the aspects of dating Detective Loki that no one wants to talk about:
headcanons
- David is a lone wolf. He only ever had himself with nobody looking out for him especially as a kid. With a dark past like his, trusting people wasn’t one of his core strengths. Of course he had colleagues he trusted on the job but the kind of deep, loving, unconditional trust was something he really struggled with. It would be nearly impossible to get that man to open up and let his guard down. It would take a lot of patience and reassurance.
- This man is workkk oriented asf. Once he gets his brain focused on work there’s no getting him back. This becomes especially hard whenever there’s a tough case he needs to solve… like.. you’re not seeing this guy for days hun. You’re lucky if he comes home to sleep for 2-4 hours at all. On top of that, being a detective means always having to be ready for a call. This man might have to come into work during date nights, birthdays, anything. Of course he gets time off as well but he finds it hard to switch off that beautiful brain of his.
- as a result of his terrible work-life balance, he is riddled with guilt when it comes to his relationships. Hence why he never really planned on having one at this point in his life. Having to watch you stay up late every night waiting for him to come home, the amount of times he’s stood you up because of work, constantly thinking about a case instead of giving you his undivided attention… it was killing him. He knew you deserved better and even though you reassured him all the time it didn’t do much.
- Loki would probably come home with injuries every now and then. It wasn’t too common of an occurrence but it did happen. His back and arms definitely carried some battle scars and his body was one rigid block of tense muscle. This made you worry some days. You didn’t want to see him hurt.
- the things this man has seen have definitely affected him in one way or another. There are nights where he struggles to sleep, days where he struggles with physical touch and moments of deep sorrow or anger. He does well trying to keep whatever happens at work seperate from his personal life… but he is only human after all. Being exposed to horrible things like that definitely takes a toll on someone.
- Another thing that might cause friction within the relationship is his tendency to be overprotective. Even though it’s usually something you find incredibly sweet and something you appreciate because it’s a display of how much care he has for you .. there have been times where it becomes too much. Working in law enforcement this man knows the statistics, he has seen what happens to people - women especially- with his own eyes. Nothing scares him more than any of those things happening to you. So sometimes he becomes overbearing, not wanting you to go certain places, being worried about you leaving the house when it’s dark. He would never forbid you from doing anything but he’ll try to talk you out of it.
- one word STRESS. As I mentioned earlier, David is constantly thinking about work. This causes him to be high strung and on edge on his worst days. You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells sometimes but it’s mostly due to you not wanting to cause him more stress rather than him actually taking it out on you. This also takes a toll on his libido a lottt of the time.
- detective Loki’s brain works through logic. That’s what makes him the perfect detective after all. It does, however, hinder him at being emotionally attentive especially during arguments. There are times when facts blindside him from how things might emotionally affect you. He forgets that feelings can be hurt even if it wasn’t caused on purpose or by his wrongdoings. When he’s hurt he might be prone to shutting down his emotions completely, making you unaware of how he actually feels.
- and lastly, his perfectionism. Dave is harder on himself than anyone should ever be. He strives for that flawless record at work and for being the perfect partner at home. Unfortunately, that causes him to put a lot of pressure on himself even when it comes to being with you. He feels like he needs to earn his position in your life constantly which makes the guilt part worse. When things go wrong he beats himself up for it….
my guy just needs someone to shut his brain up and pepper him with kisses pls🤧🤧