What do I give a f*ck about?
“Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
Personally, I believe that, when you give a fuck about everything, you’re not going to be happy. I have met so many people in my life where the most minor things were the biggest deals. I’ve seen people throw an entire cup of coca-cola at a waitress because it wasn’t diet. I have been cursed out over an appointment time not being available. I have watched people break up because the other person gained five pounds.
It’s for the same reason you see somebody yelling because someone took their parking spot. They give a fuck about so much that, when something goes wrong, its a big deal to them. It’s exhausting to care about that much to the degree it takes to actually get angry. When everything matters, what matters most?
I think that applies to possessions as well. I bought into the whole college degree, big house, new car, brand name...When I had the money for it, it felt great. I felt important; like I was somehow living the part like all my coworkers. This was a fantastic feeling for a girl who came from the trailer park. When the money started drying up, I had to stop and rethink what actually mattered to me.
What was worth spending money on?
Did my weekly manicure matter as much as my monthly designer bag? Did the designer bag matter as much as my fancy lunch breaks? Did my fancy lunches mean as much as having groceries in my house?
I’m in that process now; figuring out what matters and how much it matters. My financial independence depends on it.