Being single is easy!!!!!!!!!!!!!! . When we are wandering the earth #single and #carefree, we can get away with not taking care of ourselves fully. . . When we enter a #relationship … I believe that we are are unknowingly choosing to #commit to a higher #spiritual, emotional, and physical version of ourselves. . . And a part of us will NATURALLY resist that. . . A part of us will resist wanting to feel responsible for another #human being. A part of us will resist the tension that (undoubtedly) exists when we are learning to #balance our own self with another human being. A part of us will resist that growth that interrupts our comfortable self-focused tendencies. . . A relationship calls us into being more thoughtful. A relationship calls us into being more responsible. A relationship calls us into being more consistent. It calls us into being and stretching and tolerating so much more of ourselves. . . That #growth does not happen overnight. Conflict will surface when those tensions become too much to bear. But a new #level of #tolerance is possible and can await us on the other side of those conflict moments. It can only happen when we can learn to see conflict as growth. . . We can choose to be reckless with parts of ourselves … but we can't continue bringing that way of being into our relationship for long. We can choose to #neglect our self care in our #single days … but our #partner relies on us to make effort to take care of ourselves. . . How can we see and #embrace that #resistance in the new stage of relationship as necessary growing pains? How can we make more space for the new parts of ourselves to be revealed? How can we see that what we tend to and nourish within our intimate relationship can become mirrored in the other parts of our life? . It's me, Sandy - - #coaching #love #committed #commitment #chooseone #lovebirds #spiritual practice #yummy #longhaul #healthylifestyle #workitout (at Sheila Kelley S Factor)