An issue with all fandom ships is that shippers in general (def. not all of them) feel the need to tear down other characters or rely on over-used tropes in order to validate their ship. In Sterek in particular, the "mate trope" continually appears. To make the ship and the chemistry work, you actually have to invest in the characters you're writing, and love all the characters in the story. Otherwise, you're not really shipping the characters. Everyone in the ship's life shapes them as ppl.
Oh no, never all of them. Most of them kick ass; and the fact that people have to repeatedly say this is just sad IMHO.
That is an excellent point! That is actually why I don’t like the mate trope. It is just tossed around all of the metaphorical fucking room that it had gotten to the point where people are actually starting to think it is canon or something.
First off that is not how mating works: it is not a thing you are born with, know from birth (seriously wtf that doesn’t make sense even in an AU), and you wouldn’t know who you’re mate is from the moment you meet them. Also, yes wolves do mate for life, but they can also change mates so it is not as set in stone as people think. They also pick their mates based on who will bare the strongest pups.
Second: it is just lazy writing/shipping. If you have to resort to some magic mumbo-jumbo rather than put any actual thought into why these characters are falling in love/meant to be/make the perfect ouple/etc. than you obviously don’t really care. But that’s just my opinion.
I don’t mean say that just because you like the whole mate trope thing you don’t really like Sterek. I just think that if you have to rely on it to justify why you ship it or why they are made for each other instead of trying see what every other shipper sees when Stiles and Derek have scenes together than just lazy and seems like you don’t really care.
I’m not trying to be rude or mean or anything (even though I’m probably am and I’m really sorry) but that’s just how I see things from my little corner of the shipping world.