a friend.

A thing I have found really helpful lately is trying to channel how I feel about the way my female friends and acquaintances look — which is overwhelmingly positive, regardless of whether they have a body like the one I “wish” I had or one like mine or one bigger or different than mine or any number of variations — and trying to apply that same thought process to myself. I know so many pretty ladies with different kinds of bodies who I think look smoking all the time, so I just try to pretend I’m friends with myself and tell myself that I would totally think I l looked awesome, too. It doesn’t ALWAYS work but it helps. —Summer Anne Burton

4. Suds-ing up.

I feel like whenever I’m getting myself clean — in the shower or even just washing my hands — I slow down for a minute to really appreciate and think kindly towards my body. I don’t even know when this little ritual started, but I notice when I’m scrubbing or rubbing shampoo in my hair I feel close and safe with my own body, and there is a moment of peace. Sometimes I can hang onto that good feeling all day long. —Sarah Karlan

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5. Making sure your closet is filled with clothes that fit comfortably.

I’ve learned to stop throwing away my “fat” clothes — sure, it feels good to get rid of them but it feels TERRIBLE to have to go out and buy more when my weight, inevitably, goes back up. This goes double for bras, which are just SO expensive. Also, I got rid of my scale a long time ago. I gauge my weight based on how I look and feel and how my clothes fit. —Deena Shanker

6. And buying clothes you actually like.

I actually started to get comfortable with myself in college, after I had gained about 20 pounds of extra weight on top of already being “too big for my height” according to that dumb BMI chart. What helped me most was forcing myself to buy cute clothing — especially underthings — for my size. If I’m going to be bigger, I might as well dress cute! I also started concentrating on my hair, face, and nails — nourishing them, making them cute, and generally being proud of them — because they’re part of my body, but they don’t have anything to do with my size. —embeebee

7. Taking time to relax.

Loving my body is a very complicated thing — I don’t necessarily love it as an object so much as love what is is capable of and what I can do to it; I like the potential it has as an agent of what my brain wants to do. A thing that helps me love it as a thing in and of itself to appreciate is taking a bath, though. I make a huge ritual of it and set my intentions for the week in the bath every Sunday, and exfoliate while I think about the stuff I accomplished during the week. Steaming my body and letting out all that bad energy that accumulates through the week is also super important to me. Bath time 4ever. —Arabelle Sicardi

8. Ignoring the scale.

I no longer weigh myself! It’s something small that I used to do that would trigger massive anxiety for me. Trying to be a certain weight is something I grew up doing, and I no longer let that control my actions or thoughts. I know when I’ve gained weight, because my pants won’t fit, and when that happens I just opt for a salad instead of a burger. Eventually I get back to my happy place, but I no longer have a number circling around my head and taunting me for weeks on end. —Erin LaRosa

10. Understanding that perspective can be flawed.

I’ll often look back on pictures at times where I felt really self-conscious and realize I had little to no concept of how I actually looked. I’m definitely not the best judge of my own appearance, which is an odd thing to realize since I spend the most time with me. —Alex Alvarez

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11. Finding beauty in other women.

As a transgender woman, who started her transition late, there’s a lot I don’t like about my body. Hormones can only be so effective. My main way of feeling better about myself is to compare myself to cisgender women, but in a good way: “That cisgender girl has smaller breasts, just like me, and she’s perfectly normal and beautiful. That cis girl has straighter hips, just like me, and she’s perfectly normal and beautiful. That cis girl has a squarer jaw, and she’s normal and beautiful. If I share so many things in common with cisgender girls, how can I not be normal and beautiful myself?” —suddenly-sara

12. And telling them about it.

Complimenting other women. Honestly telling others that you think they’re beautiful somehow boosts my mood and helps me see myself from another angle. If I find all these different women and their bodies beautiful, then mine is beautiful as well and deserves the same love I give others. —theacemerperson

13. Being kind to your reflection.

I no longer allow myself to look in the mirror unless I say one thing positive about myself. Me today: “Hi Lara, love your dress today.” —Lara Parker

14. Watching porn.

When I first started therapy following a very bad breakup, I couldn’t believe that anyone would find my body desirable. I had never had sex that didn’t hurt, and a part of me believed that I deserved this for having a fat body. Obviously, that was WACK-ASS THINKING, because I am a glorious female warrior and goddess of all that I survey, but I truly believed it. My therapist at the time suggested I seek out feminist erotica and porn that intentionally shows people’s bodies in all their glory — fat, thin, stretch-marked, wobbly bits, uneven boobs, body hair and all — experiencing pleasure without fetishizing them. This really helped. I was actually kind of surprised by how much it helped. Sorry to scandalize you, mom. —Kaye Toal

14. Living in the present.

I try to regularly remind myself that no matter how I feel about my body currently, I’ll one day wish I had the body I have now. I am in my prime; I will never be this young again, and I don’t want to waste my time with my current body putting it down. I also tell myself that it’s perfectly fine to want to be smaller/fitter/healthier, but that I don’t have to wait until I get there to love it now. Loving what I have now while working on something different will make the journey, and life, much easier. —Tracy Clayton

15. Decorating your body.

I’m pretty insecure with my body but before I get into the shower, I draw a smiley face on my tummy, because if it can be happy, so can I. –anonymous

16. Maybe even with a tattoo!

I’ve always been self-conscious about my hips (every summer brings that uncomfortable moment of buying large bikini bottoms to go with my small bikini top), but I figured they won’t be changing anytime soon, so I decided to embrace the broad, fleshy expanse as a canvas for a tattoo. Now those large bikini bottoms look bangin’. —Claudia Koerner

17. Challenging standards of beauty.

As a Mexican-American woman growing up in a predominately white community it took me a long time to realize that just because I don’t have a light complexion with blondish hair and blue/green/hazel eyes doesn’t mean I’m not beautiful too. Finding positive role models in cinema, media, and life helped tremendously. —terreisa

18. Redefining size.

Lifting weights has taught me to find beauty in my strength. I no longer work towards losing something but instead toward gaining something. I have a hard time saying that I’m bigger than I’ve ever been because I’m also stronger and healthier and happier because I constantly push my body further than I knew was possible. —Mackenzie Kruvant

19. And redefining strength.

I’m 24 and I was born with a congenital heart/lung defect. I’ve had a handful of major open heart surgeries, among other surgeries for health problems. I have scars that are visible to everyone. My body, while “broken” inside with a crappy heart, one working lung, etc., is my body. It’s kept me alive much longer than the doctors told my parents when I was a baby. I proudly wear my scars. I love and respect my body. While some may call it flawed, I find it beautiful and strong. —asitypethis

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20. Thinking about your impact on others.

When I can’t love myself for me, I try to think of how hating on my body or saying shitty things about myself would affect the li’l future feminists who are all around us. My mom talked shit about herself my entire life and I do NOT want that to be me, so when I can’t be strong for myself, I try and do it for feminists. —Julia Furlan

21. Thinking beyond your body.

A good trick is to look at yourself in the mirror for five minutes without moving at all. Don’t play with your hair, pick at your pores, etc. After five minutes, just smile at yourself. Eventually, since you’re not moving but your brain is still going, you start to realize what makes you you is the soul inside you. Your body is just a shell that your incredible life force lives in. Once you realize that you learn to be a little easier on your sack of bones and flesh. —Ashly Perez

22. Exploring alternate realities.

I play a lot of video games. A lot. What I like to do is create my characters based off my body type and appearance. There is nothing like seeing yourself saving the world. I can hunt massive monsters. I am the Inquisitor. I can even play guitar with the best of them! —dagger32

23. Getting naked.

I’ve started spending as much time as possible naked. I noticed that I was spending almost all my time in clothing (aside from showering) and it was making things worse because a) I didn’t like the way I looked in clothing and b) it disconnected me from my body. So I decided to spend more time with just my body. I don’t cover up in the locker room, and I sleep naked, and it’s actually helped me become more comfortable with it because now it’s part of me. –Anonymous

24. And then dancing.

I’ll dance naked in front of a mirror to awesome music and tell myself, “I looooook good.” –Chelsea

25. Experimenting with makeup.

When I started researching makeup to write a few portfolio pieces, I realized I’d never really worn foundation or done anything to my eyebrows. Since getting into makeup and beauty, I’ve really come to appreciate the fact that I have naturally beautiful, flawless skin, and eyebrows that just grow on fleek. Top that off with thick, shiny, luscious hair. So by learning about makeup, I’ve learned to love myself even more. —cwnerd12

26. (Lipstick specifically)

Lipstick fixes almost everything. When life sucks and the patriarchy is getting you down, a fine lipstick in your favorite shade (I love dark wines!) makes all the difference. —ladyypreshpresh

27. Stepping out of your fashion comfort zone.

Sometimes I catch myself admiring another lady’s outfit and then thinking about how “that looks great on her, but ~I~ could never pull it off.” Then I deliberately make it a point when I go shopping to find something similar and try it on. A lot of the time it works JUST FINE on me, and sometimes even turns into a style I wear all the time. Living by internalized rules about what I “can” and “can’t” wear based on the shape of my body is a downer and a waste of time, and I’ve found this to be a good way of walking back that judgy little internal voice. —Rachel Sanders

28. Just buying the pants.

For years I obsessively restricted my eating, and then for a couple more years I restricted it less so. During that time, I gained weight and felt really bad about it. I graduated from college and started a new job. I became obsessed with buying pants, and devastated every time I tried on a pair. I wanted something perfect: not too expensive, work appropriate but cool, flattering. I explained how much of a failure the search had made me feel like to an older friend and she laughed. “Just buy the pants!” she said, recommending I just go for a pair, and not expect them to solve my problems or perfectly embody my identity.

I did what she said — bought some pants, didn’t love them, got rid of them, bought more pants — but for whatever reason, think of that phrase all the time. Every time I know I’m working too hard to police my body or setting unreasonable expectations for how I’d like to feel, I’m like: “Fuck, just buy the pants.” –Anonymous

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29. Leaving love notes to yourself.

I give myself daily positive affirmations by just doing the simplest things; whether it’s just writing the tiniest heart on my hand or thigh in pen, or writing, “You’re beautiful!” on sticky notes and putting that on my mirror. It makes all the difference. —junkiexprincess

30. Or a love list!

I have a list of everything I love about my body — my dark long-lashed eyes, my high waist, my long legs, my dark curls — taped to my mirror, written in giant letters so I can read it every time I want to love my body. —sociopathofalltheprettytardises

31. Finding a power phrase.

One way my friend makes herself feel great is surrounding herself with the words, “Je suis une deesse” which means “I am a goddess” in French. It empowers her. —willamettstone

32. Or a daily mantra.

When I was recovering from an eating disorder, one of my online recovery friends told me to look in the mirror every morning and say, “I love myself unconditionally, no matter what. Food is my friend, not my foe.” I genuinely feel like it helps. –Anonymous

33. And saying it again and again.

Being a large lady and disabled, mine has been a love/hate relationship with my body. What I do to deal with that is, after a shower, while I’m brushing my teeth and putting on all my lotions, is to really look at my face. I look at my eyes and nose, which I really like about my face. I work with my hair to get it the way I want it. Then, just before I leave the bathroom, I look in the mirror and tell myself, “You look good.” Same when I’m just about to go out. Once I’m all dressed and ready, I look in the mirror and say, “You look good.” —uraniabce

34. Keeping your own sexy secret.

Wear a bra and/or panties that make you feel cute, pretty, sexy, whatever you want to feel. No one but you can see it, but it can make you feel good the whole day. —mpromise268

35. Focusing on the basics.

I look at how much my body can do. It carries me. It breathes for me. It pumps blood through my veins. It can give people hugs. It can work hard. It can feel pleasure. It can feel pain. It is truly incredible, and its value should not be limited by what it looks like. —naivevegas

36. Finding the stories in your “flaws.”

I stand in front of the mirror when dressing and automatically see my flaws. Then I remind myself that this soft tummy held three perfect children; these saggy breasts nourished three children; my dimply butt has sat and rocked away fears, heartbreak, and 4 a.m. earaches; my flabby arms soothe, love, and reassure with just one hug; my thunder thighs have paced the floor all night with a colicky baby, raced to the finish line cheering my kids on, and walked a thousand adventures with them. My body is magic. My body is home. –Anonymous

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37. Embracing vanity.

I love to make myself look beautiful, not for anyone except myself. I put on lotions that make me smell like vanilla and makeup that makes ME feel lovely. I allow myself to be vain. I feel like women often don’t do this because there is so much shame behind a woman loving herself, like they are full of themselves, but I think it’s really quite beautiful. —queenofrussia

38. Standing up straight.

I refrain from slouching. Having good posture makes me feel more confident. —icecreamcakeandchocolate

39. Being your own nude model.

One day I took a nude picture of myself and I looked like a piece of art. I realized then that my body is a work of art and while not everyone may like it, all that matters is the artist’s opinion. And I am the artist. –Anonymous

40. Losing those PJs.

I sleep naked. It’s way more comfortable and I feel better in my own skin. I don’t feel like I’m covering anything up and it helps me get used to my little flaws. —eh-malee

41. Exploring sports and exercise.

For me it’s all about sport activities. Not in a looking-good-in-the-mirror way, but in sweating, running, making today more than yesterday, feeling how all your muscles are working, feeling endorphin that fills your body. Best feeling in the world. It’s all about step-by-step doing more, and feeling better about myself with each day. You run and somehow everything starts to look so simple and easy to solve. It’s of course different for every woman, but I found the way to love my body and myself in sport. —evleoni

42. Figuring out triggers and avoiding them.

I don’t keep a full body mirror in my house anymore. It helps me massively! I also tell the doctor I don’t want to know my weight when I go to the office. I don’t want to know the fluctuations. —Julie Gerstein

43. Highlighting what you love.

I try and pick at least one body part or feature that I really love each day, and then I’ll dress accordingly. Am I having a great boob day? Then I’m gonna wear my best bra and the lowest cut shirt I can get away with. Great eye day? You bet I’m loading up mascara, Rose Tyler style. And if I’m not feeling fab? Then I’m gonna be as cozy as possible. Bring on the slipper socks and fuzzy scarves. —themcgeek

44. Looking through someone else’s eyes.

Write about their body from the perspective of a lover or good friend. Imagine how someone who values and adores you would see your assets and flaws, and realize that’s how people you care about actually do see you. It’s how you are. —tiltilla

45. Treating yourself like the babe you are.

I check out my own butt in the mirror whenever I can. It’s not the greatest butt even, but it still helps with my self-esteem. –Anonymous

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We asked women to share the habits that help them remember how great they are. Here’s what they had to say.

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1. Taking selfies.

This will slot me into every millennial stereotype and sounds almost insufferably narcissistic but I Snapchat a selfie to my close friends every morning (saying good morning, usually, with some high-level pun work included). It takes me about a minute to do, but the act of paying attention to my own face and seeing it in flattering light leaves me feeling super-duper validated all day. —Rega Jha

2. And keeping some just for yourself.

This is wildly embarrassing to admit but any time I see myself and I think I look good, I’ll take a bunch of selfies or shitty mirror pictures. I never post them anywhere, but every time I’ve felt shitty about myself/body/face/style since I started, I’ll literally just flip through all these pictures of myself to be like, Nah self, even if you feel bad about the way you look right now, you KNOW (aka you have photographic evidence) of how good you CAN look five seconds from now. —Krutika Mallikarjuna

3. Treating yourself the way you’d treat a friend.

A thing I have found really helpful lately is trying to channel how I feel about the way my female friends and acquaintances look — which is overwhelmingly positive, regardless of whether they have a body like the one I “wish” I had or one like mine or one bigger or different than mine or any number of variations — and trying to apply that same thought process to myself. I know so many pretty ladies with different kinds of bodies who I think look smoking all the time, so I just try to pretend I’m friends with myself and tell myself that I would totally think I l looked awesome, too. It doesn’t ALWAYS work but it helps. —Summer Anne Burton

4. Suds-ing up.

I feel like whenever I’m getting myself clean — in the shower or even just washing my hands — I slow down for a minute to really appreciate and think kindly towards my body. I don’t even know when this little ritual started, but I notice when I’m scrubbing or rubbing shampoo in my hair I feel close and safe with my own body, and there is a moment of peace. Sometimes I can hang onto that good feeling all day long. —Sarah Karlan

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5. Making sure your closet is filled with clothes that fit comfortably.

I’ve learned to stop throwing away my “fat” clothes — sure, it feels good to get rid of them but it feels TERRIBLE to have to go out and buy more when my weight, inevitably, goes back up. This goes double for bras, which are just SO expensive. Also, I got rid of my scale a long time ago. I gauge my weight based on how I look and feel and how my clothes fit. —Deena Shanker

6. And buying clothes you actually like.

I actually started to get comfortable with myself in college, after I had gained about 20 pounds of extra weight on top of already being “too big for my height” according to that dumb BMI chart. What helped me most was forcing myself to buy cute clothing — especially underthings — for my size. If I’m going to be bigger, I might as well dress cute! I also started concentrating on my hair, face, and nails — nourishing them, making them cute, and generally being proud of them — because they’re part of my body, but they don’t have anything to do with my size. —embeebee

7. Taking time to relax.

Loving my body is a very complicated thing — I don’t necessarily love it as an object so much as love what is is capable of and what I can do to it; I like the potential it has as an agent of what my brain wants to do. A thing that helps me love it as a thing in and of itself to appreciate is taking a bath, though. I make a huge ritual of it and set my intentions for the week in the bath every Sunday, and exfoliate while I think about the stuff I accomplished during the week. Steaming my body and letting out all that bad energy that accumulates through the week is also super important to me. Bath time 4ever. —Arabelle Sicardi

8. Ignoring the scale.

I no longer weigh myself! It’s something small that I used to do that would trigger massive anxiety for me. Trying to be a certain weight is something I grew up doing, and I no longer let that control my actions or thoughts. I know when I’ve gained weight, because my pants won’t fit, and when that happens I just opt for a salad instead of a burger. Eventually I get back to my happy place, but I no longer have a number circling around my head and taunting me for weeks on end. —Erin LaRosa

10. Understanding that perspective can be flawed.

I’ll often look back on pictures at times where I felt really self-conscious and realize I had little to no concept of how I actually looked. I’m definitely not the best judge of my own appearance, which is an odd thing to realize since I spend the most time with me. —Alex Alvarez

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11. Finding beauty in other women.

As a transgender woman, who started her transition late, there’s a lot I don’t like about my body. Hormones can only be so effective. My main way of feeling better about myself is to compare myself to cisgender women, but in a good way: “That cisgender girl has smaller breasts, just like me, and she’s perfectly normal and beautiful. That cis girl has straighter hips, just like me, and she’s perfectly normal and beautiful. That cis girl has a squarer jaw, and she’s normal and beautiful. If I share so many things in common with cisgender girls, how can I not be normal and beautiful myself?” —suddenly-sara

12. And telling them about it.

Complimenting other women. Honestly telling others that you think they’re beautiful somehow boosts my mood and helps me see myself from another angle. If I find all these different women and their bodies beautiful, then mine is beautiful as well and deserves the same love I give others. —theacemerperson

13. Being kind to your reflection.

I no longer allow myself to look in the mirror unless I say one thing positive about myself. Me today: “Hi Lara, love your dress today.” —Lara Parker

14. Watching porn.

When I first started therapy following a very bad breakup, I couldn’t believe that anyone would find my body desirable. I had never had sex that didn’t hurt, and a part of me believed that I deserved this for having a fat body. Obviously, that was WACK-ASS THINKING, because I am a glorious female warrior and goddess of all that I survey, but I truly believed it. My therapist at the time suggested I seek out feminist erotica and porn that intentionally shows people’s bodies in all their glory — fat, thin, stretch-marked, wobbly bits, uneven boobs, body hair and all — experiencing pleasure without fetishizing them. This really helped. I was actually kind of surprised by how much it helped. Sorry to scandalize you, mom. —Kaye Toal

14. Living in the present.

I try to regularly remind myself that no matter how I feel about my body currently, I’ll one day wish I had the body I have now. I am in my prime; I will never be this young again, and I don’t want to waste my time with my current body putting it down. I also tell myself that it’s perfectly fine to want to be smaller/fitter/healthier, but that I don’t have to wait until I get there to love it now. Loving what I have now while working on something different will make the journey, and life, much easier. —Tracy Clayton

15. Decorating your body.

I’m pretty insecure with my body but before I get into the shower, I draw a smiley face on my tummy, because if it can be happy, so can I. –anonymous

16. Maybe even with a tattoo!

I’ve always been self-conscious about my hips (every summer brings that uncomfortable moment of buying large bikini bottoms to go with my small bikini top), but I figured they won’t be changing anytime soon, so I decided to embrace the broad, fleshy expanse as a canvas for a tattoo. Now those large bikini bottoms look bangin’. —Claudia Koerner

17. Challenging standards of beauty.

As a Mexican-American woman growing up in a predominately white community it took me a long time to realize that just because I don’t have a light complexion with blondish hair and blue/green/hazel eyes doesn’t mean I’m not beautiful too. Finding positive role models in cinema, media, and life helped tremendously. —terreisa

18. Redefining size.

Lifting weights has taught me to find beauty in my strength. I no longer work towards losing something but instead toward gaining something. I have a hard time saying that I’m bigger than I’ve ever been because I’m also stronger and healthier and happier because I constantly push my body further than I knew was possible. —Mackenzie Kruvant

19. And redefining strength.

I’m 24 and I was born with a congenital heart/lung defect. I’ve had a handful of major open heart surgeries, among other surgeries for health problems. I have scars that are visible to everyone. My body, while “broken” inside with a crappy heart, one working lung, etc., is my body. It’s kept me alive much longer than the doctors told my parents when I was a baby. I proudly wear my scars. I love and respect my body. While some may call it flawed, I find it beautiful and strong. —asitypethis

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20. Thinking about your impact on others.

When I can’t love myself for me, I try to think of how hating on my body or saying shitty things about myself would affect the li’l future feminists who are all around us. My mom talked shit about herself my entire life and I do NOT want that to be me, so when I can’t be strong for myself, I try and do it for feminists. —Julia Furlan

21. Thinking beyond your body.

A good trick is to look at yourself in the mirror for five minutes without moving at all. Don’t play with your hair, pick at your pores, etc. After five minutes, just smile at yourself. Eventually, since you’re not moving but your brain is still going, you start to realize what makes you you is the soul inside you. Your body is just a shell that your incredible life force lives in. Once you realize that you learn to be a little easier on your sack of bones and flesh. —Ashly Perez

22. Exploring alternate realities.

I play a lot of video games. A lot. What I like to do is create my characters based off my body type and appearance. There is nothing like seeing yourself saving the world. I can hunt massive monsters. I am the Inquisitor. I can even play guitar with the best of them! —dagger32

23. Getting naked.

I’ve started spending as much time as possible naked. I noticed that I was spending almost all my time in clothing (aside from showering) and it was making things worse because a) I didn’t like the way I looked in clothing and b) it disconnected me from my body. So I decided to spend more time with just my body. I don’t cover up in the locker room, and I sleep naked, and it’s actually helped me become more comfortable with it because now it’s part of me. –Anonymous

24. And then dancing.

I’ll dance naked in front of a mirror to awesome music and tell myself, “I looooook good.” –Chelsea

25. Experimenting with makeup.

When I started researching makeup to write a few portfolio pieces, I realized I’d never really worn foundation or done anything to my eyebrows. Since getting into makeup and beauty, I’ve really come to appreciate the fact that I have naturally beautiful, flawless skin, and eyebrows that just grow on fleek. Top that off with thick, shiny, luscious hair. So by learning about makeup, I’ve learned to love myself even more. —cwnerd12

26. (Lipstick specifically)

Lipstick fixes almost everything. When life sucks and the patriarchy is getting you down, a fine lipstick in your favorite shade (I love dark wines!) makes all the difference. —ladyypreshpresh

27. Stepping out of your fashion comfort zone.

Sometimes I catch myself admiring another lady’s outfit and then thinking about how “that looks great on her, but ~I~ could never pull it off.” Then I deliberately make it a point when I go shopping to find something similar and try it on. A lot of the time it works JUST FINE on me, and sometimes even turns into a style I wear all the time. Living by internalized rules about what I “can” and “can’t” wear based on the shape of my body is a downer and a waste of time, and I’ve found this to be a good way of walking back that judgy little internal voice. —Rachel Sanders

28. Just buying the pants.

For years I obsessively restricted my eating, and then for a couple more years I restricted it less so. During that time, I gained weight and felt really bad about it. I graduated from college and started a new job. I became obsessed with buying pants, and devastated every time I tried on a pair. I wanted something perfect: not too expensive, work appropriate but cool, flattering. I explained how much of a failure the search had made me feel like to an older friend and she laughed. “Just buy the pants!” she said, recommending I just go for a pair, and not expect them to solve my problems or perfectly embody my identity.

I did what she said — bought some pants, didn’t love them, got rid of them, bought more pants — but for whatever reason, think of that phrase all the time. Every time I know I’m working too hard to police my body or setting unreasonable expectations for how I’d like to feel, I’m like: “Fuck, just buy the pants.” –Anonymous

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29. Leaving love notes to yourself.

I give myself daily positive affirmations by just doing the simplest things; whether it’s just writing the tiniest heart on my hand or thigh in pen, or writing, “You’re beautiful!” on sticky notes and putting that on my mirror. It makes all the difference. —junkiexprincess

30. Or a love list!

I have a list of everything I love about my body — my dark long-lashed eyes, my high waist, my long legs, my dark curls — taped to my mirror, written in giant letters so I can read it every time I want to love my body. —sociopathofalltheprettytardises

31. Finding a power phrase.

One way my friend makes herself feel great is surrounding herself with the words, “Je suis une deesse” which means “I am a goddess” in French. It empowers her. —willamettstone

32. Or a daily mantra.

When I was recovering from an eating disorder, one of my online recovery friends told me to look in the mirror every morning and say, “I love myself unconditionally, no matter what. Food is my friend, not my foe.” I genuinely feel like it helps. –Anonymous

33. And saying it again and again.

Being a large lady and disabled, mine has been a love/hate relationship with my body. What I do to deal with that is, after a shower, while I’m brushing my teeth and putting on all my lotions, is to really look at my face. I look at my eyes and nose, which I really like about my face. I work with my hair to get it the way I want it. Then, just before I leave the bathroom, I look in the mirror and tell myself, “You look good.” Same when I’m just about to go out. Once I’m all dressed and ready, I look in the mirror and say, “You look good.” —uraniabce

34. Keeping your own sexy secret.

Wear a bra and/or panties that make you feel cute, pretty, sexy, whatever you want to feel. No one but you can see it, but it can make you feel good the whole day. —mpromise268

35. Focusing on the basics.

I look at how much my body can do. It carries me. It breathes for me. It pumps blood through my veins. It can give people hugs. It can work hard. It can feel pleasure. It can feel pain. It is truly incredible, and its value should not be limited by what it looks like. —naivevegas

36. Finding the stories in your “flaws.”

I stand in front of the mirror when dressing and automatically see my flaws. Then I remind myself that this soft tummy held three perfect children; these saggy breasts nourished three children; my dimply butt has sat and rocked away fears, heartbreak, and 4 a.m. earaches; my flabby arms soothe, love, and reassure with just one hug; my thunder thighs have paced the floor all night with a colicky baby, raced to the finish line cheering my kids on, and walked a thousand adventures with them. My body is magic. My body is home. –Anonymous

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37. Embracing vanity.

I love to make myself look beautiful, not for anyone except myself. I put on lotions that make me smell like vanilla and makeup that makes ME feel lovely. I allow myself to be vain. I feel like women often don’t do this because there is so much shame behind a woman loving herself, like they are full of themselves, but I think it’s really quite beautiful. —queenofrussia

38. Standing up straight.

I refrain from slouching. Having good posture makes me feel more confident. —icecreamcakeandchocolate

39. Being your own nude model.

One day I took a nude picture of myself and I looked like a piece of art. I realized then that my body is a work of art and while not everyone may like it, all that matters is the artist’s opinion. And I am the artist. –Anonymous

40. Losing those PJs.

I sleep naked. It’s way more comfortable and I feel better in my own skin. I don’t feel like I’m covering anything up and it helps me get used to my little flaws. —eh-malee

41. Exploring sports and exercise.

For me it’s all about sport activities. Not in a looking-good-in-the-mirror way, but in sweating, running, making today more than yesterday, feeling how all your muscles are working, feeling endorphin that fills your body. Best feeling in the world. It’s all about step-by-step doing more, and feeling better about myself with each day. You run and somehow everything starts to look so simple and easy to solve. It’s of course different for every woman, but I found the way to love my body and myself in sport. —evleoni

42. Figuring out triggers and avoiding them.

I don’t keep a full body mirror in my house anymore. It helps me massively! I also tell the doctor I don’t want to know my weight when I go to the office. I don’t want to know the fluctuations. —Julie Gerstein

43. Highlighting what you love.

I try and pick at least one body part or feature that I really love each day, and then I’ll dress accordingly. Am I having a great boob day? Then I’m gonna wear my best bra and the lowest cut shirt I can get away with. Great eye day? You bet I’m loading up mascara, Rose Tyler style. And if I’m not feeling fab? Then I’m gonna be as cozy as possible. Bring on the slipper socks and fuzzy scarves. —themcgeek

44. Looking through someone else’s eyes.

Write about their body from the perspective of a lover or good friend. Imagine how someone who values and adores you would see your assets and flaws, and realize that’s how people you care about actually do see you. It’s how you are. —tiltilla

45. Treating yourself like the babe you are.

I check out my own butt in the mirror whenever I can. It’s not the greatest butt even, but it still helps with my self-esteem. –Anonymous

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This Is How To Dress For Your Favorite Body Feature

This Is How To Dress For Your Favorite Body Feature

If you got it, flaunt it.

1. It’s easy to search for the next “miracle suit” that will hide all your trouble areas, or look to blogs and magazines for ways to strategically camouflage your body. Instead, we decided to find a way to dress for our favorite features.

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