How to Make a Cat Like You
Sit down.
Lower your stature, physically and energetically. Become unthreatening, unimposing.
Make an offering.
Something scented with you: a pair of glasses, a scarf, a book. Not your body. Not yet.
Make another offering.
Extend a limp hand. A single finger. Invite the Michelangelo moment—let them choose contact.
If they boop your hand with their nose or cheek, consider that a “yes.”
Let them pet you first.
If they rub their face against your hand, you’ve been invited in.
Start gently: around the cheeks, behind the ears, along the head.
Read the room.
If you pet down their back, watch their body language. Listen.
Be their Santa Claus.
If you're visiting someone with a cat, collaborate.
Ask them to withhold a favorite treat or toy for a day or two. You get to be the one who delivers joy.
Consent and enthusiasm are key.
A cat’s trust is given, not taken. Don’t reward indifference with persistence.
Always leave them wanting more.
Quit while the vibe is good. Avoid overstimulation. Build a reputation for being safe and worthy of trust.
Remember: Cat Territorial Security.
Cats are guardians of their space.
Don’t enter it like you own it. Enter like you’re grateful to be allowed.