#consciousrelationships

[venuskind]

☆ Reconnection and Renewal ☆

Reconnecting with beloved connections which had been absent for a while from my life has a gentle healing effect on my relational system. 

As memories birth ever new feelings, thoughts, and sensations my present awareness observes it all while engaging with the beloved friend. Observing the layering of memory born sensations, feelings, and thoughts scoring initial moments of reconnecting, like music enhances and colors a movie. 

First of all are the excitement and apprehensive question how much they will open to engaging and how deep they will choose to go in sharing and bearing their hearts and souls to me. There is a fear and tinge of sadness at the thought of them choosing to be defended or evasive. Then there is the warmth of joy at meeting their openness and affection for me. As threads of affection and soul bonds light are enlivened and light up joy expands into ecstatic elation. The intensity of  elation coinciding with the opening of boxes of forgotten and unintegrated feelings of the past. And past pain reminds how we fell into unhealthy relating patterns and wounded each other in the past, admonishing me to be especially mindful and compassionate now. Open questions of a past self present themselves to awareness. Conscience speaks of how I expressed in a unhelpful or even harmful ways towards them and initiates expression of acknowledgment and a heartful apology. Old desires, attachments, and longings return to be remembered, known, honored and given a new place or form in this new adventure in relating. There is grief for all that could not have been, the unattainable dreams for this connection, and the time and life not shared or journeyed together. Making peace with uncomfortable truths, reality as it was, and is. 

And as we share where we are at in life, what we have learned and unlearned, all is in flux and seeking to attune to the relating that wants to unfold for us. There are no definitives or set points beyond our reciprocal love, affection, and choice to relate... all else has to grow into a new form as time shared waters all that had gone underground in months or years of silence and no contact. A fertile void embraces and ambiguity suffuses this renewed relating. New intentions, agreements, and commitments slowly begin to define the bandwidth and intensity of the flow of relating.

Meeting in reciprocal appreciation, playfulness, and engaging in deep soulful exchanges is more than nourishment on various levels of my being and gently washes away distortions and pain induced by hurtful relating and misperceptions in previous relationships ours and others. 

The gift of reconnecting with special souls goes beyond returning their unique frequency to my experience but also induces an integration of relational disruptions and hurts. It feeds the knowing that repair is not just possible but also a possibility for rebirth and renewal in magical and unexpected forms.

Photography by Unknown

Source: https://venuskind.de/2023/02/reconnection/

[yestantra]

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[sunnysideout]

Here’s a reminder that everyone you meet is a reflection of your own being. All the experiences you have with others are a reflection of what you need to see within yourself. We’re all just mirrors, helping eachother grow.

[blossomwithbri]

𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥𝙨 𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙮𝙚𝙙 𝙖 𝙧𝙤𝙡𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚? 🤔👥

I always took for granted my relationships with other humans. They were not important to me because I believed strength came from isolation. This belief may have been generational or something from deep in my psyche. Either way, I never considered all the experiences, lessons, and energy that makes up a friendship, business partnership, etc. In hindsight, all of my best qualities came from the people I have come across in this lifetime (and other lifetimes too). I'm slowly starting to balance developing meaningful relationships with my inherent desire to focus on myself. My journey is not solitary. I want to thank everyone who has played a role in my life because without you, I would not be the person I am today.

What are your beliefs when it comes to your relationships with others? How much of a priority is maintaining a friendship, business partnership, family relationship, or romantic partnership to you? What's something that you learned when it comes to making friends? Let's talk about it ✍🏾🗣

[secretloveattraction]

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[quantum-bliss]

Relationships require intimacy. Intimacy requires you to give someone the power to hurt you. If someone does not have the power to hurt you, you have not allowed yourself to be vulnerable. Without vulnerability there can be no love, for in order to truly love something you must know it first.

[oceanofwe]

Beyond Anti-oppression: An exploration of Pro-liberation*

To me, a core element of anti-oppression work is shifting the narratives that keep us small (I.e. ashamed). One purpose of this exploration is to help empower us to articulate more nuanced narratives of shame and our journeys out of it. The more practice we have discerning for ourselves, the more emergent and affective our solutions will be.

We can begin to discern our unique (and interconnected) experience by becoming more in touch with our felt-sense of contraction. It’s tough work, especially when you’ve learned to repress or numb sensations in situations when they were overwhelming.

Because our bodies are wise, we can feel patterns of shaming (and hegemonic power) when they happen. It might feel like tightness in the chest or a desire to flee.

We can sense when we’re becoming small far more effectively than trying to use rules or prescriptions about when that is happening or what exactly that sequence looks like.

*and* it’s important to affirm the patterns that exist among these noticings.

For example, people with darker skin are consistently treated worse and paid less across cultures. (Credit: Black creators who articulated this)

So are women and queer and trans folks. There are patterns that are important to name.

What’s difficult is when we use these patterns as a hard and fast map to react without holding space to discern.

I propose pro-liberation as a framework that holds anti-oppression practices while emphasizing our capacities to sense and discern.

As pro-liberatory activists and organizers:

We hold grace, compassion, and humility. We see when others are where we once were. We step into our responsibility to shape spaces towards love and restoration/redemption, not policing and disposability.

We work together to build skills to better communicate with one another, own impact, and to give and receive feedback. We have the ability to discern nuances of this work by dropping into our bodies (carefully).

We dance with each other in ways that escape rigid definitions of ‘good’ and ‘bad’ behavior. Our teachers are our bodies, spirits, and all of life.

We study naturally occurring living systems (SEE: EMERGENT STRATEGY) and we work in community to articulate, express, and affirm the evolution of a pro-liberation paradigm shift. We are careful not to romanticize any one path or way of being as superior or better.

We are all teachers and we are all students.

*this was written in an attempt to give shape to something floating in the ether of a community I’m a part of, as we work to articulate what we are growing towards. I share with humility and would love to be in conversation about this with you, other brilliant beings. What resonates with you? What do you want to riff on?

[void-wanderer]

From a collecting dust archive of poem attempts:

Checkmate

The Untold words remain Unspoken,

Hidden feelings stay concelead.

There's something about us, a little wicked, a little broken,

But actions for change aren't bound to be repealed.

We struggle to strengthen the walls that we build,

Surrounding us, leaving no way for outsiders to walk in.

Cold and repulsive, working as a shield,

Serving no real purpose, other than ending up in ruins.

Our entire existence can be seen as a chess game :

Life versus Death - white versus black.

There's no chance we get a win to proclaim

Once we start playing, there's no turning back.

We might try hard, calculate our moves,

Change our minds, refusing to lose,

But we can almost feel it, it's in vain

As the cards have already been made.

The least you can do is to enjoy the match

And as many black pieces try to snatch.

Laugh, cry, love, hate, risk and despair,

Regret some moves, then try to repair.

You're lucky - you get to do what you want,

There's no such thing as Fate foolin' around.

When Death takes a piece from you, Fight back!

Don't spectate...

But you're running out of time.

You're dead...

... Checkmate!