#bslrelationship

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Having a crush at this age is very typical and for someone to have mutual feelings towards exciting as someone unexpectedly finds you appealing. Sometimes, that’s not the case - as hurtful as it feels, that is common considering not every person you take interest in will not take interest in you. This is simply a universal concept. It’s important to accept it in order to move on. 2️⃣ With that said, it's okay and normal to feel "crushed" for a bit when your crush no longer has mutual feelings. However, to be in a depressive state and experience panic/anxiety attacks when you normally wouldn’t is unhealthy and extreme in such an ordinary situation. It's important to learn to be able to deal with your feelings accordingly, otherwise, it'll be too difficult for you to healthily cope with major issues than this. 3️⃣ Crushes come and go. From now until forever, you'll have plenty of other crushes and will most likely lose interest in your current crush - this guarantees more heartbreak which is why I stress to learn to healthily cope with such a normal situation in life. It's difficult to see there are so many fish in the sea but I guarantee you there are. You’re still young and it's unlikely you'll be interested in one person who doesn't feel the same for too long. ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Your boyfriend is probably still at a stage where he feels he needs to be rude to receive attention + acknowledgement from his friends. As well as trying to be cool, funny, and tough. To friends, they’re rough and less emotional. To girlfriends, they’re softer and more approachable. Regardless, there will always be a change in personality around friends. 2️⃣ If you genuinely no longer love him then don't continue a relationship just because you don't want to be alone. Leading him on until you find someone else is selfish and unfair for him. End the relationship instead of continuing to be unhappy. You can't say you'll never get another boyfriend - you have the rest of your life to meet new people. There will be potential candidates in university, the workplace, new neighborhoods, the possibilities are endless. ~ 🅱️ (credit to Ellie)

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ If you want communication, you have to give it too. Deep conversations are only as difficult as you make them and it's important to remember that they are not always fun and games, especially when it includes personal info, strong opposing viewpoints, and emotional feelings. Are you looking for meaningful answers? Ask meaningful questions. Are you looking for his viewpoint about sharing a future? Ask questions about your relationship down the road. 2️⃣ Are you looking for answers pertaining possible personal issues? This is where you draw the line and make yourself available to him in an emotional manner. Inform that if there's anything he wants to release, share, or overcome he can always talk to you and as his girlfriend, provide him with the emotional support he may need. You can even play 20 questions OR alternate asking one another questions and both answering them to the best of your abilities. 3️⃣ Your main goal is to trust each other with your thoughts and feelings as much as you do with your bodies, right? Don't hesitate to let your boyfriend in on taking the steps to improving your relationship. ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ If you have to ask, the answer is most likely a no. Seems to me he isn't interested in his girlfriend as much as he says he is. However, if that's incorrect, it's clear he chose to ask you this, not only out of curiousity but also because he probably isn't "getting any" in his current relationship (possibly because his girlfriend refuses to) 2️⃣ With that said, it's possible he is sexually frustrated and resorted to asking you in order to find out if you're an option to his solution, regardless of how close a "friendship" you two share. Whether you're ready, you're not ready, or if you trust him, it's the WORST idea to interfere in his relationship. Even if he requested the idea, you're enabling it and cheating takes TWO. 3️⃣ Imagine being in his girlfriend's shoes. You'd be clueless about the boy you're really interested in contemplating cheating on you, especially if he doesn't respect your decision on engaging in sexual activity. That would damage a relationship. Don't be a partial reason for the heartbreak of someone else. Don't be that "other woman" as it gives you an irresponsible image. Respect your friend's relationship as you'd want someone to do the same ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ It seems neither of you are emotionally stable to be in a serious relationship. If someone is "dark and lonely" or "pretty broken" it's no coincidence you're experiencing troubles in relation. The both of you may be in a similar emotional state to feel safe and compatible but it's important to take care of YOUR emotional/mental health before someone else's. 2️⃣ It's common to experience relationship troubles but if you're constantly distressed, receiving a lack of TLC, afraid to share your issues, and are overall unhappy those are red flags to end your relationship - it’s unhealthy. Sharing your issues with a S.O can help you two in many ways. The fact he's insensitive to yours shows he doesn't care as much as he says. If yall can’t talk about your own issues, what makes you capable of solving your relationship issues? 3️⃣ This is your fifth boyfriend in a year? I suggest taking a break from relationships to start taking care of yourself. It's better to be happy out of a relationship than be unhappy in one. You shouldn't stay in an unhealthy relationship just because you want one. ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ First and foremost, you have to find the reason behind your apparent issue within a relationship whether it be fear of commitment, fear of judgement, inability or fear to be romantic, etc. Whatever it is, that's your biggest issue other than the one at hand because the issue within is one that needs to be settled in order to move on with any relationship. 2️⃣ On a more broad note, the less of yourself you give to your partner, the more boring your relationship becomes thus leading to failure if you aren't doing your part. Letting your partner in and sharing yourself is one of the most important steps in a relationship and moving on within one another - refusing to take part in that will only stop your relationship in its tracks. What's the point of being in one when you have no desire to improve? This step gives your partner the amazing opportunity to learn more about your qualities, traits, wants, needs, interests, dislikes, etc to learn more about you and vise versa to correctly contribute to the relationship. 3️⃣ It doesn't have to be all-or-nothing in a sense you have to share your deepest secrets and darkest past in month one but opening yourself up with this person day by day or whenever you feel comfortable is what it's all about. When the both of you do this, it gives your relationship the life it craves in place of that boredom so the two of you are able to move on, have fun, learn about each other, learn from each other, find shared interests, etc. ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ As she is your friend, make sure not to build any resentment toward her or it could strain your relationship. Seeing I’ve experience this, the best thing to do is spend more time with your crush away from your friend. It might seem scary, but they'll be able to get to know you more and focus on you. 2️⃣ Make yourself more noticeable by taking part in conversations often. Or commenting on his skills or appearance. Don't be afraid to flirt a bit, either. You can say things like, "I really like your tie,” or similar things that will draw his attention to you. ~ 🅱️ (credit to Rachel)

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ It seems both your friends and boyfriend are in the wrong. Both should respect your judgement and decisions, especially when it comes to your other relationships. For your friends, you should think over this: Is your boyfriend's opinion affecting how you view them or are they really not true friends? If it's the latter, I believe you should remain with your boyfriend and find new friends with better qualities. 2️⃣ Try becoming closer with those you know and have common interests with already. It's easier than trying to build a new bond from nothing. You can also find friends through clubs, sports, and other activities. 3️⃣ As for your boyfriend, you should evaluate him as well. Does he do this to all your friends? Does he respect you and your judgement? Is he jealous of them? If he is disrespectful, jealous, and often criticizing, he is probably not the best choice for a boyfriend. Make sure you aren't upset because you've been together a long time, and that you truly miss him, not just the relationship. Being scared is okay, it means you care. ~ 🅱️ (credit to Rachel)