Oh my gosh. Your answer about Lucy not being a doormat with Flynn and never afraid to say what she thinks to him (vs how she acts with Wyatt). It's so true like? They see it right?
Look, I… don’t really want to beat a dead horse at this point, but… yes?
(Also as I keep saying, I honestly don’t know if they see it or not, despite having been very clear and consistent about the way they were writing her relationships with both guys this season, so… yeah. I get the sense that half of them think this is fine and Wyatt can do no wrong and his behavior is to some degree justified, and the other half maybe less so, and who knows who gets the final say, but anyway. It’s one of my only major frustrations with this show.)
Lucy is “you son of a bitch”-ing Flynn in 1x02 and yelling at him for Amy’s disappearance, is telling him he’s doing it wrong in 1x04 and having all kinds of conversations with him in 1x10/telling him not to do what he’s about to do/etc. She challenges him to his face to kill her in 1x11 (knowing he won’t) and that he’s again doing it wrong. Tells him to make Karl let go of her in 1x14, calls him out on his feeble BS in 1x16. Prods him directly in the sore spot in 2x02 and then goes on to trust him in 2x04 and have a conversation with him in 2x06 where she directly asks what he wants from her/etc. Tells him he’s the easiest to talk to in 2x07. Goes to him for help and hope and journal information in 2x08. Apparently opens up to him about the Jessica-is-pregnant situation during the off-screen ride to Port Royal in 2x09. Tells him how she’s feeling about her mother’s death in 2x10.
From enemies to partners to friends, she has NEVER had to sugarcoat things or back down for him. She has never been afraid to call him out and she has never taken any less than what she deserves. They have always been honest with each other (a pattern with my OTPs) even when it sucks and when they disagree. And Flynn has never, especially after they were friends, reprimanded her or made her feel threatened for that. He growls and blusters in s1, because he’s an idiot, but it’s still on equal footing. They push and pull, give and take, and they eventually work it out.
Whereas with Wyatt, especially in s2 but at points in s1 as well, Lucy very obviously does not tell him how she’s really feeling or what’s going on. He also constantly makes it more difficult for her to do that by acting like an ass, especially over Flynn. She gets to call him out directly in 2x07, but it’s clear he still doesn’t really get it. She tries to avoid telling him what she wants to do in 2x09 because it involves her going with Flynn, and he can’t keep his bitchy comments to himself then, even after throwing a fit getting Denise to promise not to touch Jessica. The pattern is that Lucy can be honest with Flynn, even brutally so, and it brings them closer, but she has to tiptoe/walk on eggshells for Wyatt in the name of prioritizing his comfort and/or ego, and he just… never… returns the favor. She does all the emotional labor in their relationship post-2x03 and if it’s true that Wyatt is “angry at her for not fighting for him,” all I can say is ??!?! Dude. You got your wife back. You have said multiple times, as Lucy points out, that she is all you want and all you have been fighting for. You chose to go back to her, and Lucy told you straight up that getting in the middle of that is absolutely not like her and she’s not going to do it. You don’t get to suddenly passive-aggressively sulk and guilt her into doing otherwise, especially when you are to all appearances delighted to be reunited with Jessica. Like??!
I really want to like Wyatt again, but the way they wrote him this season is going to make that hard, and as you said, the writers aren’t making it clear if that is what they intended and are going to follow through on or not. And I don’t think he’s in any position to do that anywhere near Lucy, and she has no responsibility to continue to wait and let him dump his issues on her, and I hope we get her politely but consistently maintaining her distance from him until he’s ready to act like a grownup. I know Wyatt is a traumatically messed up abuse survivor, and to some degree he was directly manipulated by Rittenhouse over the Jessica thing, but that doesn’t give him a pass on how he acted with Lucy, alas. I don’t deny they care for each other, as ever, but he didn’t bring out any strength or resilience in her, as we all noted, and kept putting her down, while Flynn empowered her and lifted her up. That was right there in canon. Grace Humiston straight up said Lucy was wasting her time and intellect on Wyatt, and… honestly, as with most things, it didn’t look like she was wrong.
