Your OS, operating system, is the programming that drives your perception of how you see the world and react to it.
Often times, we walk through the world confusing our operating system, such as our attachment style, with our personality. Our attachment style influences our personality greatly, and it can be the leading factor in how we act, react, think, feel, perceive - but it’s composed of so many pieces of data received, processed and then formulated into beliefs and coping mechanisms to keep us as safe as possible.
For a long time, I thought I was just a blunt person and someone, as my mom described often, that’s just not diplomatic, lacks tact and a filter. I saw myself as real and had the attitude of “if you can’t take it, it’s your issue”. And in part, that’s not completely wrong; how others interpret, act and react is not often related to us as much as to their inner OS. However, through IAT work, I discovered my true self and what those attitudes I had, and pieces of my personality, were really about. It was keeping me from having to feel vulnerable, in a nut shell, and it was formed from expecting everyone to leave sooner or later - so might as well run them off.
We all have so many different parts like that; some people are overly compromising at the cost of their own self, their own needs. Others feel safer and better completely alone, and almost as if they run on empty when in relationships. I could go on and on.
What have you always felt it was just who you are, but you felt push back from the outside world on? What have you doubled down on, or let go of completely from your personality?
Let me know below or feel free to book the free hour consultation. Either way, I hope you walked away with just a little bit more knowledge than you had the day before.