But why do they—and many of us—allow this to happen? Why do humans assume the very characteristics and behaviors that hurt them when they were at their most vulnerable? It seems illogical at first glance, but our psyches have their reasons: we want to absolve our parents, and other attachment figures, of the choices they made that hurt us; we want to normalize and minimize the pain we experienced in order to absolve them; most earnestly, we want to feel close to them, we want to feel loved by them, we want to feel worthy of them, we want to be accepted and positively regarded. So, we become what we despised and resented, and we tell ourselves this is what life is, this is what I deserve, this is what people do, this is the best I can be? By Janine Joly-Demars If you are repeating old patterns that you have been trying to break, maybe the problem is your invisible loyalties! Find out more in tomorrow’s zoom webinar at 1:00 with me. Contact me for more information at [email protected]. #yourfamilysystem#walkadeliberatepath #genogram #genograms #daretosucceed https://www.instagram.com/drrbdilley/p/BvcdYsHgRpU/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1do05cg41for3