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Wow - what an era ❤️‍🔥

Not sure if anyone actually follows this blog or even remembers our old Instagram account (which ended up turning into my personal that has been abandoned, lol) But I got distracted, as I do, and started looking through old photos delete to make room for new. I saw the screenshots I’ve held onto. some probably already posted, others never before seen but wanted to share them for old times sake 🥹

Also as a form of letting go, reminiscing and showing gratitude for where I am at present. I am now 25 years of age (this means I created the BSL Instagram about a decade ago 🤯) and my fellow BSL friends/members are either the same, if not, close enough. I occasionally speak with one of the OG’s through social medias and can only extend my hopes that the others throughout the entirety of BSL are living well and in alignment, members and supporters 🖤

Thank you for sharing, creating, embracing, cherishing and living in that sweet corner of the Internet with us. I didn’t know I needed it and I’m glad I was able to find solace and that little corner. Whew, didn’t know this would be this long thank you for reading and being here with me. Signing off, OG BSL 💌

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Right now you can visit that scoreboard and easily look up whether or not your reps support the Congressional Review Act resolution.

This CRA will restore the net neutrality rules the FCC dismantled back in November 2017. They have 177 signatures, but need 44 more. You can help make that happen. This grassroots effort is working. Just two days ago Rep. Mike Coffman listened to his constituents from Colorado and became the first Republican to support the Democrat-led CRA. Keep putting that same pressure on your congresspeople. Urge them to sign the petition. If your congressperson has already pledged to support the CRA, reblog this post, add the new widget to your Tumblr (just copy and paste the small line of code from Battle For The Net right into the customize theme page on the web), and shout out what’s happening on all of your social media accounts. We have to spread the word.

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1️⃣ This is a compilation of positive comments, words of encouragement, etc that I received throughout all of time we were active on Instagram. I’ve reposted and deleted many but there’s more where this came from!  2️⃣ I realize the font and format of these photos is basically ugly but I’m just going to repost them as they are. These are all screenshots of Instagram comments or ask.fm asks with a cute font I had on Android 😅 it’d be too tedious to recreate them just for aesthetic purposes plus, it kind of gives me nostalgia. You’ll notice I have many formats of compliments and testimonials so whether they’re ugly or pretty, they have a place here no matter what. 3️⃣ Read through them if you like, they’ll make you feel fuzzy inside 😘 More soon! ~ 🅱️

Is it normal for girls to watch porn and masturbate?

Absolutely!

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ ✅ ─ INTRO: A good, strong friendship can provide: • A sense of belonging • Confidence • A sense of security and comfort • Guidance with personal issues • An outlet of expression • A safe place to talk about your feelings • Fun and exciting memories ✅ ─ BUILDING STRENGTH – Strong friendships are built on trust, honesty, loyalty, respect. • Trust each other (to keep secrets, not spread rumors, etc.) • Be authentic around each other • Help each other out • Put in effort ✅ ─ IN A ROCKY FRIENDSHIP? – In a rocky friendship you constantly feel: • Afraid to open up • Lack of trust • Lack of respect • Jealousy • Contemplating the end ✅ ─ ENDING TOXIC FRIENDSHIPS – Before breaking up, consider the following: • Only you know what's best for yourself • There is no rush • Your happiness ✅ ─ DRIFTING APART • It can be hard to experience but it can open up new possibilities. • Sometimes no one is to blame, it just happens. • It's hard to accept but try moving on • Not all friendships are worth the time and effort of rekindling ✅ ─ EXCLUSION: - This could mean your friends are hiding things, doing things without you, or purposely avoiding you. Ways you can deal are: • Avoid getting frustrated, you could scare your friend off • Avoid retaliation • Keep yourself busy with other things • Confront them ✅ ─ JEALOUSY: – it's important to learn how to deal with these feelings so you can act upon them in a responsible manner. • Realize everyone has strengths and weaknesses. • Don’t compare yourself to others • Spend time with other fiends ~ 🅱️ (credit to Taylor)

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ There’s a difference between pleasing others and consoling them. Comforting those you care about isn't something you should see as an obligation but a privilege to support them. Because you want support in return, don’t be afraid to reach out to them! If they don’t console you, it may be because they don’t know you're upset and cannot read your mind. We want our friends to come running when we're hurt but they won’t know unless we speak up. 2️⃣ No one is giving you a chance because you haven't given yourself one nor are you being open-minded or realistic with yourself. Its normal to speak when you're spoken to but what about that concept makes you feel out of place other than the assumption you want someone to speak to you? If you desire communication, step out of your comfort zone and initiate contact with someone. You can’t always rely on someone to communicate with you first. Sometimes the best conversations start with you but you'll never know until you try. 3️⃣ Being more mature than your peers is nothing to be ashamed of and I'm questioning why you would think so. It plays a very important role in your life by building your character. Take me for example. If hiding your true self and being surrounded by ignorant peers is tiresome, take the time to share those viewpoints you've held onto and enlighten those to the point you've become responsible for expanding their knowledge. Once you put your true self to action, being you isn't all that devastating unless you're doing nothing about it in a positive way. ~ 🅱️

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Having a crush at this age is very typical and for someone to have mutual feelings towards exciting as someone unexpectedly finds you appealing. Sometimes, that’s not the case - as hurtful as it feels, that is common considering not every person you take interest in will not take interest in you. This is simply a universal concept. It’s important to accept it in order to move on. 2️⃣ With that said, it's okay and normal to feel "crushed" for a bit when your crush no longer has mutual feelings. However, to be in a depressive state and experience panic/anxiety attacks when you normally wouldn’t is unhealthy and extreme in such an ordinary situation. It's important to learn to be able to deal with your feelings accordingly, otherwise, it'll be too difficult for you to healthily cope with major issues than this. 3️⃣ Crushes come and go. From now until forever, you'll have plenty of other crushes and will most likely lose interest in your current crush - this guarantees more heartbreak which is why I stress to learn to healthily cope with such a normal situation in life. It's difficult to see there are so many fish in the sea but I guarantee you there are. You’re still young and it's unlikely you'll be interested in one person who doesn't feel the same for too long. ~ 🅱️

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Sometimes those of us who suffer with mental illness find comfort in our suffering and choose to stay there because we're used to it. However, you're completely capable of changing that + telling yourself, "Today is the day I'll walk the road to recovery and take the necessary steps to do so." With that said, even if psychiatry wasn't your choice and you just don't have the motivation to recover, it's still a step that can be taken for you to actually practice learning what recovery is like, how it works, and what you should do to make it work. 2️⃣ With your current state of mind, it's probably difficult to consider my input but it's not impossible. I'm a living/breathing example. Of course, recovery isn't simple but taking those steps will help you get motivated to trudge out of the darkness. You may not want to recover today or in five months but recovery is your choice, don't forget. All you need is yourself and, most importantly, commitment. If you are not committed, you're not trying. 3️⃣ Seeing you've only had therapy two sessions, you don't know what they’re capable of yet. Therapy isn't about compatibility, it's about receiving the choices and alternatives they give you in order to better your life. If after a few sessions you aren’t satisfied with their personality or techniques, find a new one - just don’t claim lack of compatibility this early. They’re in the same boat, you're learning about them + they're learning about you. After months of seeing my newest therapist, I became comfortable with him and he's the best I've had! 4️⃣ I want to stress; you aren't the person you were before mental illness. During recovery, you'll learn about the person you're to become after such tribulation and a whole deal about your new self that wasn't there before! Improving your person and mental health by recovery is the greatest gift you can give yourself. The only way to get there is to truly want to recover and take the necessary steps to do so. ~ 🅱️

#bslmentalhealth #bslphysicalhealth

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Lots of changing will take place in your body for the next few years. Whatever you end up with, you should be satisfied with or accepting of. Some girls have a difficult time doing so. We all have an ideal image of what we want to look like. Sometimes, we don't fit it - when you look at your developing stage, you don't like what you see. That can be normal as your body is growing and shaping and figuring itself out. 2️⃣ Thick thighs are usually a genetic thing you inherit from family. Large calves can be natural for women. Its common for a growing girl to have thighs that are a tad bit bigger than the rest of the body. It doesn't mean you’re fat. 3️⃣ It isn't bad you are “obsessing” over this, but if it’s truly the case, it's not good, either. I honestly think you have nothing to worry about. You will most likely have different thighs by the time you are finished going through puberty. ~ 🅱️ (credit to Sophia)

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ ℹ️ The key to stop hating someone is to start looking at their positives rather than their negatives. If someone is really talkative to the point of annoyance, think of it as being outgoing and full of life. Another thing, if it is a more personal matter, is to forgive somebody of what they've done wrong to you. It's hard to let go, but sometimes, you just have to take in a deep breath and let it go. The best way to do this is to talk to them (if they know about your hatred towards them, if not, write it down) and say your feelings. Say things like "I'm sorry if I've treated you badly in the past, but I felt wronged by you because... (whatever reason) so I really want to turn over a new leaf in our relationship. Can we just make amends?" ~ 🅱️ (credit to Rachel)

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ I have scoliosis myself and learned receiving necessary treatment is crucial for my health. It’s best you share with your friend how significant the use of a back brace can be, especially for her emotional health in the long run. She will have a bright future with a straighter back! 2️⃣ Help her think realistically and calm her fear by sharing pros and cons of wearing the brace. PROS: •it can be covered •can be removed with certain activities •curvature won’t be visible •can be removed while sleeping •improvement - CONS: •Uncomfortable/tiresome •Staring or remarks from others. Less cons than pros if you think about it. 3️⃣ Walking around slumped over in public is more embarrassing than wearing a brace that could correct it. If poked fun at her, help her defend herself. You can also address she has a medical condition not worth poking fun over, they’ll most likely shut up. Wearing the brace isn't as bad as it seems when you realize it does more positivity for her future than harm and refusing to wear the brace will worsen her condition and bring more pain and fear than she has now. ~ 🅱️

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Throughout high school, it's common to no longer be friends with those you were friends with before. Not only will you meet plenty of students who have similar interests resulting in new friendships but people also change for better or worse resulting in ended friendships. 2️⃣ Those you trust who purposely cause you pain are clearly not true friends as they’ve disregarded your feelings. Don’t allow them to treat you as a doormat or accept this accept this behavior. Holding onto a toxic friendship is self deprivation. Regardless of how long you've known them, they have changed and betrayed you - its unhealthy for you to remain friends with them. 3️⃣ Friends should take pride in being with you and would never insult you intentionally. They should help you solve your problems and pick you up when you're down and most definitely support and encourage you. Fortunately, it seems you're lucky enough to have current friends who share majority of those traits so why continue a friendship with others who do the opposite? It's best you start spending more time with your current friends and cut off the toxic ones for your emotional well being. You deserve friends who carry positive vibes and treat you in the best way possible. ~ 🅱️

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ ✅ ─ WHAT YOU'LL NEED: • Introversion, depression, social anxiety or shyness can effect the process of making friends in terms of feelings associated with the connection between yourself and others. Maybe you've felt paranoid about the outcome or afraid of rejection, judgement, or stumbling on your words, etc. These feelings will continue to hold you back if you do not have MOTIVATION and PERSEVERANCE. 🆘 ─ HOW THE ESSENTIALS HELP: • You can get outta your shell. Sometimes we have to take risks and work a little harder to reach out to others, that's okay. But we have to keep trying in order to build communication skills and new friendships. If socializing isn’t made, you're gonna experience loneliness and pain of not communicating with others when desired. Don't hesitate to make the first move if you truly wanna build friendships. It won't be easy but needs to be done if you want to positively improve your social life. 🔢 ─ STEPS YOU CAN TAKE: • Socializing and making social risks are CRUCIAL to your emotional/social development. This doesn't mean to attempt “fitting in" or "dangerous stunts" to get others to speak to you. It just means the more you learn to socialize, the more skillful you become at making friends and holding conversations. • TRY THESE: appear approachable, greet someone, crack a joke, tell a story, ask a question, compliment someone, ask for their contact info, etc - these gestures will make others notice you as an outgoing person. ↩️ ─ CHANGE YOUR MINDSET: • Never say you "cannot help" you can learn to quickly overcome what’s holding you back •You can't keep new friendships if you're beating yourself up. Remove negative thoughts like people not wanting you around, thinking you're unusual or odd, or not worthy of their time - most of the time it's false. If others didn't want you around, they'd make it crystal clear and wouldn't have befriended you. • If they aren't fond of you, you can try again with others who value you - this is why motivation and perseverance is important • If you go into friendships with a self degrading mindset, you're gonna believe their thoughts are yours. Think about being the best possible friend you can be. 💟 ─ TRY YOUR BEST BUT NOT TOO HARD: • We all feel lonely from lack of communication with previous friends but you can always reach out to them during a time of need. Remember to do your part in a friendship.. • "Best friends" don't happen overnight and aren't a necessity. Having no best friend doesn’t mean you can’t cherish friendships you already have. As long as you know those you're friends with are caring, empathetic, and make effort, that's all you need. ~ 🅱️

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Your boyfriend is probably still at a stage where he feels he needs to be rude to receive attention + acknowledgement from his friends. As well as trying to be cool, funny, and tough. To friends, they’re rough and less emotional. To girlfriends, they’re softer and more approachable. Regardless, there will always be a change in personality around friends. 2️⃣ If you genuinely no longer love him then don't continue a relationship just because you don't want to be alone. Leading him on until you find someone else is selfish and unfair for him. End the relationship instead of continuing to be unhappy. You can't say you'll never get another boyfriend - you have the rest of your life to meet new people. There will be potential candidates in university, the workplace, new neighborhoods, the possibilities are endless. ~ 🅱️ (credit to Ellie)

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ I want to address your sexuality, first. In no way am I determining it for you as it’s not my place but it seems you're unsure as to what you really prefer judging from your confession. That’s okay because sexual preferences can change. You don’t have to be certain but it can make things easier. Are you physically, sexually, and romantically attracted to both sexes? Or are you biromantic or simply bi-curious? Labels aren't mandatory but it's important to understand yourself in order move forward with relationships, crushes, etc. 2️⃣ If you believe you are not ready to come out to your family just yet, it's probably not the best idea to impulsively do so at the hand of your first date or fling with the same sex. Not only will you most likely feel pressured into sharing something you're uncomfortable doing but you'll also feel frightened and angry for not taking certain aspects into consideration like your future for a lack of an effected outcome. 3️⃣ I think it's best you maintain a friendship and learn more about this person than jumping into dating. If you're already friends then you're one step ahead of the game. You don’t want to rush such things. At this point, you don’t have to risk coming out to your parents and if you do want to spend time with this person, you can instead call it "hanging out with a friend" than "going on a date with the same-sex.” 😏 ~ 🅱️

#bslfamily #bslsexuality

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ It's theoretical to quickly presume those around you don't understand. In fact, everyone has their "dark" days, even the most confident, well-managed people but it feels off to mention a personal thing which is why it's kept a secret, that in itself is unhealthy, keep in mind. So, whoever you choose to vent to doesn't necessarily have to experience your specific dilemma but CAN be empathetic enough to put themselves in your shoes and support you, and that's very crucial to your emotional state. 2️⃣ During times of stress, anxiety, embarrassment, or shame, it's common to mentally put ourselves down and isn't fully negative UNLESS you positively pick yourself up. Those who struggle monthly/yearly with mental illness wake up being given dark days, I was one of them. Luckily, I had tips to "twist my thinking" so when mentally putting ourselves down, we can react accordingly, especially when you have no one to go to because in the long run, only YOU can help yourself. 3️⃣ Ways to Untwist Your Thinking: Examine The Evidence - Instead of assuming your thought is true, examine the actual evidence for it (ex: If you feel you do nothing right, listen several things you've done successfully) 🚩 Thinking In Shades of Grey - Instead of thinking of your problems as all-or-nothing, evaluation them from 1-10, if something doesn't work out the way you planned, think of it as a partial succes rather than a complete failure 🚩 Survey Method - Ask people if your negative thoughts are realistic (ex: if you think public speaking is shameful and abnormal, ask your friends if they've ever felt nervous before they've given a speech) You won't know if these work until you try and I guarantee they do 😁 ~ 🅱️

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✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Your friends probably aren't yet used to you being so nice. I don't think they're meaning to come across rudely. Since you’re their friend, it's simply playful banter - as long as you don't feel threatened or hurt by what they say. If you do are, I suggest politely asking them to stop or when in a group, pull one of them aside and ask if they can stick up for you. Hopefully, they can help you with fighting off the comments. 2️⃣ Remember, the way you feel about yourself is way more important than what your friends thinks about you. Being kind to others is something everyone should do. I applaud you for your dedication! Your friends should encourage you to continue and support you as you become the person you strive to be. ~ 🅱️ (credit to Rachel)

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