#conversationsonlove

[sorawithbooks]

When you find the right person, it's not a lot of work. People often say, 'ohh love takes a lot of work,' but I've found it's an effort that doesn't feel like work - it's just maintenance

- Conversations On Love, Natasha Lunn

[unfoldingmoments]

Slow but Sure

Nobody is right for anyone, with Philippa Perry

NL: What are the benefits to falling in love slowly?

PP: What makes a satisfactory coupling is not thinking, he or she is right for me, from the start. Nobody is right for anyone. Actually, what makes somebody right is commitment. Then when you’re committed to each other and you have true dialogue, that means you allow the other to impact upon you and they allow you to impact on them. You’re not rigid and unchanging; you are moved by each other. It’s like two stones rubbing together until suddenly they fit. You have your initial years of sexual attraction and then something deeper can hook in. Rather than having a relationship with your fantasy of that person you begin to have a real relationship with them; you’ve impacted each other enough to actually know each other. And to know someone is to love them. So you make someone the right person and they make you the right person. There isn’t someone the right shape out there for every person – that has to happen in relationships. That’s why relationships get better, because we allow mutual impact.

- Natasha Lunn, “Conversations on Love.”

[cindysp]

Conversations on Love by Natasha Lunn

It is a thoughtful and accessible exploration of love in its many forms. Unlike many books that focus narrowly on romantic relationships, Lunn’s work spans romantic love, friendships, family bonds, loss, and even solitude. The book grew out of her newsletter of the same name, and she expands on her personal reflections by weaving in essays and interviews with a wide range of voices, from writers like Dolly Alderton to experts in psychology and relationships.

One of the book’s strongest points is its breadth. By covering different types of love, Lunn makes her work relatable to readers in various stages of life. Whether you are single, in a long-term relationship, navigating parenthood, or coping with loss, there is something in the book that speaks to your experience. The structure, organized around three central questions—how we find love, how we sustain it, and how we survive its loss—provides a clear narrative thread and prevents the collection of essays and reflections from feeling scattered.

Lunn’s voice is another highlight. She writes with honesty and vulnerability, sharing her own struggles and triumphs, which creates a sense of intimacy with the reader. The interwoven perspectives of other writers and experts add depth and nuance, giving a sense that love is complex and multifaceted rather than simple or formulaic. Many readers have found the book affirming, as it encourages reflection and introspection without dictating rules or “solutions.”

That said, the book’s wide scope can also feel like a weakness at times. Some sections are lighter and less deeply analyzed, which might leave readers seeking more rigorous psychological or academic insights wanting more. The shifts between different voices and essay styles can also make the flow feel episodic, so certain chapters may resonate more than others depending on personal experiences. Additionally, the cultural lens is largely Western, which may make some perspectives less relatable for readers from other backgrounds.

Overall, Conversations on Love succeeds in offering a thoughtful, human-centered look at the many ways love touches our lives. It is less a self-help manual and more a reflective companion, inviting readers to pause, consider, and feel. For anyone willing to engage with love’s complexity—beyond clichés and easy answers—this book is a rewarding read. Lunn’s mix of personal insight and collected voices makes it approachable, empathetic, and ultimately affirming.

Rating: 4/5 stars

[moonandwritings]

As Marianne says when Eleanor asks if Willoughby ever said ‘I love you’ in Sense and Sensibility:

‘It was every day implied, but never professedly declared.

Sometimes I thought it had been – but it never was.’

[byjrvalentina]

Conversations on Love by Natasha Lunn

[ceritakemanapun]

A year with this book.

Buku ini adalah hadiah ulang tahun dari Mba Asri tahun lalu, Oktober 2022. Saya menghabiskan tepat satu tahun untuk berhasil menyelesaikan membaca buku ini sampai akhir.

Lembar-lembar menuju akhir buku saya habiskan di penerbangan dari Bali ke Jakarta, sesaat sebelum landing.

Ini bukan cerita tentang review buku Conversations on Love, ini tentang perasaan yang membekas setelahnya.

Hati dan pikiran saya campur aduk. Banyak bagian dari buku yang sudah mulai terlupakan karena sudah cukup lama berlalu (setauuuuun), tapi kesannya tetep bisa saya ingat.

Bagian buku yang paling membekas tentunya di bab-bab akhir tentang How Can We Survive Losing Love. Mencintai dan kehilangan seperti dua kata yang kontra, tapi ga bisa dipisahkan. Sepaket dalam sebuah siklus yang absolut.

Saya mengagumi cara Natasha Lunn menjahit setiap keping-keping cerita dan pembicaraan di buku ini menjadi suatu pembahasan yang utuh. Membaca buku ini seperti menonton film dokumenter yang menghadirkan sosok-sosok dengan berbagai kisah mereka tentang cinta: makna, rasa, sosok, sebab, akibat, efek. Segala hal yang meliputinya.

Buku yang saya baca berbahasa Inggris (sepertinya belum ada versi terjemahan Bahasa Indonesianya), tapi dengan kemampuan bahasa inggris saya yang rata-rata, The Conversations on Love masih cukup bisa dipahami dan dihayati.

Kapan-kapan semoga saya bisa cerita lebih banyak tentang buku ini.

—

07.36am | Cilandak, 31/10/23

[catithecurator]

CHIC BOOKS THAT IS FIT FOR YOUR SHELF.

These women-empowered books are what I want to get into this year! I really like the vibe that the cover is giving off right off the bat you would want to get your hands on them.

I may have started on 'Conversations on Love' and so far, great read. Its not much of a religious read, but more of like, a lounge read that I don't have to really read it for the most time.

Its more of like a reminder for your self on sometimes when you've got a free time, you can pick it back up with having to fuss because you may have forgotten the details of this book--its nothing like that.

It is a pick up book.

[thedaimoncoach]

"Riconoscere la tua fragilità, il tuo dolore e la tua incompletezza è una cosa piuttosto romantica da fare. In realtà, un’eccessiva auto-ammirazione ti taglia fuori dalle altre persone, mentre un impegno con la tua stessa vulnerabilità è la chiave per costruire un legame. Quando si tratta di amor proprio non si tratta tanto di amare se stessi, ma di accettare che tutti gli esseri umani hanno i loro lati meno impressionanti, e quindi i tuoi lati meno impressionanti non ti tagliano fuori dalla possibilità di avere una buona relazione. Non significano che sei una persona terribile che non merita amore. Vogliono solo dire che sei parte dell’umanità." #NatashaLunn, #ConversationsonLove Per leggere tutto l'articolo, visita il blog del mio sito thedaimoncoach.com #thedaimoncoach #valeriasquillante #daimon #daimonfriendly #daimonlove #daimonsex #daimonlife #counseling #coachingmilano #coachmilano #counselingmilano #counselormilano #lovepologist #lovecoach #lovecoaching #coachingdellerelazioni #shadowworker #sexcoaching #sexcoach #coachingsessuale #counselingessuologico #psicosintesi #antroposofia #rudolfsteiner #robertoassagioli #massimoscaligero #soulawakening #spiritualawakening https://www.instagram.com/p/CXiMkbOsMq3/?utm_medium=tumblr