Btw a hugely important aspect of shubbles story was the emphasis that domestic violence and abuse doesn't have a clear cut picture. Abuse can look like many things. Violence is not just hitting. Safe words are not meant to be a means of abusing someone and then a punishment when they utilize it. Violence looks like many things and all are abuse.
I also think it's important to emphasize her points when she said she thought it couldn't happen to her again after previous situations. I've felt similarly that i know better that i could never be abused again. But it's not easy. Don't ever blame yourself. Abusers are going to abuse people and it is not your fault it happens again. It's not your fault that it happens again! Abusers infiltrate every aspect of your life they hijack your support network (or cut you off from it), they make you brush off what they're doing even when other people witness it. Abusers above all else want to abuse you and they'll do anything to keep doing that. It's not your fault. You are not expected to come out of abuse a master observer and master shield of yourself.
This is what resonated with me as a victim and I thank shubble for speaking up about her experiences to warn others.