#csa prevention

[forestbunch]

“Protecting children” from any information outside their parents’ direct control is not an effective way to “protect children” in a world where 68% of sexual abuse is committed by a family member, and over 90% by someone the child and family know. In fact, it gives perpetrators more power to isolate their victim from any information that could help them disclose and safe people they could disclose to. And that’s not new information, we have known the exclusively “stranger danger” approach to sexual abuse and exploitation isn’t based on facts for decades now. We know a lack of information doesn’t protect anyone, in fact ignorance is a perpetrator’s favorite trait. Conservatives know that too. Truly, they see children as property not people and think parents have a right to abuse their own children. They want to “protect” their ownership of their children, not protect this extremely vulnerable group of people from harm.

[jackawful]

Y'all have got to realize there are ways to protect older teens from sexual predators without insisting that teenagers don't think about sex or sexuality until the magical moment exactly 18 years from their birth. Trying to reduce harm to teenagers (especially teenagers online!) is a good and valid goal but pretending none of them have ever viewed porn or fucked isn't it. You've gotta acknowledge that if they don't have safe ways to explore their sexuality with peers they are going to explore in unsafe ways & that secrecy, shame, and censorship are what open the door to predators & allow them to normalize unhealthy power dynamics.

Shit like (professed) minors allegedly being on ezra's site is most likely the result of that community being the only thing they could find that treated them as like, humans with autonomy and desire, and that's a pattern that plays out with adult exploitation of teens in-person too (the "you're so mature for your age" routine). Of course teenagers exploring sexuality for the first time fell into a community that told them they weren't bad for being attracted to adults or having sexual desire in the first place! Thing is, an "Adult Attracted Minor" is like, the default state of teenagerdom.

The shit that's actually been demonstrated to help with this isn't carceral whackamoling of bad actors - it's giving teenagers education about healthy relationships and power dynamics and safe sex and yeah, kink, and also giving them the autonomy to make their own decisions about sex. Specifically, you let them know that it's normal to be attracted to adults but that adults trying to date or fuck them are in a position of power that means those relationships can't be healthy. In absence of that, teens are vulnerable to the first adult that appeals to their need to be taken seriously. And for fucks sake, using "minor" to equate teens with young children in these cases makes this tactic easier for abusers to pull off, not harder, because it is self-evident to teens that they have more capacity for autonomy than the average 8 year old. Sure, it makes the people you're targeting in your callout Sound Worse, but it also immediately loses you credibility in the eyes of teenagers themselves.

And for fucks sake, don't let a handful of bad actors using a leftist framing for that old song and dance lead you to believe that's what youth lib is about OR take away focus from all the times the right wing has systemically & institutionally done this.

[8lur5ot0ng]

I’m so damn sick of some antis

TW: discussions of grooming, CSA and darkshipping

This isn’t directed at civil antis, yall are chill have a good day.

I’m talking about the chronically online ones. The ones who repost screenshots of “🍖🌈Emily/12/I love older men:333🎱🎀” with captions like EWWWW TOUCH GRASSS. Yall are the ones that need to touch grass. a horribly traumatised CHILD is clearly sending out a cry for help, and your reaction is to direct hate towards the kid and prioritise how you felt icky above the kids wellbeing. Yes, they’re putting themself at risk of predators and the situation they’re in and the trauma they must’ve gone through is disgusting. It’s normal to be disturbed. But directing your disgust back at the child is horrible.

I don’t care if you didn’t tell the kid to kys or tell them they deserved their trauma. It’s already messed up your first reaction to seeing these accounts is disgust instead of concern. Unless you’re chronically online, you’d care for the real human being that was hurt more than the fictional characters.

Odviously those aren’t the majority of antis, most antis believe in recovery instead of harassment. The crazy harassers are a loud minority that seems more active than they are because they don’t take internet breaks. But this is still a problem within antishippers that needs to be addressed.

credit @sisterlucifergraphics for the dividers

[aronarchy]

https://web.archive.org/web/20220608041057/https://twitter.com/couriersicks/status/1533612606807846912

[image ID: tweets from couriersicks, a trans woman whose Twitter account has since been suspended

couriersicks:

“Queer adults shouldn't be friends with queer minors” is a psyop to make the queer youth homelessness epidemic worse. You can’t find queer grouphomes and couchsurfing networks without being dialed into the adult queer culture/networks that run them.

Even if you ignore the fact many queer kids are forced out before turning 18, these networks take time to establish and its vitally important to start as early as possible to ensure you have a reliable couch to fall back on.

EZola19: Replace queer with almost any other identity and you will realize how insane this is.

couriersicks:

Good point actually, pedophile panic keeping teens and adults from networking solidifies parental absolutism and enables abuse much more generally than LGBT contexts alone.

After all, the most common child sexual abusers are, contrary to moralist propaganda, the parents. Turns out having absolute control over a child with no oversight is a recipe for abuse! Wow! Nobody could’ve seen that coming.

segfaultvicta:

It’s a psyop to fuck up a LOT of generational knowledge transfer and direct action, to make younger queers utterly reliant on the people literally grooming them and utterly consumed by scrupulosity spirals all the time.

OneiricCanid:

It’s absolutely harrowing to watch so many young people caught up in spirals they can’t escape because every bit of complexity about them and their experience of the world has been labelled Bad and Wrong by people who don’t want them to be themselves—from whom they learned how to be.

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[marzmarshmallow]

Don't believe everything you see online. Most people know it's harmful to CSA survivors and children when people look at drawings of child porn and share stories about raping children. Their trauma is not your fetish, and regardless of what disorder you have you ALWAYS have a choice and a RESPONSIBILITY not to harm children.

If you are a "survivor" that likes to look at kiddy porn don't at me. You're a trader and a predator now.

[marzmarshmallow]