#concession

[nx42]

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You're just jealous at my finely-tuned and well-trained algorithm.

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[dk-thrive]

Can’t be helped, he thought. Most of life is made up of compromises, anyway, isn’t it?

— Haruki Murakami, The City and Its Uncertain Walls. (Trans. Philip Gabriel) (Knopf, November 19, 2024)

[that-hippie-user]

Can you give some small steps for becoming shameless? Just a couple low-risk things to do

practice small indulgences, starting with things you can do for self soothing.

permit yourself to enjoy more music art and stories made by and for queer communities, and that includes the works of furries.

i personally recommend music artists such as Daxbak, 4lung (if you okay with the edgier side of AB/DL art), and Whsprs. the first two have done countless works for the community, and Whsprs has great queer music works in general and has colabbed with Daxbak.

for art, many good webcomics exist. Nivlek features several characters who just wear diapers with no need for elaboration.

Shine is about the journey of someone discovering the community in a chance encounter and learning about where she fits into it.

Incontinent Student Body is literally about a bunch of college students befriending each other because of their shared continence issues.

Concession (while being an edgier work that tackles some p dark subject matter) predominantly features a main character who's diaper fetish is often lightly joked about but never outright mocked. Matt, the one i'm referring to, is my all time favorite piece of gay representation in fiction and i relate to him a great deal.

furthermore, indulge in songs you find comforting and nostalgic, especially ones you found too cute to be proud of listening to. for me that was Carameldansen, Bumblebee (nightcore), Always by Erasure, literally ALL of Aqua's discography but especially Cartoon Heroes.

partake in cartoons you secretly enjoyed as well, for me that was Lazy Town, Strawberry Shortcake, and Blue's Clues.

by allowing yourself to indulge in art you resonate with, you can get in touch with aspects of yourself that have been left to gather dust, to nurture them into cherished and loved facets of your own heart.

once thats done, find little things you can do or get without drawing ire from others. is there a plush toy you can get? good hugging buddy and bedtime companion. got Audible? get yourself some juvenile books for bedtime stories. cant get a pacifier? suck your thumb when you have the privacy to do so.

these things may seem small, but every freedom you afford yourself is like life giving water in a desert of repression and shame.

:( forgive me for taking so long to reply, it is shameful i took this long. you deserve to enjoy your life on YOUR terms.

every step is a step forward, even the baby steps, ESPECIALLY the baby steps.

[bettsfic]

Hi Betts,

I recently listened to an interview with an author that said “when they decided to get really serious about writing and their dreams they made a ten year plan.” So me being the planner that I am, said maybe I should do it too, especially since this writer is pretty successful. Have I made a decent enough plan? No, because being real about your dreams and committing is scary af.

But I have developed this thinking that each story I have to work on has to be “publishable” and if I can’t immediately envision its success I need to push it away. For some people this is fine. For me, I’m pushing aside every idea and am constantly writing for an invisible audience. Which has its pros and cons.

I want to become efficient so that I can be a good author. One who meets deadlines and puts out work they are proud of. But I’m wondering if it’s even possible to try to work to be an author and still create work that is fun and true to you? If a decision isn’t meaningful I won’t include it in my outline. It feels like the only time writing can be fun is when I was young and had no clue about market and rules and just assumed my dreams would come true.

you know, what i keep finding over and over again is that i was right about a great many things before i had any idea what i was doing. i just didn't know why i was right, i had no context or evidence for my rightness. granted, i was arrogant, but arrogance isn't wrong; it's just uninformed. when you inform arrogance, it becomes confidence. you become informed by getting a lot of feedback on your work and giving feedback on work; having your work accepted once or twice and accepting someone else's work; having your work rejected hundreds of times and being the one to reject. maybe you've done all those things already, in which case you're firmly on your path and there's not much you have to do besides keep going.

i definitely relate to what you're saying, though. i would be lying if i said i wasn't just days ago in a phase of berating myself for my failures and wishing i could work harder and more efficiently. i've cultivated some confidence about my work, but there are some ways in which i'm too arrogant and others in which i'm too humble. i have a long way to go still in informing myself about my work and the process of making it.

you'll be in positions where you have to make creative concessions for the sake of publishing, but don't make them before you get anything on the page. listen to your own ideals and make those ideals happen in your work. a year ago, i finished a novel that was my favorite thing i'd ever made, and i was so proud of it, but i knew it wasn't publishable in the state it was in. even though i'd worked a year on it, it was still an early draft and bore the marks of an early draft, but i couldn't see that because i'd never taken any project further than that one. i'd never felt closer to a project or more intensely toward it. and when i was done, i went through six months grieving it, in a sense, because i knew i'd have to rewrite it. i had to kill the thing that it was in order for it to become what it needed to be. i came to accept that, and the next six months sat on the frustration of not knowing what direction to take it, but having the wisdom to know i couldn't rush it or force it.

and then the fix came to me all at once. the fix involves getting rid of many things that were once dear to me. not even darlings, but entire themes i felt were meaningful, that were the very things i want to share and explore in my work. i don't feel so bad about giving those things up now. what i take out will be put into something else eventually, and what i keep will stand out more starkly. the new parts i write will fit better and serve the story itself, even if it's no longer the story i originally intended to tell.

when you're drafting, your work is in a private conversation with yourself; it's about you even if it isn't. but it can't stay about you. eventually it has to stand on its own. and you might think, well why can't i just write something that stands on its own to begin with? but if you do that, writing is just work, it's business, and it may be more efficient but it's also less meaningful. there's no such thing as efficient creativity. it takes as long as it takes, and if you force yourself on a ten year timeline you might as well focus that energy on something more lucrative and within your control. there's so much about writing that's just chance and discovery and failure and faith.

so i think you should go back to assuming your dreams will come true and not thinking too much about anything except the work itself until you get to the point where you have to. and it will hurt. it may hurt more than anything hurt you've ever put yourself through. but trust you'll get to where you're going, even if it takes longer than you intended.

[hale-my-nathan]

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This mimikyu works at the concession stand, at the super mega movie theater.

[wisdomfish]

Sin is subtle in its initial approach, and so we succumb to it. But once it has a hold on our heart by these little concessions, it gains a footing; and then it presses on in increasing degrees of the same kind. This continual pressing forward fools the soul into thinking the separation from God that has already happened is insignificant.

John Owen