#catmode

[solenelmar]

i looked so good for New Year’s Eve 💖 ok to rb !

[justaddthings]

Hey. So my friend, who has had/known about her ADD since she was 10 told me that my bf most like have ADD. And it just makes so much sense to me! But he doesnt want to admit it and face this, so I thought I'd try to look into it and see if I can help him in his everyday life, ya know? Trying to make it a little easier by handling him right :) Can you give me any advice on what + what not to do? I know its different for each person, but just as a starting point. Thanks!

 I am not a professional, but heres what I think. I would talk to him about it first, and you should say why you think its important for you to help for the add traits you and your friend have seen. This way, you know what he is comfortable with you helping with.

 Suggestions of things you ask if you can help with -

 Help organize homework, paperwork, study/work spaces, and anything else work related because those tend to be the most difficult for people with add/adhd to manage. Help by doing the organizing with him.

 Help him keep a planner, calendar or a general form of keeping track of dates, times and such on. Do this by occasionally asking him if he has updated it and giving him reminders or keeping one yourself of the same style.

 If he needs some form of stimulation to focus or get things done buy him stim tools or encourage him to use body stims when comfortable.

 Teach him about ADD and ADHD and how its not negative. Look into seeking a professional examination.

 Again, please only do this if your bf is comfortable with this. And take baby steps with helping, don’t do everything at once.

Suggestions of things to NOT do -

 Be overwhelming and make his life or every conversation about his potential disorder

 Try to help after he says no to help for that thing

 Get mad or angry over ADD/ADHD traits (poor memory, stimming, etc.), make him feel guilty for said traits, constantly bring up said traits 

[larjb3]

I fricken love my cats and the fact that they have different colored whiskers from one another

[larjb3]

Asher is such a derp and I love her so much

She purposely puts her back leg over my arm like this when she's getting belly and chest rubs

[larjb3]

Y'ALL ASHER WAS PRACTICING HER BISCUIT MAKING

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[samott]

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