As a queer person who cannot do penetration... I already find much of mainstream sexual discourse alienating – but the alienation is doubly so in queer circles. I don’t expect mainstream sex (like most of mainstream culture) to represent me at all, but it’s an extra special frustration to feel like a freak in your community. I do not buy into Dworkinesque politics about penetration being oppressive and resent the implication that I am not sex-positive or somehow ‘frigid’ because I find one mode of sexual activity overly represented. Instead I ask that us fellow queer people broaden our thinking on what makes great sex, moving away from specific activities as highlights to building whole experiences.
Vaginismus and Non-Penetrative Sex IS “Queer Sex” by Creatrix Tiara aka Mendhi Henna
