i really like when mobei-jun acts utterly inconsiderate and thoughtless. it’s not like… well, it sort of is like he doesn’t respect shang qinghua, but… i mean, however much he cares about how qinghua feels, he’s still really genuinely bad at comprehending any of it. he’ll spirit qinghua away on a whim just because he wants his company… if he sees something nice, he’ll drag qinghua over without thinking twice just because he wants to share it with him.
does it ever occur to him to ask qinghua BEFORE kidnapping him? no, of course not! he likes qinghua very much, wants to please him, to spend wonderful quality time together forever—nevermind that his definition of “quality time” is awfully dubious—and he’s sure that qinghua would agree to that, so why ask? and, sure, if he were to ask …Does Shang Qinghua wish to spend quality time with this King?… certainly, the answer would be an enthusiastic yes. it’s just that no sane person would ever agree to such a thing if they knew it meant being teleported to the summit of a frozen mountain peak, or immediately before some horrible beast of the tundra, or any other of mobei-jun’s many unusual date spots.
it really isn’t that he doesn’t care. he cares a great deal, actually. he’s just painfully dense, a little stupid, and possibly incapable of ever fully grasping what shang qinghua actually likes without being told, very directly, in such excruciating detail that not even the world’s worst idiot (ice demon) could misunderstand it.