i’m not pathetic for fawning.
i shouldn’t get angry at myself for fawning.
it’s protected me from harm, it’s kept me safe.
fawning doesn’t make me pathetic. it is an indication that i am faced with a person who cannot regulate their emotions and who unduly directs their emotions at me. fawning is an indication that my body is working, working to keep me safe because it has learned from experience that this person’s behaviour will harm me.
i am not pathetic for trying to create safety for myself in a situation where the other person is emotionally volatile.
sometimes fawning makes me feel pathetic because i’m not expressing my true feelings or thoughts, because i feel like i can’t.
but i need to be compassionate with myself and interpret my fawning as something that has kept me safe, and it does not make me pathetic or feeble or spineless.