#coping method issue

[fictionkinfessions]

i don’t kin for coping reasons but man it can be nice sometimes to really grab onto and lean into one of my kins as a coping method

[fictionkinfessionsarchived]

kinnies be using fanfic to cope... and its valid as fuck!

[fictionkinfessions]

it really bothers me how the word 'kin' has an entirely different meaning now— when people use it for every character they relate to. there's words for that! synpath or fictionhearted or copinglink... and i don't want to police the language people use for kin, and i don't dislike people who kin for fun; some of mine are just for fun! but it is really disheartening to see new kinnies talking about how 'some people actually believe they are/were this character' in a derogatory way.

some of my kins are spiritual and are deeply personal to me. i have kin memories. and a lot of people think less of me for that even though they're using the exact same words as spiritual kins do. it just kind of sucks to feel like an outsider in a community that felt like home, yk?

[fictionkinfessions]

re: the psychology study - i honestly hope we don't end up with scientific studies done on us because the last thing i want is for this genuinely spiritual and borderline religious part of my identity to be shrugged off as "oh, you're mentally ill and delusional!" or something like that. i think we need to remember that kin isn't a coping thing for everyone; for many - or even most - of us it's a genuine belief in souls, past lives, the multiverse, etc. we don't go looking for psychological reasons for belief in most mainstream religions, so why do a deep dive on such a varied community with such varied beliefs in what it means to be kin?

[fictionkinfessions]

You know what??? I'm really starting to get tired of this, so I'm just gonna say it

If people wanna kin for fun, that's completely valid. If people wanna kin for spiritual/religious reasons, that's also completely valid. But please, PLEASEEEEE stop shaming people for kinning for a certain reason. It's completely unnecessary and imo pushes the idea that theres only one true way to kin, when there really isnt. If yall wanna hate someone for kinning for a specific reason, especially for fun, please fucking keep it to yourself, because they really dont deserve the hate

Sincerely, someone who kins to cope with neurodivergency

[fictionkinfessions]

@ my friends’ kinnie group, I think maybe we are fixating on past lives a little too much and are subsequently even less capable of coping with our current life and I understand our current life sucks ass and I understand some of us used to be gods and beautiful creatures and dangerous monsters but I also think it’s extremely unhealthy to be stuck in the past like this, but y’all aren’t ready for that punch in the gut and I don’t know if you ever will be, so. Rip I guess — 🌪

[fictionkinfessions]

Is it a form of like.. stockholm syndrome etc to be super attracted to your abusers in a past life? Some strange way my brain decided to cope, huh. -Tommy

[fictionkinfessions]

yes I act hyper and super loud and energetic to cope with stress yes I have specific kins I stress shift to because or this no I can't fucking comfort you in those shift because it stresses me out even more and by default I get even more loud and hyper which just upsets you even more so please stop expecting me to comfort you when I'm like this because I'm just going to make both of us feel worse