#coping?

[mizzlebloom]

<3

[stoicmike]

Whose idea was it that we should be coping? -- Michael Lipsey

[ludux]

Huh, so

I was today years old when I realized a lot of how and who I (the how is important) am comes from an adolescence where smartness felt unsafe and having to be deeply hidden, so I learned to hide it deeply and play around with what I could do with that. Thoughts and systems, my own ideography, analyzing people, predicting behaviours, learning tremendous amounts about other people while revealing absolutely nothing about myself (most people only care to talk about themselves and care nothing at all for even who they're talking to, it's very exploitable), code switching (I've gotten better at recognizing when I am), calibrating who I am to who I'm interacting with, puzzles, writing, art, mostly hidden or deliberately indecipherable, playing with expectations, asking for help in order to evaluate the other person, pretending I don't know so I can learn what the other person does know, figuring out other peoples bullshit by being strategic with my own - and other things like that. It wasn't safe to be better than other people or even to be who I was, so I learned how to be other things. It's weird recognizing when I'm still operating from adolescent threat assements in contexts where I'm actually safe now, and don't have to be invisible just to exist. No wonder I latch on to the characters I do. I guess I got a lot wrong still to unlearn.

[pityspider]

The amount of hours I have listened to Blink Gone is extremely concerning

[cupids-fiction]

sometimes when i do self care i end up thinking “ykw maybe all (insert fav character, usually izzy hands, here) needed was a nice warm bed and a floor-length oodie with sharks on it” and then i realise i am no longer doing self care but fictional-character-i-love-and-care-for care

[atriusthewildhound]

We really do be having to wait until 2022 huh........................

[riotgrrrlboss]

the concept of subtle but public touch with someone else... more intimate than sex