pros + cons of dating scoups?
Disclaimer: All of these are just based on my sometimes-biased opinions and whatever I wrote below does not, in any way, completely and correctly describes Scoupstastu.
S.coups // Choi Seungcheol
Pros
When Seungcheol is in love, he is definitely 6 feet deep in love. Nothing else matters–your age, your appearance, your mannerisms, your flaws, nothing. I imagine he’s someone who focuses on how he feels about you and he doesn’t see anything else other than that, so he wouldn’t get your insecurities at times (but that won’t stop him from making you love yourself!).
Skinships skinships skinships. He loves glomping his significant other and he isn’t afraid nor embarrassed to kiss you in public. He’d love to hold your hands any time of the day. He’s also one to give warm back hugs and cuddles and just be such a cute, tall human-Koala.
He is also caring, no doubt about that. He’s always looking out for your well being and would always know what to do in situations like when you’re sick, when you’re on your period, and even just in plain, lazy mornings where both of you are doing nothing. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s the kind of guy who would wake up early just to make you breakfast and take good care of you after a pretty intense session the night before. Heh.
With that aside, he gives me the impression that he is pretty proud of your relationship. Sure, he’ll be slightly nervous when he gets to meet your parents, but his confidence on his love for you overpowers it by a little bit which means you’ll have a nice dinner with your family without the awkward atmosphere you were expecting.
He’ll make you experience stuff you wouldn’t even dare think you’d do by yourself and he’ll do it in a way you’re comfortable with–he wouldn’t force you but I’m betting you he doesn’t need to because you’ll feel so assured that he’s there and he’s got you. Stuff like bungee jumping (if you’re acrophobic he won’t push it, of course), dancing to their choreography, singing, and all that stuff you haven’t done before (but ofc not the extremes). He wants you to enjoy your life together with him.
He thinks before he acts. Would you like it if he acted this way? Would this be more beneficial for the two of you? He highly treasures your relationship and would be careful to not put any strain on it.
I’ve also noticed that he’s naturally mature, like, it’s not just because he’s the leader of SEVENTEEN but he gives off the feeling that he’s been mature way before that. (I think) someone who’s naturally mature is sensitive to his/her significant other’s feelings and is the one who consciously or unconsciously grounds the relationship (idk how to say it but kind of like the one who keeps it in place? Sets the borders justly? Idk).
He’s also someone who strives to better himself and is always ready to talk about what you’re not comfortable with in the relationship. He’s great at adapting and adjusting, but he also knows when to push his needs so he doesn’t end up as the only one who gives between you two.
Cons
If you’re not one for skinship or PDA, then I think you and Seungcheol are going to have a bit of a problem. It’s okay to set boundaries, but if you keep on stopping him almost all of the time, he might… I don’t know, not feel the connection and your relationship might turn dull? It’s not the deciding point for him, but he really enjoys being able to do it.
If you have a lot of insecurities, he might not be the best one to get advice from because, as I’ve said, he’s way too deep into the relationship that he just can’t completely comprehend your insecurities. He doesn’t see them so he doesn’t understand why you’d pay attention to them. However, it would also make him feel that he has somewhat failed to be a good boyfriend to you and that he hasn’t shown enough appreciation for you. This might stress him out and would try to seek advice to his members or his superiors.
When I mentioned he thinks before he acts, he really does think to the point that he might overthink at times. You’ll have to be able to at least sense if he’s overthinking again because he keeps it to himself and it might explode into a huge argument if it isn’t dealt with while it was building up.
He can be too giving at times that he might forget himself. Even if he’s tired due to practice and schedules, he’d still try to make things up for the stuff he missed and would feel guilty for not being there most of the time. He loves his work but he loves you, too, and would probably unintentionally destroy his body on trying to hold both in the process. He needs to know when to rest and that you’ll have to assure him that you love him and that he should focus on his career, too.
Speaking of heavy schedules, he might just suddenly snap at one point due to him being so tired, and he’d feel incredibly guilty for taking it out on you.
When the two of you get in an argument and give each other the silent treatment, it’ll break you into pieces because you’ll miss him so much. You’ll greatly miss your moments together, his texts, and most of all, him. He’ll make you fall so hard into the relationship with him that an argument may break you a lot, resulting to you into avoiding conflicts even though small ones are healthy for relationships. Having absolutely no conflicts may have a long-term negative impact on one’s relationship, so it’ll be bad if you avoid them at all costs.
I hope I did him some justice! Haha. I wrote this while birds were… I don’t know, fighting or mating or whatever on my window and it was noisy af. I really enjoyed this so if anyone wants to request other members go right ahead!