Hi Tumblr, long time, no see! Lately I’ve been diving back into my cardiophile interests and since I’ve been active on here last, explored it (albeit in limited amounts) with some partners. I wanted to know how you all explain your cardiophile tendencies to partners who aren’t familiar with it? I always find myself caught with my foot in my mouth. Partially because I’m kind of shy about it in general, but also partially because I find it kind of difficult to put into words. I’m sure it’s a little different for each of us, but I’d love to hear how it goes for different people 💕 I’ll go first:
When I try to explain it to someone new, I talk about the connection it lets me feel to them, and how I like that they might feel connected to me the same way. Someone’s heartbeat can’t be controlled by willing it to go faster or slower, something needs to cause it to speed up. Being able to hear your heartbeat get faster, especially if I know it’s because of me, makes me feel like the luckiest person in the world. Knowing you can hear my heartbeat makes me wonder if you can notice it getting faster and if you know it’s because of you. When you show me that you know you affect the behavior of the very thing in my chest that keeps me alive and that you can make it go faster if you wanted to makes me weak in the knees. Knowing that you know you have that control and choose to speed it up via pleasure is invigorating. I think a big part of the allure is that it feels so private and intimate. No one else is going to have that knowledge unless I allow them to get close enough to listen, and it’s extra exciting when they *want* to hear how they affect my body badly enough that they would choose to listen to my pounding heartbeat when Ive allowed them to put me in a position/situation they could do whatever they wanted with me.
Of course, it’s always a bit more eloquent when I can type it out and think about it 🤡 How do you describe it?