they barely improve the website despite surpassing their donation goals every single time
they do not see anything wrong with RPF that sexualizes REAL minors
they excuse racist fanworks, they actually suspend anyone who does not feel comfortable with pedo/incest shippers, or literally anyone who labels themselves antis or anti p/roships
they also don't see anything wrong with ai generated stories that most likely steal from real writers that put their heart and soul into their works
and perhaps a lot more things they do that i might be forgetting
seriously.
if you get mad at marginalized ppl calling out ao3, and you act entitled when your fandom interests are being threatened, then you're a privileged asshole. if you call everyone "puritans" or "stupid kids" for being critical of ao3, you're a privileged asshole. this is not about you. this is about the actual harm ao3 does to real people. your favorite fanfictions should not be your priority. especially if you want to keep supporting palestine or people of color in general, you can't just get mad when they point out the flaws of ao3 and stop supporting them when they're not convenient to you.
Also the think with proship is that. Some of them even sure that it’s okay to sexualize real children. And I don’t just mean RPF of child celebrities, as much as I hate it and think that’s it’s own whole discussion because frankly I don’t think it stops being pedophilic to fantasize about a kid that way just because a lot of people know who they are, I mean when Cuties came out and people justified the very real panty shots of a very real little girl in the movie. Like I’m sorry but child actors do not suddenly stop being children when they step on a set and a camera starts rolling (and before anyone misinterprets me. I am not saying all of them are like this, but more then should be are proudly showing that they care a lot more about “It’s just fiction!” then about real people when they defend the sexual exploitation of child celebrities just because they’re playing a fictional character at the time)
i mean i feel like sexualizing fake children eventually conditions you to sexualize real children. thats why im so disgusted with the author of Daddy's Little Toy dedicating that shit to her kids and also saying "ill never see you in the same way," because its 100% true.
Someone said on Twitter "it's not that antis think icky art is the same as CSEM it's that they think CSEM is as trivial as a drawing. They feel the same level of disgust to both (none)" and that opened my eyes so much. I refuse to try to get antis to see reason anymore. I have seen antis say 600 children being tortured is the same as a house fire.
Antis are anti-survivor more than they are anti-fiction
"It's not that antis think icky art is the same as CSEM, it's that they think CSEM is as trivial as a drawing"
God, that really does just sum up the issue right there, doesn't it?
so... I talked to my wife about The Thing. apparently, it's not the first conversation we've had about it, and I feel simultaneously deeply embarrassed and validated. so I'm going to say what The Thing is, because it was said out loud and is not even new news, I guess.
csa, incest, csem tw. it's a nearly incoherent ramble from here.
for those few who know our individual parts and have been following their sideblogs for a long time, you already know that some of them have been haunted for years by the joint effort sexual abuse by my father and uncle, as well as what may have been done with any of the photos or videos taken by them. we've been spiraling about it on and off since 2022, when those parts and memories began to surface.
there's never been any real internal confirmation about whether or not there was money involved. our memories are kept locked up very, very tightly, and parts who may be able to shed some light are hidden very well. it's been an endless carousel of "it's the only thing that makes sense" and denial that the joint abuse took place at all, let alone that it involved money.
well... we got some of that confirmation. there's no visual memory, but a snippet of conversation between two unknown parts was caught the other day, where one of them flat out said that "they stole your childhood and sold it for a quick buck". it's been a mess in here since. that was never meant to be heard. we were not supposed to know.
but that sense of rightness? it won't go away. it's like this was the last piece that makes the puzzle make sense. we're scared. we're confused. we don't know these parts swirling in and out and around us. one of the little ones we've known for years confessed that she's half-known for a long time, but wasn't aware of WHAT she knew..until now.
at this point... it's just a matter of time, I think. this very particular rightness and fit is familiar: it comes before the memories. it happened in 2020. it happened in early 2022. then it happened again in late 2022. these things don't fucking go away. I don't want the memories. I don't want to have to call it familial trafficking, but what else can I call it? it wasn't full scale organized abuse, I was the sole victim and my father and uncle were the sole perpetrators. but they made money by exploiting me. my father likely rented me out to him. they planned it and hid their tracks.
I don't know what to do now. I don’t know where to go from here. I think I was trafficked, but there's no way to ever prove it and I refuse to contact either of them. they would lie to my face, even if I did confront them. I do not want to remember enough to be certain. I'm barely handling college, and this is really, really not the time to attempt to explore or process.
I needed to write it and say it,though. I need someone to know. I said it, wrote it, and it still feels too real.
What does “Online CSA survivor” mean? You don’t have to share details or something, I just don’t understand why Online is there.
I’m always happy to educate, thank you for asking. “Online CSA” also known as “No Contact CSA” refers to types of child sexual abuse that can occur online. For the sake of this post, child will include anyone under the age of 18 but I will also be alluding to COCSA ( child on child sexual abuse ) in some of these examples. Some examples can include:
•Pornography being sent directly to a child over the internet
•A child being coerced into with sexual roleplay with an older teen or adult
•A child being coerced into self producing CSEM ( child sexual exploitation material ) in order to “win points” on a site like Omegle through “games”
•A child being coerced into self producing CSEM or fetish content in order to gain access to certain online forums, gain attention from YouTubers, or gain approval from a groomer
•Adults or older teens masturbating on calls where children are present
I will not go into the details of the abuse I experienced online, but it did include the majority of the above and was perpetuated and upheld by a variety of different men and women from the ages I was 7-17. I believe that the culture surrounding pornography and the sexualisation of minors and youth impacts more men than women as in creating perpetrators, but that recognizing that female perpetrators do exist as well is important.
A lot of girls especially undergo this sort of victimization in the age of the internet. Naming it and talking helps put a stop to it and helps researchers look into the consequences as well as makes more people aware. Here is a study of some of the consequences for further reading. Heads up, the paper uses the acronym OSA for Online Sexual Abuse, in this context it does not mean Opposite Sex Attraction.
There has been a rapid increase in prevalence rates of online sexual abuse (OSA). Existing research has highlighted the negative impact OSA
Another thing that drives me insane about the Australia case, other than how asinine the law in general is (and it's asinine in every country similar legislation exists, the UK and Canada also criminalize certain forms of fiction under CSEM laws) that many people don't know about is that there are multiple forms of cryptography where an image can be stored in another, innocuous image, or links hidden in text, and these are extremely common ways people can share and obtain CSEM material. This means that every single time, say, a piece of loli art on Twitter is reported, the agency investigating has to treat it as though it were one of those, and put it through extremely complex, resource hungry, and slow decryption algorithms, only for, obviously, nothing to come of it. I don't remember which agency said it, I think the EU equivalent of NCMEC, but they just a couple of years ago had to BEG people to stop reporting anime and fanfiction because it was taking real resources away from the protection of REAL children. They even had to say that it doesn't matter if the content by itself is illegal in the jurisdiction the poster was in, to stop using THEIR report tip line because their focus was, rightfully, REAL children. People think they're doing something by getting authors arrested (it was one of that author's advanced readers that reported her) but don't listen when the actual experts are telling them, point blank, that the persecution of fiction and drawings is directly making it harder to help real victims.
i can't find any sources for this, so if anyone knows where to verify this information please lmk!
