#bpd ask

[shit-im-bpd-too-now]

My anger has been so f*cking bad, can anyone recommend angry song? I need to get it out of my system when I’m by myself.

[bpdbisexual]

are self diagnosis' as valid as doctors?

No, because self dx is very biased and you probably don’t have the medical education to diagnose anyone, self dx is good for when u can’t go to a professional and it gives u some kind of idea of what’s going on with u, it’s definitely not accurate but i think it’s acceptable in certain situations

[little-vampyrus]

Ask me stuff. I’m sleepy and feel like talking

[bpdwhite-blog]

Could you explain splitting for me? I think I have bpd and I think I might split on people. I tell them that 'I'm sorry for randomly getting angry and hating you but I love you now' is there any way I could phrase this like 'I have a mental illness that makes my opinions of people drastically change' or is that not what splitting is? Idk maybe I'm just a shitty person and I don't have bpd but I feel like I do

Actually what you described is splitting! Now I can’t determine whether you have or not have bpd but you do have that symptom. Well, maybe phrasing it like you first said doesn’t sound very good to someone who doesn’t have/understand bpd because they’ll only remember the “hating you” part, so I believe the best way would be something similar to what you said. Maybe: “Hey, I’m sorry for how I treated you before, I’m not trying to make an excuse but just for you to know I have a mental illness that can make my opinions of people change drastically without a proper reason but that doesn’t mean anything because when it passes, I know deep down that I do care about you. I’m trying to fight against those urges but sometimes I can’t help it and I’m really sorry. Please don’t take it personal”

I suggest that you say this if the person has noticed a change in your attitude towards them. I mean, I don’t think it’s appropiate or good for the other person to know everytime you split on them because it could eventually hurt them or make them distant.

I hope it helped you love, take care ♥

[bpdbisexual]

hey! so i was wondering something. i know people that have bpd generally have mood swings. are these moods always between the two extremes: feeling happiness and then the other minute feeling suicidal? or it could be feeling at peace and then the other minute feeling empty/sad? i want to learn more about bpd from people that have it, so i hope you don't mind me asking!

The mood swings at least for me are pretty much all over the place from calm to anxious and sad to happy, basically the mood swings aren’t really black and white it’s more like a thousand moods fighting constantly to be the “main mood” and the main mood switching all the time, idk if that makes any sense but i hope i atleast answered your question in some kinda way

[bpdbisexual]

I am Kayla and i was diagnosed with BPD. I don't really know what it is so i blatantly deny it. I have incredibly low self esteem and suffer with an eating disorder. I was heavy into substance abuse and have been to rehab for a total of 18 months in since 2015. People call me pretty and a lot of guys like me, but i feel too disgusted with myself to let them touch me. Ive also self harmed and tried to die. I feel angry all the time and go through stages of binge eating and starving. What is BPD?

I’m in a bit of a hurry so can’t answer to this all by myself cause the answer would most definitely be long and take some time so i’m sending you some links.

Here’s a link to a BPD checklist: http://shitborderlinesdo.tumblr.com/post/102600734264/the-borderline-personality-disorder-checklist

And here’s some symptoms and info about bpd: http://borderlinebreann.tumblr.com/post/117626478967/bpd-symptoms-and-features

I also recommend you to go in more depth of your bpd and experiences w it with your therapist, since everyone’s experiences with it and symptoms etc. are somewhat different.

Good luck, you are valid and strong💗

[kentuckyfriedfungus]

25 and 26 for the BPD ask!

25. Do you have any friends with BPD? If so, how is that friendship different than friendships with people who don't have BPD?

I do my best to try and treat all of my friends equally, diagnosed or not.

26. Favorite songs to listen to when you're in a bad mood?

Depends on what you call a bad mood. When i'm pissed off, metal is my usual go to. When i'm depressed, it's a mashup version of Toxic by Britney Spears. Specifically Toxic but it's Change by In the House of Flies. That song hits waaaay differently when you're in the abyss again.

[bpdbisexual]

I feel the need to cry. But it won't come out. (i just wanted to tell someone that dw)

ugh that feeling is the worst, because you know the crying will help at least a bit, but you can’t physically cry… i hope you’re doing better now