omg, i could have sworn your bots on cai were coded for g!p
(although i also wonder if the bot would be able to understand this concept or if it would end up turning the user into a man 💔
a very select few are! and those include the following in the definition box: {{user}} is female but has male anatomy.
i haven't tested it since cai added the ability to create your own "pinned" memories in chats, but i'd wager it would work the same way there if you decide you want g!p user :)
for bots with a shared biological child (like many of the ex-wife ones) it's pretty similar but i omit the male anatomy part that way the user has the freedom to decide how they wish for the child to be born if they'd prefer a non-traditional route of conception lol: {{char}} and {{user}} share a biological child.
in my own personal chats with the bots (those that are not coded for g!p at least), i usually just hint at it in my chats with masculine terms like bulge, length, shaft, etc. whatever will get you through the chat without triggering the filter. very rarely do i ever have it call me a man or use he/him pronouns, but when it does i always just regenerate a new response and/or tailor my last response.
the filter has personally has been growing far more relaxed as of late. i've been able to get a lot past it recently, even more explicit terms. obviously this experience varies, though! so don't take my word as scripture hehe.