Bisexuality is having an emotional and/or sexual relationship with people of your own gender as well as with other genders. The term “bisexuality” can be confusing because many people don’t understand how a person can be attracted to both or all sexes. People say all the time to “just chose one!” or “are you sure you aren’t just gay/lesbian? ” Society likes to label people as being straight, gay or lesbian and then people don’t know what to think when you tell them that you are bisexual. They get confused and feel you aren’t being completely honest about who you are. I love Oreo cookie ice cream, but I also love mint chocolate chip. Who has the right to tell me that I can’t love or desire both? People can’t help who they are attracted to and it should be known that being bisexual is real.
Here are 5 common myths about bisexuality:
Bisexuals are more likely to cheat
People may think that if someone is bisexual, they would want to have a male and female partner at all times. This is by far not true – its like saying that if a woman is only attracted to a man, she will want different men all the time. You can be attracted to anyone and still be loyal to just one person.
Bisexual women only make out to turn on straight men
Women have nothing better to do than tell men we are bisexual just to turn them on. We have better skills than that! That being said, there are some women that will go out for a night, have a few drinks, get a little frisky and show off with their girlfriends to catch the eyes of a few excited men. These women aren’t necessarily bi-sexual, but are just having fun and feeling free. Believe me, most truly bisexual women don’t need to use their attraction to women as a way to lure in men. They may actually find that type of attention more unwanted and annoying.
Bisexuals are confused about their sexual orientation
Why can’t people be attracted to both or all sexes? Bisexuals are not confused about who they are. They know who they are attracted to, just as a heterosexual or a homosexual does. A bisexual can look at both men and women, or any other gender for that matter, and feel an attraction to them. They can feel an emotional connection too, because they can appreciate people for who they are and don’t care about gender. Bisexual men may be less accepted in society than women because of the perception that when a man says he is bisexual, he is really just hiding that he is gay or just confused. Once again, this is another misperception.
Bisexuals love threesomes
Now I’m not saying that a threesome can’t be an awesome experience when you are attracted to both sexes, but to say that a bisexual person wants to be with two people at the same time because they are attracted to both is just not how it is. There are bisexual people that enjoy being with only their partner because they prefer to cherish that closeness and the love that monogamy is all about. That being said, it has been shown that bisexuals do tend to be more open to the possibilities of non-monogamy than heterosexuals.
Bisexuality is just a phase
If you consider yourself heterosexual, would you want to have sex with a member of the same gender? Most likely not, since you aren’t attracted to someone of the same sex. Sexuality is fluid, which means that at any time in anyone’s life, a person’s desires or attractions can change. Whether you are bisexual or heterosexual, doesn’t mean you will always feel the same way, but that also doesn’t mean that it is a just a phase. It means that your intimate desires change as you grow and learn about yourself and about others. Just like when someone says they are heterosexual and only desire the opposite sex, bisexuals truly can enjoy both sexes even if they chose one of them to have a non-monogamous relationship with.
Being bisexual isn’t always easy as people have a lot of misconceptions as to what being bisexual really means. If you stand strong to your beliefs, help educate others about who you are, then maybe people will be more open to bisexuality. They can then understand that people who are bisexuals are just like anyone else who can appreciate others for who they are and not what is between their legs.














