referring to your last post, it it common for SP/sx to wait for others to come to them and then weed out the potential 'bonds' from the rest? like, they wouldn't actively want others to come to them but rather than making a conscious effort to 'get out there', they would rather not?
Yeah, they typically don’t move a muscle, unless they’re in really deep sx-shit and think the world is ending if they don’t cater to this and only this life-saving relationship. Tbh I find the wording of your ask a bit confusing lol so bear with me if I’m not answering it perfectly.
Sp/sxs would rather not make the conscious effort to ‘get out there’ because… I guess they essentially don’t have anything to look for? They’re not wired to search the world for sx-interests because their secondary sx cannot please their sp-dominance, so the sx-desires are pushed to the background more or less subconsciously, I’d say. I’d say sp is the brick wall behind which they’re hiding, quite comfortably actually, but it’s getting lonely in there after all lol. While they maintain their sp-zone they obviously don’t want a thousand people banging against the walls, annoying and disrupting them. But when they do feel… sx-depraved, they do want the right people to knock on their door. I guess they’re annoyed simultaneously at all these people, but they need “all of them” approaching them after all to weed out and find the sx-interest too. Maybe, if they’re in sx-mood or something, they’ll accept the people knocking on the door, and bother with them for a while, but soon their sp-walls will come crashing down again. I imagine it all as a very complicated push-pull-scenario.
Anyway… I’m not sure I’m the expert on sp/sxs here at all lol. This is obviously my take on things, so make sure to ask an sp/sx about this. And yeah, please everyone correct me if i’m wrong about something.