#compallo

[floofysmallbob]

everyone talks about ships that are doomed by the narrative but what about ones that are just doomed by each other

character who is head over heels x character who just can’t feel that way. character who is painfully smitten x character who wants desperately to return those feelings but doesn’t. character who is deeply in love x character that loves them, but not the same. character who is romantic to a fault x character who shares a deep bond, but just not one of romance. character that needs them x character that just can’t be enough.

[normystical]

god i wish people understood the difference between cupioromantic and compallo

[our-arospec-experience]

Can aroace experience comphet?

I've experienced... I guess. I could be wrong, but I don't know how else to put it.

or may be compallo? but in my case i think comphet is close to me than compallo.

absolutely. And as for compallo, I haven’t heard of it before, but I suppose it makes sense as a concept.

[cepheusgalaxy]

Fun fact: My (i'm cupioaro) comphet phase was incredibly, comically short. At ten years old, I was debating having a crush on a boy that lived near us because he seemed fine enough to crush on, but a few months later I just quit because it didn’t seem to be going anywhere and proceeded to start my CompLesbian phase which lasted remarkably longer (i'm a trans man)

[aroaceconfessions]

i experience something similar to comphet but for being aro. compallo i guess? i frequently feel like i need to get a partner and kiss them all the time and tell them i love them every day, even though i don’t actually want to, or that i just need to read some romance books and it’ll “fix” me. these feelings multiply when i remember i’m not ace. i’m like being aro and wouldn’t change it for the world, and know that i absolutely do not need to be fixed, but i keep having these thoughts and it’s kind of upsetting

Submitted April 19, 2023

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

Questioning aspec culture is wondering if you're fictosexual/fictoflux or you just have compallo (compulsory allosexuality) bc fictional characters are unattainable

<3

[rotten-queer]

"I feel close to this person, so that must mean I have a crush on them and want to date."

"I only feel this way about close friends, so I must be demiromantic."

"Jesus Christ this must mean I'm in love with all of my friends.."

"Am I aplatonic? What is the difference between platonic and romantic attraction??"

"Sometimes I'm not comfortable with romantic behaviors tho"

"I must be nebularomantic since I can't tell."

"Oh. I'm aromantic, I wasn't in love with them I just thought they were great friends."

Then looking back and realizing I spent most of the time in romantic relationships pushing down the desire to break up with them, and if I did Id jump into another relationship for the same reasons and continue this cycle.

[roomfullofpigeons]

hey uhh for context we're a system so posts about being aroace if we have that is like, still legit. just from a different person.

anyway like how quickly does it take allos to get over a crush? because i get over them extremely quickly after rejectino and it's like, my crushes are like very weak. and im questioning if they're crushes at all? because yeah romantic stuff is cute but i honestly don't care who it's with so long as its someone i have good vibes with. like if a completely platonic friend wanted to do something that is very romance coded i'd be like heck yeah let's do it.

but like, im questioning if im a romance favourable aro. like i can think back to a time where i was like "i'll have a crush on this person" and then i started crushing, then i learned they were in a relationship and then i just stopped. i took that to mean i wasn't actually bi because i wasn't attracted to their gender but like.

idk ive not fomulated my thoughts clearly and i'll put liek aro tags on this post hopefully someone reads it